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What is wrong with incest?

Q.   This is an unusual question, but I'm curious to see what your answers will be. I was watching the HBO show Game of Thrones the other day, in which it is hinted at that one of the characters is having sex with his sister. On IMDB, this brought up ...

A.   23 April 2011: Incest is harmful because historically it has not been practiced. So, human populations have considerable genetic load. Deleterious alleles can hide behind good genes and almost never cause problems, simply because it is so unlikely to find another ... (read in full...)

I want a relationship

Q.   Hey there...this is my first time question, i'm an 18 year old boy. I still don't have any contact with girls except kissing. Most often I masterbate.. But I want a relationship and not to be alone anymore. How i overcome this problem? How can i em...

A.   23 April 2011: Yeah, I was totally in your boat when I was your age. Just let me give you two pieces of advice. First, don't try to connect with a slut. She will just hurt you. And my personal definition of slut is very much more inclusive than the one you are ... (read in full...)

LDR b/f cannot let go that I slept with someone before I even met him!

Q.   I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!I need some help :( My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. We met while we were both travelling, thinking at first that it was only going to be a holiday fling. Well, 6 months d...

A.   23 April 2011: This is why your parents always told you to save it. A promiscuous past causes nothing but trouble. If I were the guy, I would have reason to feel jealous, as well. But if he loves you enough, he will forgive you.... (read in full...)

How do I be confident doing a strip tease for my man?

Q.   Okay, so I have offered to do a strip tease for my man, I know he's very attracted to me as we often talk about our intense chemistry howeve this does not seem to be comfort enough for me! I know I'm in good shape but the thought of dancing alone...

A.   23 April 2011: Don't bother trying to be confident. Innocence is sexy, too.... (read in full...)

How can you tell when a guy is being genuine???

Q.   How can you tell if a guy is feeding you lines, or is actually interested??? I'm talking about when you first meet someone, not while you are dating someone. ...

A.   20 April 2011: What do you mean by genuine? You can tell if a man has an honest character by spending enough time around him. No one can lie forever. You can also ask people who know him.... (read in full...)

Sex for the first time?

Q.   I am thinking about having sex for the first time. Does it hurt and can somebody give me details...

A.   20 April 2011: I wouldn't know what it is like for a virgin girl to lose it. I only had sex one time, and it ended abruptly because the woman was having some emotional issues about being taken advantage of sexually by some man I never knew. She started crying. ... (read in full...)

Why won't he say he loves me?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for six months and he told me that he's never felt this way about anybody before. Although he doesn't get me flowers or gifts like my previous boyfriends did, he's treated me better than all of them. We've met each others ...

A.   20 April 2011: I told a woman one time that I loved her. She said she loved me, too. Then she decided that I was holding her back in life, moved away, and never talked to me again. I guess I was a sucker. I should have let her make the first move. I found ou... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend but she's too fat. How do I break up?

Q.   me and my gf got together about 3 years ago. we both weighed 17 stone. we had a good relationship but in the last 12 months we said we would go on a diet. Now i weight 13 stone. she however weighs 18 and 1/2 stone. i am attracting the attention of ...

A.   19 April 2011: Easy. Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you are in no way committed to her, and tell her that you are going to look for someone more like yourself, who is motivated, unless she can keep up with you. As harsh as it is, these things are important ... (read in full...)

I dumped her, yet I'm turning into a wuss over her. What's a good action plan to get me coping again?

Q.   What is wrong with me? I broke up with a woman 16 months back but I'm obsessed with keeping tabs on what she doing. My obsession is taking over my life. I hardly eat, my condo's filthy, I don't go out. I feel like I'm married to my laptop and b...

A.   2 February 2011: Step 1: Wait a few months. Step 2: Feel better. Step 3: Realize that you should not invest in any woman you can't control. Step 4: Work hard in life.... (read in full...)

Is he afraid of his feelings and the direction we were headed in or was I being toyed with?

Q.   I've been dating this guy for three months and changes his mind on what he wants every two weeks it seems like. When we started seeing eachother, he was excited yet hesitant to meet my daughter. He met Jess and told me he was unsure of the situation ...

A.   2 February 2011: He was being honest. Infatuation fear of raising another man's child... (read in full...)

She finally confessed her infidelity. What do I do?

Q.   This is a very confused guy who loves her girlfriends of 6 years to bits. However,my Girlfriend finally confessed to me the guy entered her but stopped when she shouted because it hurt. (From the description, I know personally how difficul...

A.   2 February 2011: Of course, you have a whole host of sexual mores and values that I do not share. But if it were me, I would be rid of that woman in an instant. ... (read in full...)

I liked him less when he admitted having dated someone my mother's age

Q.   This guy that I'm dating has dated a much older woman in the past. I don't usually bring up past relationships for this very reason but it somehow came out and never did I think he would have dated 25 years older than him.(he's 25). I tried ...

A.   2 February 2011: Yeah, I dunno why "MILF" has become a part of our culture. I blame an aging group of baby boomers who want something young and fresh. But who knows? In any case, it is pretty yucky.... (read in full...)

How do I tell my mother that my 20 year old boyfriend, who she doesn't know about yet, has a 19 month old?

Q.   hello, im 16 and a junior in high school, ill be 17 in 2 months. the guy im seeing is 20 and will be 21 in may. i really really like him a lot. he was friends with my ex boyfriend and thats how i met him. eventually me and my ex broke up and me and ...

A.   2 February 2011: Just stay away from him romantically. You are too young to deal with that. Your mom knows what she's talking about. Don't lie to her.... (read in full...)

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