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Q.   hey guys .... well anyways/...im a 14 year old striaght guy and i have alot of close guy friends... but this one guy J.D is getting reallly too close to me...he's always tryin to make me laugh and allways touchy feely like a pat on the bac...

A.   13 March 2009: being friendly to you is mostly the answer. guys pats the back of there friends and handshakes are really normal. be and my friends do it all the time. well to us we take it as a sign of saying hi. i don't know about you on how you take it. its ... (read in full...)

Trying for a second child after the death of our baby...

Q.   Trying for a second after the death of our baby. My husband and I were high school sweet hearts and both knew we wanted to have children. Sortly after we got married we tried to get pregnant after 3 years and many tries we finally got pregnant...

A.   13 March 2009: well thats a pretty good start for you guys i hope it will go great whenever you decided to open up to him on having a new baby. again sorry for the lost and keep safe and good luck... (read in full...)

Trying for a second child after the death of our baby...

Q.   Trying for a second after the death of our baby. My husband and I were high school sweet hearts and both knew we wanted to have children. Sortly after we got married we tried to get pregnant after 3 years and many tries we finally got pregnant...

A.   13 March 2009: i might be young but i suggest you wait. losing such a wonderful gift from heaven is just too painful for him. so i really suggest you wait for the right time. well lets say that you are gonna confront him about it now. well what do you think hi... (read in full...)

Should I wash my hands after someone very poor touches me?

Q.   I'm from the Philippines and I have a moral issue... I like to help the poor, give them alms and stuff they need... but am I being a bad person if I immediately wash my hands after they touch me? I'm very confused....

A.   7 March 2009: I'm half Filipino and i know what you mean i see those poor kids running around and touching me when i was there but it don't bother me and everyone else who posted a comment was right as long as you didn't wash your hands in front of them right ... (read in full...)

Why would my boyfriend let me know that some other girl liked him too?

Q.   I have a boyfriend and I like him but I like him more as a friend. He just told me he liked another girl but he likes too, I wanna know why in the world would he tell me this?? I didn't get mad at him though so he thinks I think it's no big deal. ...

A.   7 March 2009: hey cheer up it's no biggie. rose was right about giving you a heads up about it. maybe he wants to know how you really feel for him maybe he wants to see how you respond about it and maybe he wants to see if you would let go of him knowing that ... (read in full...)

I've fallen in love with my bestfriend and I don't think she feels the same

Q.   Hi I think i have fallen in love with my best friend. I know I am only 15 years old and you are probably thinking that I'm joking around or that I'm not in love with this girl but i am positive that I am. I really cannot stop thinking about her,...

A.   7 March 2009: well first of all you were wrong when you said that you are still young to fall in love. well ain't true because even if you are still young at your age your hormones react to make you feel that way and everybody falls in love with somebody. i mean ... (read in full...)

Is it obvious to tell if a condom breaks

Q.   So me and my partner had sex twice in february. When we had the 2nd time, he had a condom on and before he finished, he took his penis out of my vagina and so i saw he finished in the condom OUT of my vagina. the first time we had sex that month ...

A.   1 March 2009: well my qeustion is did you see him take out the condom from his penis? and yes condoms can break and precum can get you pregnant as well cause it carries spermo on it too. i never experienced a condom broke so i dont know but i heard from my freind ... (read in full...)

Is it obvious to tell if a condom breaks

Q.   So me and my partner had sex twice in february. When we had the 2nd time, he had a condom on and before he finished, he took his penis out of my vagina and so i saw he finished in the condom OUT of my vagina. the first time we had sex that month ...

A.   1 March 2009: you probobly are pregnant and i sggest that you take a home pregnancy test with your b/f but in soem ways it might just be taht you are late or just sick and affected your due date.... (read in full...)

How to bag him for myself???

Q.   If I really like someone and that guy, I'm really close to but he doesn't want to be in a relationship now... what shall I do to get his heart because it is really hard for me to forget about him. He is exactly my type of guy and I really adore him ...

A.   1 March 2009: just be there for him and maybe one day he'll be ready to have a relationship with you but for the mean time jsut show him that you love him and that you respect his decison on not wanting to be in a relationship yet. good luck..... (read in full...)

Should I break up because of a sparkless kiss?

Q.   I haven't kissed my boyfriend because I'm nervous. I won't feel the sparks like eveyone says, I really like him honestly I don't want to wreck it with a kiss and I don't want him to end it because I'm a bad kisser. I never kissed anyone so how do I ...

A.   1 March 2009: You're kinda funny. you think about it too much. just tell him that you never kissed someone before and he'll understand. and besides i didn't kiss anybody till i reached 11th grade and my girl told me that i was a great kisser and when i told her ... (read in full...)

Could she be pregnant even with us using a condom?

Q.   hi to all of you out there. well me and my g/f had sex on the 24th and we used a brand new condom and i came inside her with the condom on my penis. could she be pregnant even thought the condom didnt break or it didnt have any leakage. this morning ...

A.   28 February 2009: well her period was usually not on the spot to the date or week even before we had sex her period sometime occures during the 2nd 3rd or last week of every month and i dont know if i should be worried cause she keeps on vomiting till now and i just ... (read in full...)

She's beautiful, and perfect for me... I think she's falling in love, what should I do?

Q.   i have a best girl friend. i fell in love with the wrong person i got really hurt and she was always there to cheer me up, make me laugh, distract me from things etc. so far shes done a great job. when im with her i forget about every problem i have ...

A.   28 February 2009: well question is that do you have feelings for her too if you do then why not try and ask her out on a date and probobly you guys will end up getting married and will be perfect for each other dont you think.... (read in full...)

How do I let my sick Dad know I've forgiven him for cheating on my Mom?

Q.   um...hello i need your help my dad and mom divorced because of my dad's cheating, but now he is suffering because he has poor health, he thinks i'm angry at him, but the truth is i can't find the courage to tell him i've forgiven him a long time...

A.   28 February 2009: well i wonder if i could talk to you in filipino 'cause im half but speaks the language but anyways best things is to go up to your dad and tell him that you have already forgiven him for the thing that he had done. in some ways you are still lucky ... (read in full...)

We're underage but want to have sex, where can we buy condoms?

Q.   i'm under 16 and i want to have sex with my bf the only problem is we need some condoms and we dont no if we are aloud to buy them and where ...

A.   28 February 2009: well its either wait for it so taht you can buy it by yourself or talk to yur parents about it or ask your friends if they have one that you can buy(not quite a good idea 'cause condom's might be old and they would just give you a bad one and it ... (read in full...)

Is there any way to kinda like "help" make a girl like me?

Q.   I have a quick question. I am a freshman in high school and I've been kinda lonely since all of my friends have girlfriends and I wish I had someone to talk to and stuff like they do. The only problem is that it seems like no girls like me. I'll ...

A.   28 February 2009: well its mostly self-respect, confidence an being yourself are the most important things and if you like a girl then tell her how you feel and let her see it that you really like her and dont let the "big side of you get in your way.... (read in full...)

I like her but shes the best friend of one of my mates

Q.   There is this girl in my class who is really good looking, not quite the smartest but i still really like her and when we do hang out we get along. There are two problems with me liking her 1. i can't talk to her properly as i get embaressed and 2. ...

A.   28 February 2009: well as my advice better of tell her how you feel so it wouldn't be a burden to you to keep it as a secret and maybe she'll tell you how she feels about you too(and if she does i hope she will do it in a respectful tone). take care ... (read in full...)

I'm told "you're pretty"..but I've never been kissed

Q.   well latley iv been thinking is it weird that i am a middle schooler 8th grade who still has not kissed a guy my 2 best friends have not, one has a boy friend id love one but im really awkward around boys when it comes to crushes and all that. i ...

A.   28 February 2009: well i see your point at that. i reached 11th grade before i had my first kiss and it was because it was my choice not to kiss those years before and yeah most people's reaction are like that "REALLY? but you are so preety" all i could say is that ... (read in full...)

My g/f's grandmother died..is she taking it out on me?

Q.   Yesterday night my girlfriends grandmother died. I want to be there for her but she's really not letting me. She tried to avoid me today... But she ended up talking to me. Overall she's been very mean to me... I don't bring up her grandmother ...

A.   27 February 2009: well for right now i would suggest that you tell her about how you feel on the way she's been acting. and tell her how much you lover her and that you will be there for her whenever she needs you and most of all show it. ps: i'm sorry to hear the... (read in full...)

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