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anonymous
writes:Hey everyone, I'm a 22 year old male, about to graduate university and have never had a girlfriend.I normally don't want to do things if I don't think they'll last, but each time I find a girl that I do want to go out with, I just can't seem to get the nerve to say anything. The closest I got was with someone I met working in another province (summer job). We had talked and become good friends at work and after I had left to go back to school I asked her (through email) what she would have said if I did ask her out. She said she doesn't know, so I left it at that. Before I actually sent the message I went through some time where it would just hurt each time I think about her.There is someone right now who I just met and would like to get to know better but I really need help on how to get things started. Otherwise, I know it will just end up hurting too much again, and I really don't want to go through that again,Thanks for any help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 July 2009): You're thinking too much and waiting too long. I know, it might sound strange but that's the problem. You sound to me like you're being over analytical, your mind has already played out all the things that could happen before you've even got a chance to ask a girl out.
Couple that with our natural fear of rejection and your mind will wrap you up in a ball of nerves.
Now you've met a girl you like and already your mind is going over what might happen, it's already clicking into gear. You're getting hurt by these things because your letting yourself fall for someone without giving them the chance to do the same.
Basically you're waiting too long, that's all, you meet a girl you like, talk to her, if you get along, well then just ask her out on a date. It really is that easy. There will always be a risk of rejection/getting hurt, but your getting hurt anyway right? Might aswell take the chance and take it soon. If you're rejected then it's better done soomer than later, so you can both nip any interest in the bud and move on to the next girl you like.
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