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I am addicted to orgasms and can't stop masturbating. What can I do about it?

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Question - (4 April 2007) 7 Answers - (Newest, 16 September 2012)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, anonymous writes:

i can't stop masturbating. what do i do. i am addicted to orgasms.

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A male reader, joemassagetherapist United States +, writes (16 September 2012):

I think what you are going through is normal for a few of us.The one thing to remember is you are not hurting anyone.I am abnormal to, but i take care of it myself. you sound like you relay have you stuff together.I think you are a very honorable woman. Have fun.,be safe and enjoy. on a personal note sometimes i wish i was a woman ... you have so many toys and special spots to make you have pleasure. I think I would never leave the house. Have fun:)

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A female reader, Ladyjay Canada +, writes (30 June 2009):

Hey there, I'm a 45 year old woman who has been addicted to orgasming since I was about 14. I started masturbating when I was 12 and after a couple years of it I found myself needing to orgasm more and more. There's not really much you can do about it except to take care of the urge. Like someone said previously, lock yourself in your room and enjoy. I don't believe that abstaining from masturbating is going to do anything for you except frustrate you. I also find myself getting snippy with people if I haven't had a chance to orgasm in a couple days. The toughest part of this dilema is finding an understanding partner in life. The majority of men I've had relationships with have had problems with my sex drive. For some reason it becomes about them and they think that they do not satisfy me. They take it personally. This is not really the case. I just seem to need it more than they do. I have tried being open with them and that didn't work. For the most part I heard the same comment from all of them. "I don't like feeling like I'm expected to perform" I have learned not to expect anything more than what my partner has to offer. I have learned to be upfront about the issue and made sure that my next partner would be understanding and would not feel threatened by my masturbating if he's not in the mood. I have found a loving partner now that understands my problem and I'm happy to say, doesn't have an issue with me taking care of myself if I need to. I'll even let him watch once and a while. It makes for a much happier household :)

I hope you find this helpful. Just remember that your happiness and sanity are what matters...first and foremost.

Be open with your partner if you have one. If you don't have one then enjoy your masturbation even that much more. There's nothing wrong with taking care of yourself. If masturbation makes you feel better then why not. What you do in private with your own body is your business and no one else. When you consider the alternatives, masturbation doesn't sound so bad :) If you have an itch, you scratch.

Take good care.


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A male reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2007):

although it is normal and healthy to a point if doesnt become an obseesion all consuming that take you away from responsibilities and relationships.Could stem from attachment and intimacy issuesI totally identify

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A female reader, Jan127 South Africa +, writes (4 April 2007):

just outa interest do you ever use a vibrator or anything that vibrates? i'm in a similar situation! if anything its better than the sex... and less of a worry, cos i'm never stressing if i'm pregnant or not! its crazy!

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (4 April 2007):

birdynumnums agony auntIt perfectly normal to masterbate. At your age, your hormones are really active and it's much healthier to masterbate when you are horny than to sleep around and get pregant at a young age! It's safer too - it's probably the safest sex there is! So don't worry about it, it's natural and won't do you any harm. You will be able to enjoy orgasms with your future partner easier than women who haven't masterbated and don't understand their own bodies, so it's also good practice! It's your body and you are allowed to take pleasure in it. Put a lock on your door and stop worrying about it, everyone does it!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007):

I agree. I started doing that when I was 9 years old and I am now 31. I still do it almost every day and in most cases I enjoy it more than intercourse with my partner. You're still young and it's perfectly natural. Don't worry about it, enjoy it!!!!!!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2007):

There is nothing wrong with what you are doing so stop worrying about it. You haven't given much info. How much do you do it? Where do you do it? When did you start doing it? What you have got to remember is that what you are doing is normal, not wrong.

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