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writes:i have been sexually abused by my friends father, and i found out that he did it to many other young girls, should i tell somebody about this as he is already going to court over the other abuses, my friend wont see his father and i feel really tight on him, i cant stop thinking about what happend to me i thought i could trust him, how can i get through this, please help....x thanx Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): You have to be practical about this:
If he had sex with you, you could be pregnant; thus you MUST get a test as soon as poss. before you do anything else, well - you can go to the police, tell everyone who will listen...the gossips, everyone!!!! Well, not everyone... I find people believe the person who got there first more then the person who tries later.
I really feel for you and you have been very brave.
try not to think about it, but I'd recomend finding out who else has been abused so you all go to court together so there'smorer of a chance the barstard will get looked up.
Good luck with the futer,
Jel
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reader, Dannii-oxo +, writes (12 March 2008):
I have seen this happen so many times before. If you do not tell anyone, you will feel guilty for a long time. If you do not tell anybody and he does not get sent to prison then he could do it to many other young girls.
It may feel scary to let it out but you will feel alot better once it is out in the open.
I Hope you do tell people what has happened even if it is your mother. She can do what is right. If she does not do what you consider 'right' then please tell somebody different.
I hope this helps you in your problems.
Danni
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Talking to someone about what you've experienced will help you a little, like a professional, I mean. You could talk to the police and they would let you know about counciling, but if he's already going to court, your information might not be needed.
I can't begin to immagine what you went through, but I've been victim of armed robbery at work and have had troubles in the past. My strength has always come from my friends, but particularly from talking to God in my prayers, thinking of Jesus, his suffering and his love for the world.
Jesus forgave those who killed him whilest still nailed to the cross, so I believe in forgiving those who cause us pain and praying that they may find God also.
Life goes on and holding on to grief will only restrain you from true happyness!
You probably need closure to get over the grief, and it will come from counciling and seeing this man locked up.
If that doesn't work, pray, pray, pray!
I wish you all the best!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): I'm sorry to hear that you've been thro such an ordeal.
Yes you should tell someone about this. The more people that report what he has done will make sure that he gets what he deserves and will not do it to any other young girls and get away with it. You have to stand up and be strong with these people and show them you are not to be pushed around and sileneced any more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): Seek counseling for abuse victims, they can help you deal with this and decide for yourselve on how you want to handle it.
I think you should report him, these people are dangerous and the more people come forward with what he has done, the more likely he is to get his proper punishement so he can be stopped from doing it to others.
Remember this, if he walks, he will do it again, you didn't cause it, but you can stop it.
But enough pressure, you really should seek proffesional guidance. Police, religious leader you trust, school counseler, doctor, adult relative you really trust, social worker.
If nothing else dial a samaritins helpline, they at least can give you info on what is available to you in your country.
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reader, Pinky XxX +, writes (12 March 2008):
 I think the best person to get advice on wether you should tell someone or not is your friend if she is ok with you telling then do so, if she doesn't want you to tell then just try and get on with life as normal if he does anything else then tell her your sorry but you need to say something.
I hope this helps. Good Luck X
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reader, runawayitscory1  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 woww.. ok so did he rape you? if he did babe you should definately tell someone.. this is the kind of guy we dont want running around free.. you kno? he needs to be locked up before this happens again.. its an unsafe situation.. and someone needs to know before is gets seriouss
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