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writes:Long story short, I have a very special woman in my life. We get along great, we're the best of friends and we may be the closest person in each other's lives though we don't see each other often as it's a LDR. Before I met her, she had gotten out of a messy divorce. She tried dating, but has since chose to take a step back from the dating game (she has two young kids and a career which occupies most of her time). While we are close friends, I've often hinted and twice told her clearly that I was in love with her. By her own admission, she's not good with emotional stuff. When I've professed my feelings for her (directly or indirectly) she normally just smiles and hugs me. Except for one time, over a year ago, when she said she didn't want me to get hurt (explaining in all relationships, someone will invariably get hurt one way or another). We are going out for Valentine's. Maybe not a date, but two people spending the day together. I bought her a beautiful necklace and when I give it to her I'm going to tell her how much I love her. So my question: would it make for an uncomfortable situation if I added "I love you.... and hope one day you'll feel the same about me." Would it be ok to say that or am I wrongly putting her on the spot?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (27 January 2010):
You've already put her in the spot and she's turned you down.
If she's daft enough to keep leading you on and agreeing to see you on Valentines then she can hardly be freaked out by you telling her once again that you want to be more than friends.
If she hugs you and changes the subject AGAIN then I think you need to stop seeing her and find someone who actually wants to be with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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