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Is it normal to feel bad after a threesome?

Q.   Hey guys, quick question, is it normal that a person feels disgusted with themselves after a three way? Lately it's like I feel like I'm close to tears and I can't stop thinking about it. ...

A.   27 September 2011: Well, here's the thing. I was blindfolded so I never seen the guy. So the thing I'm having trouble is that I never even seen his face. This is what's bothering me and I brought it up with the guy numrous time. What he said is " too bad... wasn't ... (read in full...)

Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?

Q.   ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...

A.   6 September 2011: ok, so I asked if my ex still loves me and he said yes. Well today FWB guy tells me that he had a dream about me last night. He's also been sending wrong messages such as baby and calling me princess.... (read in full...)

Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?

Q.   ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...

A.   31 August 2011: Well, The man is acting depressed and is saying that I am drifting away from him. Last time I saw him on cam was last night I felt upset cause he had another girl with him. So I was cried alittle but then I figured "hey, he's not mine to have so why ... (read in full...)

Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?

Q.   ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...

A.   27 August 2011: So what do you guys recommend? As of lately my ex can't seem to get enough of me but I'm happy where I am going in life. New Job, About to finish up school and volunteering. The sex thing to me is just that. Sex. (Kind of funny considering the fact ... (read in full...)

Should I remove this girl from my friend list on facebook? She broke my heart...

Q.   Right now I am hesitating about kicking a girl whom I love on Facebook. This is not internet dating. She is a really good friend of mine and during the past two years both of us experienced a lot of things but now everything has turn bad. At t...

A.   16 April 2011: there is a way to keep them as friends but at the same time delete any post off of the news feed. when they are posted on your wall you put your curser (little mouse arrow thingy) over their post. You then just click on the x and it will pop up ... (read in full...)

My wife had sex with her coactor for a film

Q.   hey...me and my wife are married for 5 years..she is into film industry from the past two years...shes done a lot of adult films and though i dont like her getting intimate i really dont object cause i dont want to create a rift..till now i was okay ...

A.   14 April 2011: Guys! your forgetting the important thing, this man's question being answered! Sigh, anyways. If you feel uncomfortable about the scene sit down and talk with your wife. explain to her your feelings and (most important) WHY you feel this way. Tell ... (read in full...)

What does my dream about my ex mean?

Q.   Hey, broke up with a guy for about 7 months now. thing is I have been having dreams. Like today I dreamt about how he broke down in front of my house (and this guy moved back to his home town in Pittsburgh while I live near philly) and he said "oh ...

A.   13 April 2011: well, after the dream iwas miserable. so i sent him a text (his phone was shut off so i had no worries about himseeing it.) basicly i told him what i said in my dreams. Funny thing about the whole story of him moving back? He had a "heart atta... (read in full...)

The condom broke and now she doesn't want to see me. Why? What can I do?

Q.   I have been dating a lady for 7 weeks. I am 45 and she is 46. On our 10th date I stayed at her house and we ended up having sex. The problem I have is that I used a condom but it broke. I felt it go pop but was just about to climax and couldnt stop ...

A.   11 April 2011: The fact is that she said the last abortion she had was traumatic so to bring up her having another abortion was (in what I think would be her opinion) heartbreaking. You should have shown more sympathy by telling her that you support her in ... (read in full...)

Should I go for this older divorced guy?

Q.   i have feelings for this older guy. he is 27 i am 18 in the uk i don't know weather to make my feeling known we are close and talk all th4e time. i am very flirty towards him but i don't know if he notices? he is recently divorced becaus...

A.   9 April 2011: Hey hon, I did the same thing once and the one thing you can't do is just dive into a relationship. I did that before and I paid with my heart. If I were you I would see what common ground you guys have. What is his favorite movie, what does he l... (read in full...)

When is it too late for closure? is revenge helpful? Should I try to get over him?

Q.   Hey guys, it's me again. Well, a guy broke up with me about 7 months ago and I haven't heard from him since. 2 days after the break up (which was a bad break up) he was in a relationship with this girl (Who I suspect he was cheating on me to begi...

A.   7 April 2011: It's just, I really want to know if it was me or if was just the relationship was a failure to start with. he was 34 I was 22. He wanted a family I didn't. He wanted to party, I wanted to study, I was extremely sexual, he wasn't and he hated that ... (read in full...)

Why is she behaving like this with her new guy when she never did with me? And will she ever come back to me?

Q.   Alright so im new to this but here we go. I dated a girl for a month treated her very well as all my friends said always was there for her. I always sent good morning text's. I left her video messages on her facebook. We didn't get to see each other ...

A.   30 March 2011: Hon, you sound like a sweet guy and you deserve someone better. This girl sounds pretty young and if any and if your discription of the guy is true then she's gonna learn pretty quickly that Bad Boys are bad for a reason. If I were you I would just ... (read in full...)

Why does an ex (first love) make things so complicated?

Q.   I am still in love with my ex. We were dating for a couple of years and he was MY first Ever Love. He got my name tattooed on his arm and always told me loved me. Then one day my friend tells me he no longer wants to go out with me. I was devasted ...

A.   20 March 2011: When guys are a certain age they tend to be insecure about the woman they are dating. Even if it's just a rumor or if they find that people are talking they might break it off in a heartbeat. As for getting over him, what are you doing with your... (read in full...)

I'm 16 yet from time to time I long for a baby. Can I get over this?

Q.   Hey. So I'm only 16 but sometimes I get like really hormonal and obsessive about having a baby. Its not all the time, but when i do get it its like unbareable - like I just want a baby so badly. Its really scary and upsetting - why do i feel like ...

A.   14 March 2011: Hey hon, I had those feelings as well and let me tell you... getting in touch with those feelings can help you financally. If you really want a baby start a babysitting business: that way you can see how hard the work is plus earn alittle cash on ... (read in full...)

Is this normal behaviour after a breakup?

Q.   It's now been about 3 week since my ex boyfriend broke up with me. We would talk occasionally through emails or texts the first week it ended but the past 2 weeks I've texted him almost everyday and he hasn't responded to any of my texts. I know I ...

A.   24 February 2011: First off, Yes this is a normal response. Everyone goes through the same feelings of regret mourning and what-ifs of a past relationship. As for the texting... sounds like he is doing a no-contact withdraw. What you need to do is to delete his numb... (read in full...)

It is normal that I'm attracted to men twice my age?

Q.   Is it normal (from a psychological point of view), that I am attracted to older men in their 40' s . Not all of them , it all the depends on their level of maturity. The way they talk about life , their experience ..It moves me in a way that no ...

A.   4 February 2011: Yes, it's just your taste. Besides, older guys are HOT.(cough)... (read in full...)

My parents can never know I'm dating this man because I'm supposed to be a virgin but I'm not!

Q.   hello, well ill tell u in brief my story, im 20 years old dating my brother's friend wich is 1 and a half yar younger then me.no one knows except y closest friends because i have my parents might have a problem with the age issue and being my ...

A.   4 February 2011: Ok, first off use birth control whenever available. As long as you are protected no one needs to know what your sex life is or whether or not you are a virgin. (Usually there is only one way to check but even that isn't fool proof) Second, Age ... (read in full...)

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