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writes:I am a successful business woman earning a very good living, am well-respected and have plenty of friends and good family. I live with a man that is now unemployed (for the second time in 1 1/2 years) due to the volatile automotive industry at this time. He begrudges my successes, but loves me very much at the same time...he has been abusive twice, now...I am divorced with a 13 year old and don't want him to go through an ugly breakup again....am I making excuses for my man and allowing myself to be abused again, like I was with my first husband?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): Yes it will escalate for sure. My ex b.f. went from throwing a remote control at my head (I was shocked) to near the end of the "relationship" grabbing my hand & snapping my middle finger in half at a bar in front of a lot of people. Then he ran out..nothing happened to him. Tried to call the cops later & he took my cell phone & threw it, smashing it. After I left him I had to meet up with him in a public restaurant parking lot to exchange our stuff, and I was pregnant with my new b.f.'s baby. Well, the ex tried pulling me into the car and when I ran off, he tried running me over. Nothing happened to him. I say the next time he abuses you, call the cops. And leave.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (31 December 2007):
 Sounds like he has an issue with abuse. That needs to be dealt with first.
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reader, 40 and secure +, writes (31 December 2007):
40 and secure is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks to all three of you for even responding and asking for clarification...I've never been on one of these blogs before and I feel I have benefited. Thank you all...
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reader, 40 and secure +, writes (30 December 2007):
40 and secure is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe has grabbed my arms and thrown me up on the kitchen counter, hard enough to leave bruises in the imprint of five fingers on both arms...He has thrown a couple of items at me, the remote control and a spoon. I'm ok, I'm just concerned it will escalate.
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reader, eddie +, writes (30 December 2007):
Yes, define abuse. It's a word that gets thrown around too easily, especially toward men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2007): I agree with baby duck up there define abusive
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