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writes: Ok, so I've almost always identified as being bisexual (at one point freshman year i thought I was gay and for a few months in eighth grade I thought I was straight) But over the course of the last few months I realized something: I only like guys for their body/sex. I think their hot and like to do things with them, but their are almost no guys that I "like" who I would actually consider dating. The few guys I have liked enough to date I didn't like being in a relationship. With girls I like the for their bodies, but also their looks. What am I? I don't think I'm bisexual cause I only like the physical aspects of relationships with men. But I also don't think I'm gay cause i do check out guys/am sexually attracted to them. I'm so confused Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): You are probably straight. You are sexually attracted to men even though you also appreciate the female form.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): Humans are sexual beings and we are also very complex. We are attracted to different people and things for entirely different reasons than the next person. This is how fetishes develope and sometimes also how sexual orientation developes. Some people are also born that way as well.
Iam a female who used to be attracted to women physically but not emotionally and men I was attracted to physically and romantically. But now my attraction is more for women or extremely feminine men.
What it comes down to is who you meet and have chemistry with. That kind of chemistry that you just can't ignore! It could happen with a boy or a girl, you will know it when it happens.
Personally I think that almost everyone is a little bi-sexual.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (3 March 2013):
Labels only confuse things; you are YOU. If you must have a label, well, there aren't a lot of options.
You're not straight or gay, so what does that leave?
People, especially young people, tend to think that sexual orientation is a lot more cut and dry than it is. There really is a staggering amount of variation. You are somewhere in between labels.
You're lucky, being attracted to both sexes gives you a lot of options! You should make this something that you integrate into your relationships in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2013): In my opinion it sounds like you're more straight. It is very common for women to find other women attractive. But then again that is just my personal opinion.
Other people can tell you their opinions over and over again though to truly find out though you're going to have to date and have relationships with both sides and then decide what you most prefer. It may take a little while but since you're young you have plenty of time to decide. Just enjoy the field and good luck
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reader, fishdish +, writes (3 March 2013):
 You're still young and so I know you want a gay/straight/bi answer for sure but I think the obstacle you face is that you have not been able to emotionally/romantically connect w/ a girl OR a boy. Right now it's just about bodies and faces. Keep exploring and don't put yourself into a box before you're ready.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (3 March 2013):
 Ohh oooowee I can answer this. I went through this phase Im labeled bi only bases off treatment. I will give anybody a.chance. Just had a wonderful randvou with a guy I care for and enjoy alot but I dont know if he would treat me right like I feel I should be treated. He and I are alot alike. He is sweet to me kind and caring but not ready just like I may not be. Plus dont want to hurt each other plus other people.We were married divorce now with children trying to pursue happiness and it may not be with each other. On the other hand was with a nice looking lady fucked up attitude to controlling selfish not compatible. She threaten to be violent and she not go do this or that and was a gold digger plus too materialistic for my taste trying to use me for it too. So I still label myself bi . Im more into how we communicate treat each other care and the true love ee have for each other. Like the guy is doing what he wants but he honest about it to a degree. But the lady is having guys call while we together. Im like naw you can talk to him right now dont let me stop no show. Sneaky type stuff even if you dont want me to know exact details dont play me like bo bo the fool aleast be like the guy. And put it out there you not fully ready for commitment all the way just yet. Keep it real say you want a open relationship not to serious anything else is running game. Im still bi til the day I die.
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