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writes:Hey, well this is a stupid question really and most of you will think im mad, but im really upset about it. The thing is, my horse has been sold, and hes going in 2 weeks. I know its crazy but I really love he and we have been together for 5 years now and we have such a strong bond and thats about to be broken. Hes not just a horse hes like a friend! And he follows me about like a dog and well its hard to decribe but he just gets whats going on and I cant believe hes going and I cant describe the jealousy I feel when I think of someone else owning him and riding him because not only is he a friend me and him have been competing for years now- we are a team and ive got to say hes done me proud. I know its good hes not dying or anything but im gonna miss him so so much, I took him out on our favorite ride today and I was in floods of tears by the time I got home. All those times ive fallen out with a friend, or broken up with a guy just wernt so bad cos I had a friend waiting for me back home; like I said im crazy for thinking hes my best friend but hes always been there and I cant believe hes going.The reason hes being sold is because ive simply outgrown him- hes only 13.2- im not particularly big but my legs are getting long and in year or so it would just begin to look stupid, so he has to go. I cant get another horse either due to the recession, at least not for a while, so I will have no riding and shows all summer, which ive had since I was 2. Thats nobodys fault of course its just timing and I have a job to save up incase we can ever get a horse again... but im not even sure if that can help... I just dont know what ill do without him because I love him so much, and what if he misses me? I wont know if hes ok. This is the closest bond ive had with a horse and now im at a loss what to do. Has anyone been through this or can give me some advice how to get through it? Does it stop hurting?Thanks x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2009): Your question is not stupid at all. The sadness and pain you are feeling is real, and it deserves to be acknowledged. I'm glad you were able to let some of your feelings out here, that in itself can be a relief.
I absolutely love animals. They are so much simpler than people, aren't they? They don't judge you, don't care what you look like...and as you have found, you can form strong bonds with them.
I recently had to take my hamster to the vet. He was very sick, and he had to go to sleep...I was really upset for a while too. I wondered if he was scared at the end, did he want me there, was he okay?...So believe me, you are not the only person to feel sadness over a pet. I know the situation with you is different, but the feelings are the same, and real.
You and this horse have spent some great times together, and you've probably learned from each other and helped each other a lot. But perhaps it is now time for you both to move on. Maybe this horse is now going to bring the same happiness and love to someone else as he did to you.
This might feel painful at first, but with time, it will become easier. And he might miss you a while at first, but animals are good at adjusting, so he will settle in his new home.
Instead of feeling sad, why not try and feel happy by thinking of all the good times you and this horse shared? You probably have lots of special memories. And I think damluvaam made a brilliant point when he said that somewhere, there is another horse waiting to come into your life, waiting for your love. Maybe you could try and think that your horse has had a lot of love from you, and is now leaving so another horse can have some of your attention.
I do think this will become less painful with time, and hopefully you will be able to focus on all of your positive memories. Take care. x
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