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writes: Should you discuss the type of relationship you are after at the beginning of a relationship to avoid misunderstanding? You see, I am looking to settle down but I know that if I mentioned that at the beginning of a budding relationship most guys would understandably run a mile. One of my male friends who I am seriously interested in has said that friends of his who are 6 months older than him are getting married and he feels that is too young to be getting married (22 years). However, I want a committed relationship with a view to marriage. If this guy does want me, I don't want to be a casual fling. How can you tell if a guy is serious about you? Reply to this Question
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reader, chachacha  +, writes (18 April 2006):
A good way to indicate that you are interested in a long term relationship, rather than a fling, is to avoid having sex with the potential partner for at least a month. A man who will go out with you and not sleep with you immediately will be interested in a long term relationship too, and thus as you get to know him, and trust him, in due course you can share your thoughts and dreams about a future.
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reader, shania +, writes (17 April 2006):
 Before you jump the gun,you have to get to know a fella 1st before you even think of marriage and kids,and even then there isnt any guarantees that he will be the one....you are still very young and i wonder why you want to get married so quickly? I can understand why you dont want to be a casual fling but if straight away into a relationship you start meantioning committment,then yes it will put a bloke off.Remember it takes time to get to know someone,i think you should enjoy the relationship, rather then analysing it too much.You will know when a guy is serious about you...in the way he is treating you,if he says to you that he loves you...that he starts talking about the future with you involved then your on a winning streak...but hey! take your time....remember the old saying?...Marry in haste...repent at leisure.
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