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writes: I dont know what to do, Im unhappy in my job, actively seeking a career that will satisfy me more even though it much less pay. Having problems with my boyfriend, a few little ones that feel worse to me because Im unhappy in other areas of my life, and I feel Iv grown out of my living situation, Im living with my closest friends but feel its time to move on but dont want too hurt their feelings, might end up somewhere worse and am worried I just feel like this because Im generally unhappy at the moment. I had a bad patch like this when I left a job last year after a change in management turned mt dream job into a nightmare and I dont want my bf to call over to hear my complaining every day.Feel very lost and really dont know what to do anymore, afraid to change anything with my botfriend and friends in case its all in my head because I just feel bad.
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reader, Ainley +, writes (15 May 2006):
 you poor thing! well all i can say is that you have to do what is right for you they may be hurt but its not as your moving out of the country. everyone has times when things get too comfortable or repeated, you could try taking up a new hobbie? as for you and your boyfriend go out and do something fun together, let your hair down because you only live once so make it worth it!
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (15 May 2006):
 I think it is time for you to really decide what truly makes you happy.
Make a list of all the things you used to like in your previous dream job and see how many of those you are currently doing. Then start to think about a job where you can encompass all or most of the things that were in your previous dream job.
If you don't currently have the right skills for this fantastic new job or you don't have the correct qualifications, think about going to evening classes in a college course or something and think about retraining. It isn't as scary as you think as I did it some years ago as all my computer skills were so out of date and after my 8 or 12 week course I was able to land a job where I had the necessary knowledge and then got extra training on computer packages from my new employer and I loved my new job at the time.
I wouldn't rush into everything right now, either think about the job first and tolerate the living situation so that when you get a better job and more money you can move into a place which is better for you and possibly more expensive but when you have more money you could do this
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Change your living situation now but continue in your job until you are fully trained in something new and then make the career move when you feel confident enough.
If you feel happy in a living situation and happy in a job your whole life starts to look completely differently but even if one element is not right then everything else can feel enormous but right now it seems as though you are saying that you have about 2 or 3 areas which are making you miserable.
My advice to you is to take one thing at a time and concentrate on it fully.
Don't rush yourself and start to do even the little things that make you happy. Now whether that is going out for the evening with friends or having a girlie night in without the boyfriend and watching a slushy film then do it. Or just having a full body massage that doesn't cost the earth just do some nice things for you and you will be amazed how good you will feel, believe me. I have been through post natal depression and then depression and I have come out the other side so nothing is beyond your reach if you want to try to go for it.
Just relax and even sit and read a book or just chill. Have a glass or wine or whatever makes you feel happy OK.
Keep me posted eh!! The world is your oyster and we get one chance of enjoying our lives so no point in being miserable eh!
BFN
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reader, Violet_Angel +, writes (15 May 2006):
What a Great time for you this should be!!! Take a step-back, look at you from the outside. You are at a perfect opportunity to change whatever you want to change!! Again, take a step back, re-evaluate what is happening right now in an optimistic perspective. It helps when you write it down, 2-columns, 1-pro's, 1-con's!!!!
Keep In Touch...btw...that new job, does it offer a greater future potential, along with a good-vibe?
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