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writes:what do you think of a 36yo woman sleeping in the same bed with her uncle? yes she lied to me, she said she's living with her uncle in separate bedroom, but when i went to their apartment it was just a studio and they're sleeping together in one queen size bed. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2008): Ok, this is VERY unsual!! I think something sexual has probably already happened between your girlfriend and her uncle! I have a niece and if she was sleeping in the same bed with me, I would be tempted. I think maybe some night you should stay over there too, and maybe sleep on the sofa or in a sleeping bag or temporary mattress so you can find out if something is happening between them. You also need to have a heart-to-heart talk with her and ask if her if anything sexual has EVER happened between them. Tell her that no matter what her answer is, you will understand and support her, because you love her. Don't be accusatory in your questions, cuz if you are, that will only make her defensive about it and she won't give you an honest answer.
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reader, bluebunny +, writes (12 May 2008):
bluebunny is verified as being by the original poster of the question good points! thank you very much.
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reader, rcn +, writes (12 May 2008):
 It sounds like she has issues past your realization. Some people have difficulties, that although we wish them the best and hope we can help, their issues are too deep. If she's taking pills. How much of her income has to go to supporting that habbit? You have people who do drugs who have addicted personalities, and you have those you self medicate or use them as a method to cope with issues in life they don't wish to face.
Some who do this and live below their means with someone else, they have other issues, which may cause more dependent behaviors. People who really aren't mentally ready to live life on their own and take adult responsabilities.
I'd say she needs to talk to someone and bring these issues to surface. The only way to begin healing is to confront the cause.
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reader, Twirly  +, writes (12 May 2008):
 It's definitely very odd.
It would be odd even if they weren't related, especially if it's not due to lack of finances.
It reminds me of that episode of Friends where Rachel's date is unusually close to his sister and she doesn't know what to think about it!
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reader, bluebunny +, writes (12 May 2008):
bluebunny is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes, the woman i mentioned was my gf. her uncle is like 10yrs older than her. my gf ex bf was more than 10yrs older than her & married with 2 kids. i saw my gf once changing clothes (only in underwear) infront of her uncle.
my gf is making 80k /yr there's no reason she cannot afford to rent her own place. prior to dating her, she was already taking pills regularly.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (11 May 2008):
 It's odd....plain and simple. It would seem to me there must be another choice. I find it strange.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): Well, sharing a bed does not equate to sex, so don't jump to conclusions. She might have lied to you because it's embarrassing due to society's perceptions, or maybe they're in a bad financial situation and she finds that embarrassing too. There could be many reasons.
Is this woman your girlfriend? If so, I can understand your concern, and her lying would only make for more concern. But really what you should do is look for other signs. Does the uncle look at his niece in a sexual way? Does their behavior look like normal family interactions, or something else? Pay attention to the situation, and ask this woman about it. Hopefully she'll be honest with you.
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reader, rcn +, writes (11 May 2008):
She probably lied to you because of the society perceptioons around it. People have this misbelief that if two people are in the same bed, they must be having sexual relations. Not true.
They are both adults. People can sleep in a single bed with their only intentions to seek a good night sleep, without inappropriate touching.
This may seem immorral to the person who's viewing, without knowing the intentions of those in the bed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): Unless they are part of your familiy or either of them is having a relationship with YOU, then you mind your own business.
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