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*aintedBlueNails
writes:I am a 20 year old girl, and I'm at a loss as to how I can meet guys. I don't know if I am doing something wrong, but I just can't seem to get a guy. I'm not one of those people who is totally against going out to pubs, clubs, etc. However, I'm from Ireland, and every myth you've heard about the drinking culture is true; nobody ever goes out for just a few drinks, social drinks. They go out to get drunk, and it's not the best way to meet people. I don't drink the way a lot of my peers drink anyway-I don't at all in fact- and a lot of people have a problem with that when they ask me what I'm drinking. I don't make a big song and dance about not drinking either, everyone has their own interests etc...So that scene seems to be a dead end. I have tried online dating; I met up with a couple of guys who were lovely, but nothing came of them, for one reason or another. A few of my friends tried to introduce me to people the knew that they thought I would suit, but again nothing. I'm also in college, and get on well with my class, even if I am one of the quieter ones. What I'm trying to point out is that I do socialise and 'get out there' to an extent; I'm not looking for advice when all I do is sit at home by myself! I have only ever had a proper boyfriend when I was 15, and only for a few months. I've been on a few dates with people since, but that's about it. I don't act desperate or slutty when I'm trying to meet someone-of course I would love a relationship, (who wouldn't?!), but I have other things I enjoy in my life and realise it's not everything-and I don't act ridiculously picky either. I would really love some advice as to what I can do to improve things? Is it a case of nice guys finishing last, or am I just not doing enough? Thanks! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2011): Hello, you have done al you could but no guy. A good relationship dons't come on a plater of gold it need work and time. Thire is a good guy out there for you just be patiant an wait for the right time.
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