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How long before we can become exclusive?

Q.   I am 36 and was divorced a few years ago. Since my divorce I have had a few relationships (one lasted over a year)and lots of dates. All of the women I met and dated were smart, funny, generally fine and for the most part they like me much more ...

A.   29 June 2010: Youll kno but for rite now your probably going in a lil too slow or too fast u gotta feel her out n when ur kissin n huggin dont b scared to go to 4th base lol but long as she resist and your both on the same page ... (read in full...)

She said I smother her!!!

Q.   Hey everyone, I'm really really confused right now, and kind of sad. I havent cried in over 2 years but I really feel broken right now. I'm kind of friends with my ex-girlfriend right now. She has a lot going on in her life (eating disorders, e...

A.   29 June 2010: First of all bro u said she is ur ex girl, shes an ex for a reason. Leave her alone if it didnt work before, its def not gonna work now all of a sudden. Esp if shes sayin ur smothering her, its sounds easy to say but its hard. U can do it tho! U say ... (read in full...)

Why does it still hurt after all this time?

Q.   I feel as if i'm over my ex.. but sometimes I do still think of him and it really unsettles me, he has a new girlfriend now, I don't feel jealous, she seems perfectly nice, but I can't help feel hurt if I see pictures of them together. Me and his ...

A.   3 January 2010: With some people I dont think the pain ever goes away, unless you block those people out your life.. I just recently hung out with a x and shortly after saw her with one of her x's n was crushed... I havent ben with this girl in over a year n also ... (read in full...)

He seems to sway towards being friendly but then gets upset about past arguments!

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I have posted here before and got some helpful advice so I'm back again! I'm really confused about the behviour of my ex. We split up about a year ago but stayed in touch. During arguments he has threatened to change his phone ...

A.   3 January 2010: Hello Sometimes when people break up its best to stay apart... he probably does still luv you, which is why he is so affectionet. On the other hand he was probably hurt by whatever old arguments he keeps bringin up... I would suggest that you talk... (read in full...)

My penis won't stay up when it comes time for penetration. Please help!

Q.   ok so im a virgin and me and my girl have been doin role play kissing for an hour and my penis is hard through tht tht but once we stop and I want to go N my penis gets soft and I can't get it hard enough to penetrate and im to young for viagra ...

A.   19 May 2009: Try Yohimbe any whole foods has it or just google it....all natural n works like a charm... (read in full...)

Wife had affair. don't know what to do.

Q.   i've been married for 6 years now, and it's been pretty happy up until recently. a couple of days ago, i accidentally overheard a conversation between two of my wife's friends and it was revealed that my wife had an affair with one of her cowor...

A.   18 May 2009: I dont know if you have children with her or not but if not I would say leave her because when a woman cheats it will never be the same.... (read in full...)

How much time should go by before proposing?

Q.   I am wondering , What is the ideal amount of time before you propose marriage to a woman? I am madly in love with my girlfriend and cant imagine my life without her. I know its too soon, but i want some feedback to what amount of time of dating is a ...

A.   22 January 2009: Id say atleast 2yrs of dating and one year living together..If your in a rush Id say a year dating and a year living together.. And Id say do marriage counseling before you go thru with it.... (read in full...)

6.5 years and she's not being honest with me? Move on?

Q.   My girlfriend of 6.5 years is lying to me. She got this new job more than a year ago and last year I stared to notice some changes in her. Last year we were in the process of buying a house together than soon get married. However, I was not happy ...

A.   22 January 2009:  I think that your gut feeling is right,you can feel it when your being cheated on. The first time you broke up with her you were on point. What it is youve been with her so long of coarse your gonna miss her, you mite even get sick. Love is crazy... (read in full...)

Lack of trust... or lack of commitment?

Q.   Hi. I have a huge problem. I'll quickly tell you things before i get onto the main part. I'm 20 and been going out with my girlfriend for 2 years. Before her, i had 3 girlfriends who all cheated on me. Anyway to the story. About 8 months ago, i...

A.   15 October 2008: I think that you are absolutely right. She should have deleted the number, really she shouldnt have given him her phone. Especially if you all work together that is really disrespectful.... (read in full...)

Am I doomed to stay with this man -till death do us part- just so I can keep my kids together?

Q.   I dont know what to do. Can anyone help pls? about 5 months ago my husband suggested we try a 3sum to spice things up in our sex life, to make matters more complicated my husband said it should be with an ex of mine (well i say ex, i had an affa...

A.   26 September 2008: You should follow your heart, making a decision like that I would go off of pure feeling because either way it will be painful and crazy. ... (read in full...)

I found a very suspicious email... is my wife cheating? She says it's just a joke.

Q.   Hello - I am a married male 41 yrs of age - married 15 yrs now - and recently caught this reply email from my wife's male friend in her hot mail account. I found it by accident one day cleaning out old files on our laptop. Didn't even know she had ...

A.   10 August 2008: Not mocking you,, not challenging you.. I know,, without any reservation,, fact,,, you control the bedroom... I'm the bitch,, you own me,,, and I love it. Most likely she is cheating(97.999%), it hurts my heart to read it. Ben through thi... (read in full...)

Is there an alternative?

Q.   I am suffering from premature ejaculation and because of this ,I cannot satisfy my wife. So she wants to go out and have sex with someone else to get satisfied. Is that an alternative?...

A.   10 August 2008: No that is not an alternative. If she is your wife she has to work with you, your not even getting a full experiencet. Try yohimbe you can get it from GNC, wallgreens, whole foods or health store and take a couple eye drop fulls. I would suggest ... (read in full...)

I get this jealous streak when it comes to my older boyfriend! Is this because I'm inexperienced?

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years, and he is 8 years older than me (imonly 18). I find myself feeling jealous when he goes out, as i dont go out hardly ever, and i also get jealous because he talks to quite a few old friends- of ...

A.   28 June 2008: He is playing you. ... (read in full...)

I love him, but I'm sure I've lost him. how can I cope?

Q.   I have problems with my bf. Or maybe soon to be ex. Probably soon to be ex. See, we have a long history of issues because in my past I was with some guys he knew. This was way before I met him, but when we started dating I never told him, even t...

A.   28 June 2008: I odnt think it is all of your fault. What happend on the past was in the past. I dont think that you should have distanced yourself from the friends that you were with. You should always keep things general when you gave him details, they probably ... (read in full...)

Am I insecure or was my girl cheating?

Q.   Well it all started when my girlfriend told me she went to the mall with a male friend who I had heard of before, but I never knew they went on what I consider a date. So we get pass that, then I notice that whenever she goes out it was almost ...

A.   28 June 2008: Thanks alot even though it has ben hard, I broke up with her. There are too many women in the world to be sick over one. I had readched the point where I having thoughts of going through her stuff and to me thats not good. Its not worth it If I have ... (read in full...)

Can I trust my girlfriend after she's lied to me?

Q.   Ok, I want to ask for outside opinions of whether I should trust my girlfriend. Sorry for the length, but it's necessary to explain. We've been together for 2'ish years now, although we do not live together. One night, we were both at our resp...

A.   24 June 2008: Yeah bro dont trust it. My girl was a party girl had simular situation the best this is to walk away and dont look back,it will only reopen the wound. Her going out with any man is bad enough, then you add alcohol and the fact that theyve had sex in ... (read in full...)

I'm totally confused. I don't know what to think - my heart say take her back. My head says to give her another chance, but it also says to end it before she does it again! Help!!

Q.   I have a problem that I need advice on. Sorry if it's a bit long... My girlfriend and I have been together for 8 years, but in the last 2 years things have been going wrong and we have come to an impasse. About 2 years ago, my girlfriend went ...

A.   23 June 2008: Listen brother, know its hard but you must drop this girl. Turn your back and never turn around. Because once you do it will only reopen the wound. Your girlfriend is cheating on you. She is a new woman and in her new world you arent apart of that. ... (read in full...)

Two BF's but I can only date one... right?

Q.   Hi everyone! uh okay, i'll get right to it. So i have this boyfriend, and i thought we loved each other. Sounds great, right? But theres a a problem... i recently started working and of course i met new friends and stuff, and im told that ...

A.   18 June 2008: I say if you think your gonna cheat just break it off because if you really loved your boyfriend you wouldnt want to get with the other guy... (read in full...)

I don't know if we're staying together, breaking up, working on it or what! Feedback, please!

Q.   I'm a 28 year old female in a relationship with a 36 year old man for a little over a year now. He has 2 children, a daughter 3 and a son 14. He also had been previously married to his daughter's mother. I have no children and have never been ...

A.   18 June 2008: I am also a single father and own my own business. You said he was married and is now divorced. That means he has probably had his heart broken and with children break ups can be confusing. He may really be in love with you, but these days I think ... (read in full...)

Ex girlfriend keeps calling when I back off for a few weeks, am I reading too much into this?

Q.   Can you guys pls help My G\F dumped me 3 months and said let be friends. I agreed. I have tried not to chase her but every 2 or weeks she initiates contact to say hi and catch up. Then I don't call her and 2 weeks later the same again Am i re...

A.   18 June 2008: Man just leave her alone. She probably really loves you and because she is doing what she is doing she feels guilty. As long as you kee talking to her your pain will take longer and longer to go away. ... (read in full...)

Is my girlfriend cheating?

Q.   I have been with my girl friend almost 2yrs. This has been my best relationship no arguing no fights. So far the only beef we have had has been about her going with a male friend to the mall, which I felt was bullshit, seemed like a date to me. So ...

A.   18 June 2008: My girldfriend was 26. Also to add to the story. Recently I broke up with her and on the same day her grandfather died. So I felt bad she came over of coarse with no sex. But I noticed that her mall friends name was written on her car. Which bugged ... (read in full...)

She's having an affair, and doesn't know who she loves more! I don't want to lose her, help!

Q.   I have recently found out that my girlfreind for the past 3 years is having an affair, with her boy best mate. I dunno what to do, she said she doesn't no who she loves more, him or me. I don't want to lose her but if i do it will be the end of my ...

A.   18 June 2008: You definately deserve better. There are too many women in this world to be stuck on one, unless your married with children. A woman that cheats is no good. Men and women cheat differently. Men get a nut women fall in love. So chances are that if ... (read in full...)

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