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What are the chances of history repeating? I messed up before and now can't trust me and feel uncomfortable about this girl

Q.   One of my good friend's gf keeps trying to hang out with me. I would but I don't really feel comfortable being alone with the gf. I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever, but I just don't want my friend to be excluded. I have done some...

A.   4 September 2011: yea thats definitely reasonable. Thank you! : )... (read in full...)

What are the chances of history repeating? I messed up before and now can't trust me and feel uncomfortable about this girl

Q.   One of my good friend's gf keeps trying to hang out with me. I would but I don't really feel comfortable being alone with the gf. I'm not sexually attracted to her whatsoever, but I just don't want my friend to be excluded. I have done some...

A.   4 September 2011: they don't know my reasoning behind it and i don't want my friend to think that i look at her gf in that way, bc i don't.... (read in full...)

Sexual confusion in my head

Q.   I am 30 years old and over the last 8 months, I have been consistently hitting by gay thoughts and also straight sex ones. Two days back, I masturbated imagining myself being female porn star and having sex with guys. I have been addicted to porn...

A.   6 August 2011: I think ur just sexually fluid. I wouldn't call u gay or bi though. If u've never been with a man u wouldn't know as far as sex goes. But if ur thinking about enough, it'll eventually happen. Just have fun and see what comes out of it. U'll figure ... (read in full...)

Any hope for us?

Q.   Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...

A.   22 July 2011: I'm starting to slow it down. I asked for my key back (I tend to lose my key and she was always around so...). She doesn't see why I needed to take it back, but I need to make sure I even want to continue on with the relationship and allowing her to ... (read in full...)

Any hope for us?

Q.   Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...

A.   21 July 2011: I'm still in this relationship with her. She hasn't said anything about our differences (financial and stability wise), asked if we're meant to be, or asked if I knew where the relationship is going from here. I mean it's only been a few days. I ... (read in full...)

Any hope for us?

Q.   Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...

A.   18 July 2011: I'm sorry u guys but I'm actually stating the things my gf said and was focusing on. She stated that I'm at a 10 compared to her 2 as far as financial and stability levels. I can care less just as long as we are loving, respecting, and adoring each ... (read in full...)

Any hope for us?

Q.   Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...

A.   16 July 2011: Yea threes def love involved but she says that were on different levels I'm at a 10 and she's at a 2. We both knew what we were going through, but it's our jobs to take care of our issues not our partner's. She wanting space bc she feels she can't ... (read in full...)

How do I prove to her that I do trust her?

Q.   how can i get through to my gf that i do trust her? my gf says i give vibes of not trusting her. she says i don't trust her because im not ready to give her my cc info and car insurance info for rental cars or hotel reservations, i don't want her ...

A.   15 July 2011: To tell you the truth. After she keeps telling me that I have trust issues, I started to believe her and now im questioning everything she does. She calls everyone her friend after meeting them once. One of her roommates has a friend over, but the ... (read in full...)

How do I prove to her that I do trust her?

Q.   how can i get through to my gf that i do trust her? my gf says i give vibes of not trusting her. she says i don't trust her because im not ready to give her my cc info and car insurance info for rental cars or hotel reservations, i don't want her ...

A.   15 July 2011: i've been going through the relationship in my head and i know that i haven't given any indication of not being able to trust in my gf. I tell her exactly what i'm feeling and she can't seem to grasp what i'm saying so she comes up with some kind of ... (read in full...)

My gf makes plans at the last minute, and then gets angry when I hesitate to help her!! What can I do??

Q.   I've been there for my gf. I gave her a place to stay when she almost got evicted. I give her rides whenever she needed to handle her business. Just being there for her. But she does things so last minute and she expects for me to jump up and go ...

A.   9 July 2011: if she has it she puts gas in the car, but its occasionally when i bring her to her destination. she helps with food.its hard to take care of the necessities with the bills and my food stamps are literally not doing any justice. she does her share, ... (read in full...)

I just can't do oral on her

Q.   Howdy... So I'm in a long distance relationship with another woman and I have been for quite a while. I love when she uses her tongue and her mouth on me, and so I'd like nothing better but to reciprocate, yet... I cannot. We have tried about ...

A.   3 July 2011: You make her vag sound nasty. Vagina's are the most beautiful part of a woman. It came natural for me. My mouth waters just thinking about eating. I'm hungry now. Lol jking. It doesn't make you less of a lesbian, but thats what we lesbians are known ... (read in full...)

GF can't make up mind where to live. Now she is moving in with this flirt who won't keep his hands off of her. Should I be done here?

Q.   Are we done here? For the past couple of months my gf's living arrangements have been changing. She needs a place to live and wants to move in with me. I am not ready for this kind of commitment and I feel pressured. She has friends that I l...

A.   30 June 2011: I've come to a conclusion to the situation. I've decided to calm down with the every night sleep overs. Ill leave that as an every weekend thing. I'm taking my spare key back. I'm gonna get to know her friends and maybe we all can have an ... (read in full...)

I didn't realize we were having company? Where are you going?

Q.   Say your gf/bf was hanging out with you all day until you have to go to work. Then all of a sudden, their friends show up to get them. There was no talk of the friends coming by or that they were leaving with them. How would you feel? How should you ...

A.   14 June 2011: I've realized that I'm a loner, I don't really deal with crowds, and I'm not a 'go with the flow' type of person. I'm fine with that. What I don't understand is why is it that I attract the total opposite of me? Granted I know everyone is different ... (read in full...)

I didn't realize we were having company? Where are you going?

Q.   Say your gf/bf was hanging out with you all day until you have to go to work. Then all of a sudden, their friends show up to get them. There was no talk of the friends coming by or that they were leaving with them. How would you feel? How should you ...

A.   14 June 2011: Ok yea it doesn't concern me as to what they were doing and where they were going (which I didn't care about), but it was how it was done. You don't just show up at someone place and take them. And for her response; just because they showed up, she ... (read in full...)

I didn't realize we were having company? Where are you going?

Q.   Say your gf/bf was hanging out with you all day until you have to go to work. Then all of a sudden, their friends show up to get them. There was no talk of the friends coming by or that they were leaving with them. How would you feel? How should you ...

A.   14 June 2011: Ok yea it doesn't concern me as to what they were doing and where they were going (which I didn't care about), but it was how it was done. You don't just show up at someone place and take them. And for her response; just because they showed up, she ... (read in full...)

A sleep over with friends is immature?

Q.   Am I the only one that feels that having sleep over with friends is pretty immature? I can understand if it's because of drunken partying. But to just have sleep overs among friends seems to be immature to me. It's like little kids that have the ...

A.   12 June 2011: Yeah I see what you mean.... (read in full...)

She doesn't give me oral - Is she really a lesbian?

Q.   I'm dating a girl who doesn't like to give oral. The basic thing to like and love in a lesbian relationship. Is it possible to still be a lesbian and not like to give oral to your partner?...

A.   11 June 2011: No offense taken. I've tried to date studs or butchs but it's one way with them. I am like it to be 50/50. I like to give and receive and a lot of women that I've been with have been switches. This is the 1st relationship I've been with other than ... (read in full...)

She doesn't give me oral - Is she really a lesbian?

Q.   I'm dating a girl who doesn't like to give oral. The basic thing to like and love in a lesbian relationship. Is it possible to still be a lesbian and not like to give oral to your partner?...

A.   11 June 2011: Maybe I should've never questioned her sexuality. Getting oral is very important to me. I can see if she did something instead but she doesn't. I do all the work in the bedroom and I'm tired of it. I like to orgasm too! Majority of the time I get my ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   3 June 2011: Tisha t whew that was deep. I wasn't even thinking about it like that. I am already half way out the door. I don't really see anything going beyond this. It just isn't looking good for us. ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   3 June 2011: Chigirl I tried to get through to her. Telling her that I don't take my cc info, car insurance, even living arrangement lightly and I would want to get some yearly stability and/or marriage before I start bringing finances into it. Her response, ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   2 June 2011: So maybe this won't work out. Now she's wanting to get a hotel room so she can be close to this program for a job. And she asked if I can use my cc info for the reservation, but she'll pay. What is it with this girl and my cc info? She assumed that ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   2 June 2011: Yes! Lol that's exactly it. Both of you have hit the nail on the head. I told her to tone it down with the big decision making especially if she's trying to involve me in them. I don't want to have any of my finances or my good name to be in a ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   1 June 2011: When I say support, of course I'll be there for the good times and bad times. I just meant I'm not gonna solve all her problems for her. The point of having a gf or bf is to add to the happiness that you already have. Not to take care of you. You ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   1 June 2011: So...I finally told my gf my feeling about the whole situation. This was discussed after she asked if I could rent a car with her. Not for a road trip, but I weekly thing so she can get around. Understandable right? Yea I know, but I'm not ready for ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   31 May 2011: Thanks that why I felt the way I felt.... (read in full...)

Emotional rollercoaster. Help me get off!!!!!

Q.   How do I control my anger and not put a strain on the relationship? I'm going through tough times right now. Mostly in the financial department. I have a job, but my hours are slipping. I've been applying for jobs, but hearing back from potential ...

A.   31 May 2011: Thanks ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   31 May 2011: And while I'm being completely honest about the situation. I came at her with intended anger. I was angry because I told her that I was ready and a few days later she said she was keeping her apartment. So I looked at it as if it was still ''my" ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   30 May 2011: Thank u I can definitely see it from both point of views.... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   30 May 2011: Well now it's kind of hard to just take the key back. Now she doesn't have a car and her job is literally 5 minutes away from my place. Her friends dint live too far from there either. She usually goes over their place. I just don't know why she ... (read in full...)

I don't feel it's her place to invite others to my home

Q.   So I've been in a relationship with my gf for about 5 mos. We argue occassionly. Never long lasting arguments though. The relationship is pretty healthy. The only thing is she has her own apartment that she shares with her cousin. Since we've been ...

A.   30 May 2011: yea i totally get what your saying. i'm just confused as to what she wants. if she says she wants to keep her apartment then i think she should go there. i wasn't interested in having her live with me before (in the beginning). it actually didn't ... (read in full...)

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