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writes: My boyfriend and i recently broke up. We dated seriously for a year and a half. when i went over to get my stuff from his house we ended up having "goodbye sex". This led to the decision that we should keep in contact with eachother whenever we wanted to have sex..until one of us sleeps w/another person or starts a diff. relationship. ive never had casual sex like this before. Would i be a horrible person to follow through with these plans?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): there are 4 possible outcomes from this
1. you both never move on - so you settle
2. one of you gets someone new , the other gets crushed
3. one of you gets someone new, and the other doesn't care.
4. You both get someone new at the same time
Probably 3 and 4 are acceptable outcomes to you, but obviously 4 is highly unlikely, and 3 might be "wishfull" thinking
So that leaves 1 or 2 and both are not good outcomes.
But like the other poster said, maybe you are trying to get back together, in which case you should be honest about it.
I was in this type of relationship and she moved on and I was crushed, but I never thought I would be - so it's hard to predict how you would react.
Also, if you are the one that moves on, you will probably feel guilty and it could ruin your new relationship.
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reader, Ivanna22 +, writes (27 September 2006):
 yes, because this is saying that he just wants you for sex.
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reader, Toria +, writes (26 September 2006):
 I really don't think you should try and make a casual relationship out of a serious relationship that went wrong, although you will both agree to be casual all your old feelings will get involved and you will find it hard to cut off what you use to have and try and be casual.
I think this is just a way of people not totally letting go of someone until they find someone else basically becoming a safety net.
Good luck :o)
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reader, camille  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 It's a terrible idea. Why did you break up? Who broke up with who? Do you still love him? (assuming you did).
You wouldn't be a horrible person but as some point down the line, you'll be a miserable one. What will you do when he announces a new girlfriend? Sorry for all the questions but I don't think you've thought this through at all.
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reader, Donnah +, writes (26 September 2006):
 I have to agree with Lo. Don't do it!
It's convenient, etc....but you'll also miss out on meeting someone else. Prep yourself for someone else and go through the healing process of this separation. You need some time alone before you could move on. Otherwise it's rebound after rebound and infinity!
Keep it how it is....GOODBYE!
Ciao!
Donnah
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reader, Lostandalone  +, writes (26 September 2006):
 You wouldn't be horrible just horribly mislead. This situation will lead to one of you having deep feelings and when the other person decides to leave the arrangement and date someone else the other will be crushed. This spells disaster. DON'T DO IT!!!
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