Has he been leading me on, and if so, what should I do now?
Q. I have been talking to a guy I really like for about 2 months now. He always texts me first every single day and calls me a lot, and we talk for hours. He has taken me on a couple dates and he says he really likes me, and he compliments me a lot. I ...
A. 16 March 2014: When he contacts you again, ask him about the post. If they were lyrics he wrote, it is a bit silly to put them up there like that. It probably is a girl and he has feelings for her. We all end up with exes eventually and we all have baggage and we ... (read in full...)
How do we solve the unknown "differences" between us?
Q. I am in love with a guy for a year. Recently there was a lot of communication problems because of our final exams taking place consecutively. We have not been talking properly for 48 days. I met him some days before and found a change in his ...
A. 16 March 2014: Ask your boyfriend out on a date and talk about what has been happening and let him know you want to be with him and see what he says. If you talk and it is clear he is not into it anymore, then end it (perhaps you will mutually end it) and do not ... (read in full...)
I don't feel I'm her friend! Do friends share things with certain friends things they don't with other friends?
Q. So I've been partly hurt and partly withdrawn from a female friend of mine. I'm female too. I previously thought her and I were close and there were no barriers. I felt like we were two sisters. She has told me to do things for her like wash her ...
A. 16 March 2014: Are you in love with your friend? Is she playing you a bit? You've been sexual with her, from what you have described (full head I think means something sexual if I am not mistaken). Your friend is important to you, you are attached and attracted, ... (read in full...)
It could be crazy coincidence, but then .........
Q. This has happened twice and now I'm curious if it's just coincidence or something more? I met two girls on two separate occasions through two separate mutual friends at group get-togethers. (I have different sets of friends, like old school frien...
A. 16 March 2014: I would not read much into it. The two of you probably have good energy together and make the gathering more fun when you are there together. People are often drawn to friends who are where they aspire to be themselves. So these ladies probably see ... (read in full...)
Is he a commitment phobe?
Q. I've been dating a guy for over four months now and, while he pursues me and makes all of the dates (1x weekly), our relationship hasn't really progressed, and we haven't had the whole, "exclusivity" talk. He doesn't ask me about my hopes and ...
A. 16 March 2014: He probably is not looking for commitment. If you want more and do not want to settle for having a lover who fits you in as he can, you might want to go ahead and have that exclusivity talk but expect that he will not want to take it to the next ... (read in full...)
Have any women on here gone to a bar alone?
Q. I have been on my own for a long time now. It has been bothering me for a while but it has only become a problem recently. I don't have particularly great coping skills and feelings of loneliness have become overwhelming. I really need to make some ...
A. 16 March 2014: I took up social dancing (mainly salsa dancing)a few years ago. I met so many people. There are some good friends who have come out of my dance community. There is less talking and more dancing and if you become a good dancer by taking lessons (you ... (read in full...)
I feel lost and need help
Q. The feeling is unbearable, it echoes throughout my inner Psyche, it's always been under radar and often it only takes something minor to trigger this thing I have called low self esteem. My problems first started in the early stages of my chi...
A. 16 March 2014: I too suffered from childhood abuse and neglect. I was called names and told I was ugly and stupid. It took a couple of decades of self improvement and building an identity to get myself to where I am now. I still have bad days but my life is rich ... (read in full...)
I feel like my dreams are dying ...
Q. I'm 29... finding myself and becoming skilled at something... discovering my talent or passion... if it was going to happen, it would have happened by now? I feel like my dreams are dying, because I don't have any special talent or quality to de...
A. 16 March 2014: You think you are mediocre and past your prime. That is not the case. A small number of very good writers did not write or publish until around age 40. Julia Child learned how to cook French food at 40 and changed the nature of American cuisine ... (read in full...)
I am not allowed in his best friend's house and have to sit in the car!
Q. Hello everyone I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And we live together. But living together isn’t the problem. The problem is his mom and his best friend don’t like me at all. I’ve met the only once and ...
A. 16 March 2014: This is not a healthy situation. Your boyfriend is disrespecting you and probably manipulating you and others because he has a secret (perhaps dating someone, perhaps dealing drugs, perhaps married to someone, perhaps his friend does not like you ... (read in full...)
I know he is not sincere but can't get him out of my mind!
Q. Hello. My problem is that i would like to put this man out of my mind but however hard i try, i constantly see him at work. In the beginning i nnoticed that he was always fixing me when i pass near his office. He wwill always be there when i come in ...
A. 16 March 2014: There is a bit of a player vibe that seems to go with the situation you describe. Getting involved with him would be hazardous to your employment, I would imagine. I used to have a work crush (still do) but I started dating someone new with whom I ... (read in full...)
I want my lazy husband to leave my house but he wont go!
Q. hey I'm 39 years old married to a man who is 36 years old we been married for 10 years and have to children together I had two children's from my own things were good until my husband lost his job since tat he become different he don't wanna find a ...
A. 16 March 2014: This man is abusing you emotionally and not supporting you and is a bad example for the kids. Can you leave? Take the kids and leave? Are you renting? You could call your local woman's shelter and ask for some resources. Most of them have hotlines ... (read in full...)
He saysI am too emotional and I find him to be a cold fish!
Q. I am not sure about my boyfriend. We have been together a year and see each other often. The next step is moving in. I do find that he's not very good with emotions. He thinks I'm too emotional and I find him cold and dismissive sometimes. I find ...
A. 16 March 2014: This can get tricky. The things that attract you to him and make your sex life good are part of who he is. He is not going to change. I am very emotional too and it can be overwhelming. I have ruined relationships by being too prone to emotional ... (read in full...)
How do I stop basing my life around him and his visits?
Q. I was with my ex for 3 and half yrs on and off , we broke up last time In November last year although it was just like any other time I imagined where we would reconcile after a few weeks or months . This time though I found out just after Xmas he ...
A. 16 March 2014: I am sorry you are having this problem. You are lovesick for this man. It is understandable because you have been through a lot with him, have kids by him, and have had a lot of breakups and reuniting. I would recommend you find some things to do ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden he's become secretive?
Q. I think I know the answer to this but just want some opinions and how to handle it please My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years. In the first year he was meeting up with a girl behind my back but they both swore it was just as friends....
A. 15 March 2014: He has lied and cheated on you in the past and this destroyed your full trust in him. He is treating you disrespectfully by unfriending you on social media. That is something a healthy couple could discuss if they wanted to have the option of not ... (read in full...)
What is with guys NOT texting back?
Q. I know this is a question most women ask but... What is with guys NOT texting back? Theres a guy I have known for about 3 years and we have always been friends work, abit of flirting sometimes but weve always been friends. We like each other...
A. 15 March 2014: He is not serious about pursuing something with you. He may also have another love interest you are not aware of or he may be one of these happy-go-lucky types who just goes with the moment. He may have a drinking or drug issue you are not aware of ... (read in full...)
He's 22 years younger and wants to date me!
Q. I have just come out of a horrible one year relationship with a guy I really loved but am gradually feeling better. I met a lovely guy who said he was 38 to get my attentional. He is 26. He is good looking fit intelligent mature and a lot of fun...
A. 13 March 2014: Just be honest and upfront. I have dated men up to 11 years younger than me. I personally find it fun at first but I do get attached and start worrying about the future. Be honest with yourself and with him. I wouldn't go more than a few years ... (read in full...)
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