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writes:I'm about to be 19 in a couple days and I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We have frequent amount of arguments every other day. Our most recent one was about me getting a tattoo of my youngest sisters' name for my birthday. He doesn't agree with me getting one. He told me countless of times that if i get it we won't be together anymore. I love him so i don't know what to do. Couple of days ago we argued about it again and he pulled my hair while yelling at me saying that I'm not going to get it while i repeat to him that i am. After wards he pushed me against the counter top in the kitchen, at first with my back lying on top of it (so basically my body is bent backwards), and continued to say YOU ARE NOT GETTING IT THAT"S IT! When we play fight he hits hard as in intending to hurt me (i think). I've ended up with black and blues. Does it really count as physical abuse? He also constantly puts me down (ex: calling me a failure, tooo skinny, stupid,dumb..etc.) Emotional abuse? I don't know what to do about him nor the tattoo. Little advice please! .Thank you
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reader, phantomm  +, writes (29 April 2009):
Last time i checked America was a free country, where everyone had a free will to make their own decisions. This guy is a control freak and eventhough the "abuse" is mild it will escelate in to harder abuse and by then you will be too afraid to leave.
DUMP THIS INADEQUATE LOSER. You would be better off alone and happy than miserablely attached to him.
Remember you have free will to what you want once it doesnt hurt anyone, plus, your very young to tie yourself to someone. Live your life how you see it, travel and see the world. We are around for a good time not a long time, life is short make the most of it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for the great advice. I'm sure you will be happy to know that I'm getting out of this relationship. i stood so long because i love him but obviously he's wrong for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): The way you described your boyfiend sounds exactly like my ex. He wuld insult me, accuse me of things that i didnt do like cheating. He was physical just like ur bf & i was raised to know that its not acceptable behaviour so i got away from him. The girl that he got with after me, he put her in hospital. Dont stay with him! Please leave him immediately.
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reader, vwomen +, writes (28 April 2009):
 Straight to the point you don't deserve this kind of treatment. God created you. He said he didn't make no juke, and that means you dear.you would have been a punching bag if that's what he wanted you to be, but your a lovely human being and deserve to be treated as such. Get out and don't look back.they say the will change, but they never change.i hope this helps you!!!!!!!!!!!! If you remain in the abusive relationship it could become a tragedy. Break the cycle before it's to late. (Mod Note: DO NOT use all capitals in your comments. There's a non-scientific study that ALL CAPITALS can blind some readers temporarily.)
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