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*hinachik
writes:I'm really not sure what to think about my relationship with my boyfriend of 5 months. I don't know him well and its difficult to get him to open up. We enjoy our time together and in touch most days, but things always seem to crop up and I dont see him for a few weeks. I guess I'm having doubts, and don't really know what to think- when I do see him we seem to go over the same general things and I don't feel like we are moving on at all.I don't really know how to proceed and am disappointed with myself for not being able to ask the right questions or bring up issues because I want to be with him and not rock the boat. Its been so hard to get to this stage with a guy and have never had a successful relationship of any significance- I feel like I have a lot to learn about relationships, even my family I struggle with. It seems that I have problems letting people in and always keep things on a superficial level to be comfortable. I think I need to change, but dont know how. I'm 38 and still don't know how to relax and be comfortable with anyone. Please give me advice before I'm doomed to live a life alone? Reply to this Question
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reader, johannabanana  +, writes (20 August 2010):
 Sometimes you just need to rock the boat a little. Playing life on the safe side makes living life dull and not a lot of fun and your guy can since that. You need to find constructive and unique things for you both to do together. When people feel happy around you they are likely to open up. It sounds like things are getting dull between you both. Stop going through the motions and do something drastic, last minute, and well fun!!
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