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He says he's not in love with me anymore, is this now over?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for almost 2 years now. We dated for 5 years before we got married. We were having some problems because he always wanted to go out with his friends drinking instead of spending some quality time together. We ...

A.   7 April 2007:  I understand where you are coming from.You don't know what to do because you love him and don't want to loose him.What you need to do is sit down one more time and talk to him.Ask him again about his feelings for you if he tells you he has fallen ... (read in full...)

I drunkenly cheated on my girlfriend. Do I tell her?

Q.   Hi,I'm a 27 year old male and have been with my girlfriend for a year. After my 1st real love 4/5 years ago I had been single for about 3 1/2 years - i can't simply go out with anyone for the sake of it. Then I met my current girlfriend and it's ...

A.   7 April 2007:  First thing you should do is ask yourself if you would want to know if she did it to you. Sometimes you have to do what is right in order to show someone how much you care.Just tell her you messed up big time you are willing to spend the rest of ... (read in full...)

If I can't get oral from my girlfriend, can I get it somewhere else?

Q.   My girl doesn't want to give me oral sex anymore. But there is this other woman who told me she she wants to give me oral sex. Is there a way I can get my girl to give me oral or do I go to the other woman?...

A.   29 November 2005: I am a female and I think that you are the most disrespectful person I have ever read from.I wish i knew you girlfriend so that i could advise her to leave you alone.If you feel that it is necessary to cheat then you should not waste her time by ... (read in full...)

I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!

Q.   I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...

A.   29 November 2005: This is a natural thing that is going to happen whether you tell her to stop or not but it is better for her that you do not speak negatively or act drawn away from her.It's bad enough that she is completely embarrassed that her mom walked in on her ... (read in full...)

I told him I fancied another guy to make him jealous but it backfired!

Q.   I really like this guy. He is 18 I am 16. He is from Dubai but recently came over to Wales to go to college. I didnt know he liked me at first and i told him i fancied his friend to see if he got jealous. Which he did, then i told him i fancied him ...

A.   29 November 2005: Look to tell you the truth,I don't understand why you would even tell him that if you did not mean it. You two are not even together what did you think would happen? Of course he moved on to the next girl have you ever heard of the phrase"you never ... (read in full...)

How do I correctly handle my girlfriend's son?

Q.   I have a girlfriend that I started dating about two months ago. She's 39 and I am 38, and we're both divorced. I have 12, and 14 year old step-children from my previous marriage. She has an 11 year-old son, who's father she divorced when he ...

A.   29 November 2005: I understand to the fullest what the two of you are facing but his mother needs to sit down and talk to her son. She needs to explain to him that in life relationships do fail and we eventually get over it but that does not stop us from loving ... (read in full...)

My old ex lured me back from my new ex. Now my new ex won't take me back again!

Q.   hi, I really need some advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Earlier this year, I got to know a guy from work and I really started to like him. I told my boyfriend I needed a break and we split up for 2 months. In this...

A.   22 September 2005:  This is something that you need to get over.You have to realize that you can't play with peoples feelings you left one guy for another and now you want to leave this guy for the one you left him for before? you are going back and forth someone had ... (read in full...)

He has no excuse for sleeping with someone else! Should I forgive and forget to keep what we had?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend 7 months now and we love each other so much. He even said he wanted to marry me, and I felt the same. But he told me that he slept with another woman last week and he has no excuse for doing it. He doesn't know why he ...

A.   22 September 2005:  Listen, there are a lot of reasons why you would love to stay but open your eyes a little wider from now on.It has only been seven months into the relationship.The two of you are still fresh no one cheats this early in the relationship unless ... (read in full...)

Since I found out my husband was texting an old girlfriend, I can't get it out of my mind!

Q.   Dear Cupid, After 21 years of marriage, during last year my husband's old girlfriend turned up to see him (not at home of course). I suppose just after the last baby we had a few problems and with him working nights and me days we drifted apart...

A.   22 September 2005:  First of all, let me get this out.I experienced that situation first hand and reacted worse than you.I can no longer trust him and the difference is that me and him are not married.I refuse to let it go and i'll be damned if it happens again and ... (read in full...)

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