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My wife of 20 years says she loves me but doesn't fancy me!
Q. My wife loves me very much but she doesnt fancy me at all. We have been together for 20 years, sex has been great until 2 years ago. In that time we have had sex just twice and I don't know if she likes it. She is 40 and I am 38 i'm getting so ...
A. 29 June 2006: I'm sure she loves you very much and would not want to be with anyone else. The fact she doesn't fancy you anymore does not indicate she loves you any less, as you state here love is more important then sex to her. I think what has happened here ... (read in full...)
Sex hurts me, and my boyfriend doesn't enjoy it either...
Q. Me and my boyfriend have had sex a few times, but he never cums. Does this mean we are not really having sex? And it still hurts when we do it. I thought it is not supposed to hurt after a few times. Is this normal? Also, my boyfriend and I had sex ...
A. 29 June 2006: Why did you have sex without a condom for a few minutes? You are playing with fire, he could have had some pre cum there (men get a little dribble occasionally when they are excited) Maybe he needs to be turning you on more to get you wet down ... (read in full...)
Feel like I'm going to be all fingers and thumbs when it comes to making the next move... ?
Q. Hiya me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over a week and I know that he has done things with his girlfriend in the relationship before and im a complete virgin but want to take the next step with him. I really want to give and receive ...
A. 29 June 2006: Just a week is that all? Do you want to give your virginity to someone so quickly after knowing them for like 5 minutes? Now think carefully, once you go down that road there is no turning back. Wait longer to see how he really feels for you. I ... (read in full...)
We've been split up, but I miss him so much still!
Q. ive been seperated from my partner for 7 months he didnt treat me that great but i miss him so much dont know what to do...
A. 29 June 2006: Why do you miss him when he didn't treat you right honey? Think of the times when he didn't respect you etc, do you really want to be with someone like that? You are worth more then that, think very carefully my dear. xx... (read in full...)
I'm 19 - I want a boob job, I lost a baby & my partner thinks I've cheated on him!
Q. I'm a 19 year old woman who hates her body and most all all her breasts. I want a boob job but its ruining my relationships because of my low confidence and self-esteem pls help me makes sense of what i should do? i love my partner of three years an...
A. 28 June 2006: Hey Martini there is no need to swear!! That is a bit uneccessary. Anyway you really got your point across. I thought this site was supposed to be of help to people, to give UNBIASED advice. Sometimes you have to give a bit of input on what has ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to get over a breakup?
Q. I am 36 years old and have allways found it difficult to strike up relationships with girls until I met my girlfirend, who I was devoted to for 8 years. She has now left me for another man. I believe she was having a text message affair with him. I ...
A. 27 June 2006: Oh darlin, I hope you have some real good friends you can hang out with right now. It sounds like you are heartbroken. Of course you are still feeling the fresh pain and upset of the break up, you have invested 8 years of your time into the ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 27 June 2006: Soft porn seems like something just to tide a man over until he gets a real woman, but it actually ends up creating an insatiable craving for an endless array of artificial, touched-up images such that no human can ever satisfy the addict. When ... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian and he's agnostic. Other than that, we get along great. Will it be a problem?
Q. I am a 25 year old single girl. I have been on a few dates with several different men. But I was set up with this guy from some friends and we have been dating for a couple of weeks. I really like talking to him. He makes me laugh and think and well ...
A. 27 June 2006: Hey honey!! As long as you get along just fine then what would be the problem? As long as he will still let you beleive in what you want to beleive in and it doesn't get in the way, then I can't see a problem. Best thing to do is to see how it ... (read in full...)
Growing my hair to feel attractive
Q. Hey guys I have a yet another problem i would like to have long hair because at the moment ny hair is short to medium length I loike to have long hair as it will help me feel attr45active guys please give me some ideas thanks guys...
A. 22 June 2006: ...or a wig...... (read in full...)
Growing my hair to feel attractive
Q. Hey guys I have a yet another problem i would like to have long hair because at the moment ny hair is short to medium length I loike to have long hair as it will help me feel attr45active guys please give me some ideas thanks guys...
A. 22 June 2006: Get hair extensions...!!... (read in full...)
The bastard dumped me and I want him to feel my hurt too!
Q. dear Agony aunts. I was dumped last month still have feelings of anger towards my ex, and I'm feeling angry because of lies and false promises. I really want him to feel bad, I know he felt bad when we broke up- shame, that doesn't help bec...
A. 22 June 2006: STOP!!!!! Oh my, ahhh, not surprised you are feeling angry. Hey honey, that is most natural to be feeling like you do, it's the kind of reaction he knows would happen. Do totally the opposite, do nothing. Yes you heard me...do nothing.
He is... (read in full...)
Know any good Icebreakers!?
Q. Im so scared ...... im going out with this guy but i never know what to discuss with him ? have u got any like ice breakers? lol ...
A. 21 June 2006: Hey, just be yourself, treat him as you would a friend, initially it will be a little uncomfortable, but that's natural. You are thinking too much about your feelings, and no doubt you will be a little nervous! Darlin, just take it easy, ta... (read in full...)
I'm paranoid that my boyfriend is having an affair..
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years, but for the last six months I've been torturing myself over whether he's having an affair. Deep down I actually really don't think he's the type, or has the time, to have an affair, but since one ...
A. 21 June 2006: I agree with Dr Pete. Honey, if you have been in the relationship as long as you have, you should be able to voice your concerns. I appreciate it is a bit of a delicate issue, if he has anything to hide he will be uncomfortable about talking ab... (read in full...)
He Started to avoid me but I really like him, not sure whats going on!!!
Q. what should i do? i like someone who said he liked me and when everything was going ok he start to avoid me i think he might of heared somthing from someone eles that liked me at the time. i'm so confused because i like this boy a lot!...
A. 21 June 2006: Oh dear! What knots we tie ourselves up into sometimes! Well darlin, sounds like something has triggered his response to avoid you. What that is I don't know, maybe just have it out with him, could be a bit flirty and say..hey, I'm beginning to ... (read in full...)
I suspect him of seeing other women, but really want him to just want me!
Q. I` ve been having an affair with someone with whom we were for a year just friends.Lately a lot of things have changed in the attidute he used to have towards me and I suspect that he is cheating on me and may be having another woman too.I`m in need ...
A. 21 June 2006: Oh honey, how horrible! Your heart must be torn, you love him, does he love and feel the same way though? It could work if you were to back off a bit, you stated there that you love him and need him. Needing someone is not totally healthy, you ... (read in full...)
I think we like each other but im really shy and dont know where to start ?
Q. Hi, I am really shy, and always afraid to start conversations with other girls, that I like, also this girl stares at me a lot and I stare at her a lot, which gives me the impression we like each other, but we have barely spoke to each other before, ...
A. 21 June 2006: Well, it is hard when your shy. It can be quite a hurdle to overcome, people who are not shy don't appreciate this so much. I know what it's like to be in your shoes as I was shy...still can be from time to time. I think that there is an elem... (read in full...)
What's with all this texting?
Q. For the past couple of months I've observed my wife ( forty-seven years old) acting supsicious with her cell phone. She always keeps it close to her even when she goes to bed she puts it on the night stand next to her. I've caught her several times ...
A. 20 June 2006: Oh babe, sounds like you could be in trouble here! There is something fishy going on, the sooner it is sorted the better. Maybe try and have it out with her, as 'broken in 2' suggests, maybe ask to see the texts, if she has nothing to hide then ... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate? Advice please?
Q. i'm 15. i dont masturbate. am i ment to? cos a lot of people say everybody maturbates. second question is how do you masturbate?...
A. 20 June 2006: I started masterbating at 13, everyone is different. We all develop at different levels. I started to rub myself against things, then it came naturally for me to experiment with my hand, when I found this too rough (I like the more gentle touch, ... (read in full...)
Does this guy really like me ? How can I tell ?
Q. Theres this guy i like a lot means he's my friend i just asked him casually would you want to be my boyfriend but his reply was i am busy and haven't thought about it.i know that he is busy but just that i love him and want to know if he feels the ...
A. 20 June 2006: Darlin, he may not be ready to commit himself to a reltionship! It is heartbreaking especially if you love him and your feelings are not being recipricated. At least he knows know how you feel and it is up to him to make that crucial step from ... (read in full...)
How can I get out and make friends ?
Q. What is the best way to make new friends and get out of the house away from my computer?...
A. 20 June 2006: Do you know of any groups/associations/clubs in your area? What would you like to do in your spare time? Maybe you could go on an evening course, that way you will meet people and learn something too. That way when you do go out you will have ... (read in full...)
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