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writes:if your a 3 year relationship and he asks for break should i give him space and how will i know were going to get back together and is it good to be friends?
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reader, citic101  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 He wants out but is using the "break" as the reason !
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (6 July 2009):
 In my experience, i've noticed that most times when one of the partners say they want a break, they just either want to be with someone else or want to be single while keeping you on the sidelines.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (6 July 2009):
You have to ask why he wants a break and what does he want to do with it.
There is a possibility that he doesn't want to be with you any more and that he thinks by having a break it will hurt you less when it comes to breaking up.
The other thing is that he doesn't realise that his love has faded for you and he doesn't want to split up with you because he's so used to having you around. (If you are his first long time love then this is especially true.) So he wants to go off with some other girls to "get that out of his system" and then come back to you.
That is what I thought might work with my first long term guy who I thought at the time I was always going to love. It didn't work. As soon as I got my break I realised I just wanted to be single.
I think you need to consider talking to him about this and telling him he either wants you or not and a "break" is just an excuse to drag out the break up because he doesn't know what he wants.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 July 2009): There is no way of knowing if you will get back together, but if a side wants some space I think it may be a reasonable request. They may have doubts or just feel restricted or stressed from the relationship...I dont know but it cou;d be any reason why they want space. But in those hard times of space, you will really find out if he loves you or not, and if you love him/her as well.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (6 July 2009):
Three years is a long time- ecspecially at your age. Did he say why he wants a break? Or what he's planning on doing with the break? Sometimes people say "we should take a break" but it really just means "i dont want to be with you anymore, but i dont want to hurt you either" its hard to tell- maybe if you give a little more information then we might be able to help a little more.
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