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writes:There's this girl I really like.I've been hanging out with her for the past month and a half: I got her number, she started texting me, we've gone to the movies and to a bar afterwards and we really connected. Then, last saturday she came to my house to watch a movie and I managed to kiss her and we spent a while hugging and kissing on the couch, but nothing more.Thing is, when I asked if she liked me she kept saying "no", but she was very nervous too.Last time I saw her (yesterday), she acted as if nothing had happened and it was a bit awkward, but we arranged to go to the cinema on friday night.I'm really unsure of what is it that she wants.So far1) she knows that I really like her2) we've kissed3) she texts me quite often4) she has agreed on meeting me alone 4 times5) she has agreed to go with me on what would be socially considered a date (not explicitly called a "date" though) twiceIt looks like she wants to be just friends, but in all honesty, my female friends don't act like that around me. So guys, can you tell what is it that she wants from what I wrote?Should I try kissing her again next time I see her? Holding her hand at the movies? Should I tell to her that I don't want a friendship, and that I really like her -again-?I feel like I'm going nuts here.
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (23 May 2013):
Listen what Tranced says below. She wants a man, act like it. No woman wants a dude who asks her "Do you like me?" Woman want to be with a man who EXPECT women to like them.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Calm down. Youre being a wuss. Dont ask her if she likes u who cares its u who should like u!! Next when u ask all these validating am I cool questions when get turned off cos its not manly as u r seeking their approval. She digs u man now tighten ur knot a bit man up n proceed with things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): I think you are very brave and good person. Kissing her and not giving up is extremely nice of you because maybe this girl is just shy, maybe she didn't have anything like that before, maybe she is confused because of some other variables in her life. Either way, if you really care about her, don't give up on that idea, but also, don't give up on your dignity. Try the formula from advice before mine and find out where are you exactly.I have a friend of 5 years and I kinda like him ever since we first met. He is an amazing guy and I would love to be more than just friends, but even though we are close, and there is some tension, he never actually said he likes me or he never tried to kiss me on the lips (cheek kisses, hugs etc are common but nothing sexual except really we-are-just-friends-questionable dancing in the club). I'm reaaaaly shy and Virgo as well so it's hard for me to go out with my emotions first. It would be amazing that my friend man up and do something because most of our common friends think that he likes me. But since he is not doing anything specific, I think I'm friendzoned. :(I would appreciate your honesty if I was that girl. Being honest and opened to others make you beautiful and strong person. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): Hello,I will tell you something I tried.Tell her "Look, I really like you. But... I do not want to be friends with you. Either we are together or not. Your choice. Just listen to your emotions and realize what you want. I cannot be your friend because I feel things about you more than I feel for a friend"And just let her decide. I know it is hard for you to actually do this but the uncertainty will eventually lead you to depression. And if you become friends with her and you have feelings for her, then whenever she talks to someone else you will hurt.Take it from personal experience, this will shock her and she will sit down and decide what she really wants. If she has the slightest feeling for you (and I mean not that of a friendship but something more) she will realize it and she will tell you or show.I hope I've helped you. Thank you for posting your question here and dont hesitate to write us back with any updates.Thank you
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