Should I tell my mother and risk my whole family finding out what happened?
Q. Hi there Aunts and Uncles. This is is something that has been playing on my mind for a long time. I'm remaining anonymous due to the topic. I was molested by my cousin as a child. The earliest incident I remember was when I was 4. My cousin was 25...
A. 10 March 2010: I'm sorry this happened to you. It's a big decision to make and only you can't make it, but justice should be made and that sick bastard should go to jail. He ruined your life and Jays life and who knows how many other kids he touched. People like ... (read in full...)
Topsy turvy or bottoms up?
Q. okay, well i've been with my bf for nearly a year and ive always been bottom and i love it like that, ive never even thought, fantasied or considered myself to be on the top side of sex it just doesn't do it for me, but now my bf wants me to top him ...
A. 9 March 2010: Why cant you be on top? Do you have selfesteem issues and dont like him looking up at you? or is it something else? Being on top puts you in control so to speak.. you are in charge of that moment and that can be a real turn on for guys - the thought ... (read in full...)
Need help/advice on how to move on from my ex who hurt me so badly..
Q. Hi All, I have previously posted a question asking if I should stay with my ex who cheated on me and got a girl pregnant or if I should just move on. Its been such a hard struggle deciding which I should do even though in logic I know which optio...
A. 9 March 2010: I know we are all human and mistakes is just a part of life - but when someone continously hurts you with their mistakes and doesnt seem to learn from them, when is enough enough? I would love to think I could give him yet another chance and forgive ... (read in full...)
Need help/advice on how to move on from my ex who hurt me so badly..
Q. Hi All, I have previously posted a question asking if I should stay with my ex who cheated on me and got a girl pregnant or if I should just move on. Its been such a hard struggle deciding which I should do even though in logic I know which optio...
A. 9 March 2010: I do hang out with my guy friends - but Im not keen on anything with another man right now.. I rather not make my situation even more complicated or hurt someone later when I know Im not ready right now.. I dont know how to forgive him for what he ... (read in full...)
I feel I may have reacted to her cheating badly
Q. am i wrong for what i did? i was dating a girl that left her boyfriend for me... all along saying how crazy he was and how much she wished he would leave her alone... at first things were great she was ALL about me we started spending Alot of time ...
A. 3 March 2010: You didnt do anything wrong but discover your girl was messing around on you - get out now, dont worry about her feelings because she obviously doesnt care about yours. By the sounds of it you havent been together too long, dont sweat it, dont take ... (read in full...)
Should I go back to my ex that cheated? Or try the new guy out?
Q. ..I just recently got out of a relationship.. Where i was lied to multiple times, but ONLY cheated on once..with his ex..but never told me about it till i had legit proff.. but anyways I have found myself liking this guy from work, but can't seem to ...
A. 3 March 2010: Hi there - I dont know if Im the best person to be giving advice in regards to your situation as I am in the same boat. I was lied to throughout my 3 yr relationship when my ex, emotionally cheated on thru emails and text messages to other girls he ... (read in full...)
Is great sex worth being cheated on and lied to?
Q. My girl's a liar and a cheat but she's so good sexually that I can't ditch her. She lets me do ANYTHING. Tempting? How am I supposed to go out and meet other girl that compare to THAT? Comparatively, every girl I meet is so boring sexually....
A. 2 March 2010: I guess you have to ask yourself this - Do you want to be in a long term loving relationship with someone who will be faithful and bring happiness to your life.. or do you want to have great sex with a girl who cheats and lies to you... ps if shes ... (read in full...)
What do girls really mean when they say "size doesn't matter"?
Q. For just about the majority of my life, I've heard all about that "bigger is better" stuff. Well I'm pretty much 18 now and I'm convinced that I won't be growing down there anymore since it's been that way since I was 12. Mine is 4.5 inches lon...
A. 1 March 2010: Size doesnt matter Ill tell you that much. As long as the guy is confident and knows what he is doing, then size doesnt come into play. Ive been with a guy who had a fairly large penis however the sex was bad because he didnt know how to use it ... (read in full...)
Does he want the relationship to go further?
Q. Okay guys Im a 15 year old male and my boyfriend is 17. We've been going out more a little over a month now. And things are fine as it is. We get along great and i really care for him. And we really haven't gotten to anything sexual..just kissing ...
A. 1 March 2010: Why dont you ask him yourself? Communication and honesty is a big part in a healthy relationship... But by the sounds of it, he wants to take it to the next level, maybe he doesnt want sex....but possibly want to start off on oral... just ask him ... (read in full...)
He says he can no longer be faithful because of my weight
Q. Is there a way to get a man to accept that you're big? He says that he really loves what we have together it's the best sex he has ever had but he feels like he can no longer be faithful because of my weight is there anyway to change that I have ...
A. 1 March 2010: I dont understand, he says the sex is the best ever and he really loves what you guys have... but he cant be faithful because you put on some weight? To me he sounds like such a pig. Obviously everything is about looks to him because if he loved you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated on me with his ex and now she is pregnant
Q. ok so my boyfriend of about 7 months cheated on my with his ex. they had sex and now she's pregnant . I can honestly say he was my first love so I can't hate him . but I'm mad at him . I can't get over the fact that he cheated . I need advice o...
A. 25 February 2010: Ive been in your position recently. I was with my ex for 3 years, the relationship was never happy as he was always hurting me, pursuing other girls behind my back etc. Anyway he cheated on me and got her pregnant. The baby is now 5 wks old.. He ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my husband and another guy. Which should I choose?
Q. I am in love with 2 different guys. One is my husband. We have been married almost 4 years. We have spent more time apart than together. He has a record for cheating on me. He's cheated on me more than count. He says hes changed. He is also the ...
A. 25 February 2010: By the sounds of it the other guy is more mature and would be a better partner to you. You dont want to be with someone who cheats on you..if hes done it numerous amounts of time they he will never stop..he doesnt even care about his daughter when ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 22 February 2010: Laura1318 - thank you for recommending the site, I will definitely be making myself friendly with it. ... (read in full...)
Problems with my bf...need some opinions on my situation!
Q. I am coming forward seeking an opinion on a live in relationship that I am currently involved in. For about the last six months I have been witnessing some behaviours that are hard to work with and around. My boyfriend does not want to do anything ...
A. 22 February 2010: Wow - sounds like you have a very ungreatful asshole of a boyfriend. He only thinks of himself and doesnt seem like he puts in ANY EFFORT into your relationship and to show you that you are loved by him. Id say try and have a mature conversation ... (read in full...)
Is sex texting a form of cheating?
Q. I went through my boyfriends phone recently and found some text messages I'm not too happy about. He's been sending raunchy texts to his ex-girlfriend. It made me so sick to my stomach when I read them, and what made me even more sick is I looked at ...
A. 22 February 2010: Well first of all there must be a reason why you went through his phone...did you have a suspicion that made you act on it? It is absolutely wrong for him to be sending those types of messages to anyone who isnt you!! By the sounds of it they have ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to tell if I am bi or straight
Q. So uhmmm Im confused... I'm not sure if I'm bi or straight. I really don't know how to tell if I am or not. Would anyone be able to help me out with this? Tell me what to look for or how I should feel or something? I've been unsure for a couple ...
A. 19 February 2010: Apparently 1 in every 2 girls is bi or has the urge to pursue another female...like the other poster said, if you get turned on by a girl, think she is sexy and would like to mess around with her...most probably you are bi. Experiment...but you are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems very secretive and I think he may be cheating
Q. I think that my fiance may be cheating on me. I am not sure, but something tells me that he is, and that he is still lieing to me about it when I confronted him. I found texts twice on his phone about him meeting up with someone and them catching ...
A. 19 February 2010: Sounds like he is - my ex bf was exactly the same... very VERY secretive with his phone, never left it down always had it by his side, even when going to the shower or toilet! Also I found msgs like you have found, and I got those same kind of ... (read in full...)
Is 4 sexual partners a high number for a 21 year old?
Q. I just broke up with my boyfriend and we only dated for 2 months and he was basically using me for sex, I posted a question about it a couple hours ago and recieved good respones. My question now is- I am 21 and have had sex with 4 people. Is that a ...
A. 19 February 2010: I don't think 4 is too high for your age. Everyone is different in what they perceive to be high or low numbers in sexual partners. When I was 21 I had only slept with 5 people. Compare that to my friends who's numbers were tripple mine. It's up to ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 19 February 2010: Yes - he has never been one to take responsibility for his own mistakes, its always been someone elses fault.. whether it be when he found out she was pregnant he said to a mutual friend of ours (I hate Hannah she has ruined my life) instead of ... (read in full...)
Is this what younger girls are like these days??
Q. Can some of you please explain the mind set of today's young women in their early 20's? I am in my mid-30's and have recently entered the dating scene. Although I am 35, I am in great physical condition and most people say I look 25. I married my...
A. 18 February 2010: As a female myself in my early 20's Id have to say not all of us are like that. I enjoy giving oral sex, however I would never do it on the first date no matter how much I was into the guy. When I was younger I used to think that you had to kiss ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 18 February 2010: Well now there are 2 sides of the story (as there always is), one coming from his cousin telling me he is playing me and the other coming from his sister saying its all bullshit and that the other part of the family are just causing trouble because ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 18 February 2010: UPDATE - First of all let me thank each and everyone who has given me advice. I no longer have this dilemma. I just found out from my guys cousin that he is still playing me. Hes been playing the girl who had his baby saying he wants them to work ... (read in full...)
I'm so frustrated because of my name and envy others with nicer names!
Q. Please try to understand how I feel, because this problem might seem really shallow to others, but it's upsetting me a lot. I love my family, but I hate, hate HATE our family surname. I don't mean I just don't like it. I mean that the name ca...
A. 18 February 2010: Wow - When I first started reading your post I thought wow I wonder what her surname is, then I come to the part where you state its "Williams"... Im sorry to be harsh but your obviously a very judgemental person, even to yourself! Williams is such ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 17 February 2010: I guess a tiny part of me is still holding onto that little bit of hope that people can actually change and he is one of them... Its been 7 months since it all happened, I had bare minimum contract with him during this time for my sakes, but he ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to slip a note to a married lady letting her know I find her sexy?
Q. Is it Ok to slip a note to a married lady letting her know you find her attractive and sexy?...
A. 17 February 2010: Lift her spirits in a different way other then telling her shes sexy... maybe send an anonymous bunch of flowers saying "just wanted to brighten your day a little" and thats it... no need to tell her shes sexy, if shes having self confidence issues ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 15 February 2010: Every comment that has been posted so far is correct even though I wish they werent. Im the kind of person who tries to see good in everyone, I tried to help him change his life around since day one, he had a terrible up bringing which I believe is ... (read in full...)
Whilst we were on a break he fathered a child - What should I do?
Q. I really need advice from people who have gone through my situation or know of someone who has. I'll try and keep it short. I was in a relationship with a guy for 2 years when I told him we needed a break so he could sort himself out, our ...
A. 15 February 2010: Every comment that has been posted so far is correct even though I wish they werent. Im the kind of person who tries to see good in everyone, I tried to help him change his life around since day one, he had a terrible up bringing which I believe is ... (read in full...)
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