Ladies, how did you form your first ideas about love and romance?
Q. Question for young women out there (under 30 ideally) I would love to know where and how did you first form your ideas about love and romance? Did you read books, see movies or get your ideas from your parents or friends? How did you expect y...
A. 9 September 2010: For me, it started with Disney's Beauty and the Beast. I always loved books and when he gave Beauty an entire library, I was like, "wow! Look how he makes her happy!" and then, Beauty's saving his life and changing him so much by simply loving him ... (read in full...)
Should I let him be part of my child's life?
Q. Well a few months ago my boyfriend and I were living together, happy relationship, and we find out that we're having a baby. Everything seemed to be going good (or so I thought). Then when I was 5 months pregnant I find out he had been cheating on ...
A. 9 September 2010: You're right, he does sound very unstable. He needs a lot of counseling etc etc and even then, he won't get well over night. He's violent and though yes, he is this child's father I don't think he should be allowed in her life right now. Maybe ever. ... (read in full...)
I want to keep the love of my children after my divorce
Q. HI, I left my wife of 18 yrs 11 months ago,we have two teenage daughter of 16 and 17 who are extremely close, the marriage was good,but not a loving one,with hobbies and pets being the major factor of our split I have met a fantastic lady,wh...
A. 8 September 2010: It will be very hard to keep your lady and your children. Moving to another country means contact through phone and email and I'll let you from experience that communicating like that with my father for three years was terrible. I couldn't hug him ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like my girlfriend!
Q. Me and my girlfriend have a very serious problem and it just happens to be my parents. The issue is that everyone i know in my family hate my girlfriend and even people i don't know do because my family goes around and talks about her. Before i just ...
A. 8 September 2010: I'm very sorry to hear you both are going through so much...your family members are trying to "protect" you from her because they think she will taint you. Your girlfriend has been through hell and instead of showing compassion, they're showing ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid i'll start messing around behind his back again! should I walk away from our marriage?
Q. Help....so confused iv been with my husband 24 years married 19 years two beautiful grow up children, over the past 10 years iv felt neglected unwanted unloved,i felt so low lack of confidence i started having affairs,i hate myself and feel discusse...
A. 8 September 2010: First off, stay away from temptation...don't allow yourself to hang around other men or be in places where they might approach you. Give it another chance. Focus on your husband, you said you loved him right? So try your best to take advantage of ... (read in full...)
I think my baby is another mans!
Q. hey i really do need some advice,basically i gave birth to my daughter on the 24th august an the thing im worried about is she looks nothink like the guy i thought was her dad as from the due date the doctor gave me i automatically said ye hes the ...
A. 8 September 2010: First off, yes mistakes can be made by doctors and machines. It's rare but not impossible. The only way for you to know without a doubt is to have a DNA test done before your baby is any older. This is a tough situation but be strong and keep your ... (read in full...)
How would people feel about a 40 and 19 year old being together?
Q. I need a bit of help here, im a 40 year old man and really like a 19 year old girl. A lot of you might think im only interested in her for one thing but im not although the sex would be great, theres more to it than that. How would people feel ...
A. 8 September 2010: Do you think your sons would be ok with it? Would she? I mean, in case you two got really serious...?... (read in full...)
How would people feel about a 40 and 19 year old being together?
Q. I need a bit of help here, im a 40 year old man and really like a 19 year old girl. A lot of you might think im only interested in her for one thing but im not although the sex would be great, theres more to it than that. How would people feel ...
A. 7 September 2010: Um...people in general would not like it. I got stared at like mad when I went on one date w/ a forty year old man (I was 18). We laughed about it but still...we're friends now because as I got to know him, I didn't think we could make a romantic ... (read in full...)
Was her behaviour unacceptable?
Q. hi , please help me. I met a girl about 4 years back, we met on yahoo messenger chatting room. she is from another country. we kept talking like friends for two months, but after two months i proposed her, and she also accepted. Everything was...
A. 7 September 2010: She went to Spain rather than see you? Thats a sign that she doesn't love you as much as she says. My boyfriend gave up Australia to spend time with me when I really needed him. We lived a bit far from each other and saw each other whenever we ... (read in full...)
Was her behaviour unacceptable?
Q. hi , please help me. I met a girl about 4 years back, we met on yahoo messenger chatting room. she is from another country. we kept talking like friends for two months, but after two months i proposed her, and she also accepted. Everything was...
A. 7 September 2010: I don't think this girl is being honest with you. You can't marry her if already, she's being dishonest with you and hurting you like this. She seems more interested in partying and going out with different men which tells me that she can't handle a ... (read in full...)
Can I stop this before it gets to deep?
Q. can i stop this before it gets tooo deep???? i have recently been back in touch with my uncle after my great grandmother died... he recently told me he has feelings for me he knows its worng we both do but for some reason it feels so right its hard ...
A. 7 September 2010: No, its not right...he is your uncle, he is married, if this is known, you will tear your parents apart. Honey, would you ever want to see your daughter having an affair with your brother or brother in law??? The facts are that this man is ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to touch my genitalia!
Q. I have never had sex, or even masturbated. I have tried but I cant. For awhile I was scared to look at my genitalia but I am slowly getting over that fear, I still cant look at it freely. I know the body is a very beautiful gift but for some reason ...
A. 7 September 2010: You're not weird at all!!! The vagina is outside (the entrance to the inside of your body) and inside (the birth canal when a woman is pregnant). It might help you to read a few books. Go to a bookstore, look up a few illustrated medical ... (read in full...)
My ex husband sent me a picture of his penis! is he feeling regret for divorcing me?
Q. after my divorce i wrote a question here under this title"Husband divorced me when he discovered they did a female circumcision to me as a child". and now after 2 months of my divorce he sent me his penis picture!!!!! he said that he likes to se...
A. 7 September 2010: I would not go so far as to say that he wants you back and that he loves you. Sending you a picture of his penis and telling you he likes to see you a certain way simply shows some sexual interest. If he had texted that he missed you or something, ... (read in full...)
Clueless about girls, How do I gain confidence and how do I know when the right time is?
Q. I've never really been comfortable about sex before. It's always been something I've felt extremely awkward and embarrassed about. I mean, I don't have any problem talking about it with people online, nor do I have any problem watching porn or even ...
A. 7 September 2010: First off, don't go by whats "normal" for other people. I agree that sex at 14 is wrong, it's too young. But hon, if you want to wait that's not a bad thing. You have my respect for that. IMO if you have sex with any1 and everyone whose eager to ... (read in full...)
Bi curious, bi sexual... what am I???
Q. Hey my boyfriend thinks i might be bi curious or bi sexual but i dont think i am. So i was wondering how do you know for sure if you are? He thinks i am cause i some times have sexual dreams about girls and i would rather watch girl on girl porn ...
A. 5 September 2010: People would say you are bi-curious. But really, putting tags and titles on things just limits you. Dont focus so much on that. You like what ya like and thats that. Labels simply complicate things.... (read in full...)
Am I being played, or does he want me?
Q. I'm very sorry that this is a bit long, I regularly go down to the gay bar where I live and theres a guy who works there. One night it was karaoke night and I went up and did a few songs (I am a terrible singer by the way) anyways, when bu...
A. 2 September 2010: Total player. When drunk, a few hidden feelings can come out maybe he was secretly thinking of being your bf but then, he sobered realized what he said and got scared shitless because he doesn't want to give up his player ways and is scared of ... (read in full...)
My first time having sex! advice please!
Q. Me and my girl were thinking about having sex for the first time. We are both in our 20s. Both of us are virgins so we are new to this. So we plan to be safe about this so I was going to buy some condoms, but I have no idea what size to get. My ...
A. 2 September 2010: Foremost be gentle, make it special for her because she will remember this all her life...a few vanilla scented candles and a romantic bath first to make her relax more. Afterwards, wrap her in a towel and kiss her, bring her to bed. I suggest you ... (read in full...)
Bad experiences in the past with controlling men; how to shut this guy down without being rude?
Q. Hello readers. I would like some advice regarding what may seem as a trivial matter to some, however for me whether or not due to my past patterns of enabling men to control me etc I am aware that this is happening again, however I'm not sure how...
A. 31 August 2010: Ok well, have another cup of tea and then tell him : thank you for your hard work and your offers of friendship, I appreciate it. But, I'm a full time student and right now, I want to focus on that and my little girl. I don't have a lot of time for ... (read in full...)
Dating a man who can't have sex?
Q. Do you think that there are very many women who would be willing to date a man that is not physically capable of having sex?...
A. 15 August 2010: Of course! After all, there are relationships where women get sex without real affection...or love. I dated the absolute sweetest boy in high school who was unable to have sex, but we were intimate in other ways...mentally, emotionally, our ... (read in full...)
Child pornography on boyfriend's computer
Q. ok my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs. he likes to watch porn hes nearly 25 and a couple of months ago i confronted him on how much porn he was looking at only to find disgusting child pornogrphy on our laptop. he swore it wasnt his and ...
A. 15 August 2010: Well, hon, your instincts are right. If I hypothtically had encountered a site where HIGHLY ILLEGAL child porn was popping up, I would call authorities and inform them of the fact. That'd be the proper thing to do. Out of disgust though, I'd ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to be a virgin at 28?
Q. I'm a virgin at 28, is this wrong? I've 'technically' never had a girlfriend, but I did have a fairly decent amount of girls flirting with me back in college. I've also dated a few but we never officially had a relationship, although the dis...
A. 13 August 2010: There's NOTHING wrong with that! You have what so many men don't-standards. Don't doubt yourself because you'd rather make love then have sex. I think it's an entirely different experience when two people honestly love each other. It might still be ... (read in full...)
Should I invite my boyfriend to my graduating ceremony?
Q. I'm graduating from high school and I wonder if I should invite my bf to the ceremony... We've been going out for almost six months, talk for hrs about everything, and he encourages my writing, my ideas, my goals- he helps me whenever and however he ...
A. 13 August 2010: Daletom, you're awesome! Thank you for your time and insight! :)... (read in full...)
Should I invite my boyfriend to my graduating ceremony?
Q. I'm graduating from high school and I wonder if I should invite my bf to the ceremony... We've been going out for almost six months, talk for hrs about everything, and he encourages my writing, my ideas, my goals- he helps me whenever and however he ...
A. 13 August 2010: Thank you so much for answering, you're so right! I was scared he would feel weird because he's um...older than 25 now. He feels strange sometimes about being around me and my friends...... (read in full...)
My baby's father and love of my life - or the new man who loves and accepts me for who I am?
Q. Okay. So. Please don't judge. Imagine yourself in these exact shoes. I am 23 at this moment in time. To give you a full understanding of my problem, I really need to tell you all of it. So here: I was never right or normal when I was littl...
A. 4 August 2010: Yes, it's a tough situation to be in, but you are NOT a horrible person, far from it. You seem sensitive and caring, not wanting any of the three people you mentioned. But, personally, I think you should tell Rafael and stay with Clark. We never ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my cousin and best friend her father has a fatal disease?
Q. Ok this is not really a romance question but I really need advice... Ok I have a cousin that's my age my and her parents had us sacronised and so we r like really close. I tell her every thing that happens to me in my life. From boys to things my ...
A. 4 August 2010: I am so sorry to hear this...But, please, don't tell her. You are her cousin but it's not your place to tell her, that falls on her parents. Never tell her that you know/knew. The best thing you can do is keep being the absolute best friend you can ... (read in full...)
In a bind and need help
Q. My boyfriend is currently in prison and gets released next week. He has a lot of paranoia about me cheating on him which I would never ever do. I love this guy. Anyways a few days ago I put myself into a really crappy situation that I feel really g...
A. 4 August 2010: The answer's simple, don't mention it. You didn't do anything bad with this guy. If your boyfriend is that paranoid and jealous, there's something wrong with that. If you feel you absolutely have to tell him, mention it in an offhand manner like: ... (read in full...)
Philosophical questions about sex and disabilities
Q. This question may seem long and convoluted but there is an underlying unity I can absolutely assure you if you just take the time to read between the lines and try to see how things might look from my perspective. I hope you can see when a disag...
A. 4 August 2010: Well, in my opinion, there are, out there people without physical/mental disabilities who sorely misuse sex and as a result never find out what it's like to "make love" the sort of sex which not only satisfies body but soul as well-and that's sad. ... (read in full...)
Will 18 year old boyfriend be in trouble if my parents approve of us dating?
Q. Hey there. soo im kindof confused.ive been looking for the answer everywhere. But im 15 and my boyfriend is 18 my parent approve of us dating im almost 16 and we wanna have a kid as crazy as it sounds but will he get charged by the stated with anyt...
A. 31 July 2010: You guys having a kid is a pretty crazy...why would you want that right now? Neither of you have firm careers and you haven't even graduated high school yet. It's ok to desire it but, please don't go for it. My friend is 17 and in a hell hole right ... (read in full...)
Am I being used by a married woman?
Q. hi all, hope someone can help. it has been two years since a have fallen for a work collegue. we could not be any more different. im 33 and she is 48. i am white and she is black. and here is the big bomb shell...... she is married. anyw...
A. 30 July 2010: Well, she's married and that's a red flag from the first. I think she's attracted to you and enjoys the attention but is playing at being coy by telling you she wants friendship and then blatantly flirting with you. I wouldn't pursue a relationship ... (read in full...)
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