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I am straight to the point and don't like mincing my words. Although I have a huge sense of humour and am very well liked. Religion and any dogmatic beliefs piss me off. And I hate greedy politicians and all the verbal crap they pour down our throats.
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I do love him, but I don't trust him, how do I overcome this problem?
Q. Ok this is a long one, Me and my fiance have been dating for 6 years now and have 2 small boys together.I love him so much and would do anything for him. He has messed up so many times and every time he messes up i feel like a small piece of my be...
A. 29 May 2009: it will not do much good talking I bet you have already tried what the reader has sugested. That would have been the first step. It won't change him. He is set in that pattern of cheating on you and will no doubt carry on. If it was always as simple ... (read in full...)
I do love him, but I don't trust him, how do I overcome this problem?
Q. Ok this is a long one, Me and my fiance have been dating for 6 years now and have 2 small boys together.I love him so much and would do anything for him. He has messed up so many times and every time he messes up i feel like a small piece of my be...
A. 29 May 2009: He is taking the micky out of you. As hard as it is send him packing. He is only after living a single life, with you as the core of his security: someone he can come home to and use when the feeling suits. I know I've done the same to a lovely girl ... (read in full...)
Could we all try to have a little empathy, for those who ask questions on this site?
Q. This is not a question this is my personal opinion for some things said to others onthus site... I have read and commented on a lot of different forums on here and there is always someone who gets on and criticizes the ones asking for advice. For ...
A. 29 May 2009: Everyone has their own oppinions, so it's only right to express them truthfully without being patronising or writing with a bunch of useless platitudes. Sometimes we all need a bit of criticism wether you are proffessionals or members of the public. ... (read in full...)
I have a friend who thinks it's funny to lie all the time, why does she do this?
Q. Ok..so my friend lies to me..alot. She does it alot and whenever anyone confronts her about it, which is not alot, she always just jokes about it..and sometimes she can be mean about it. She always jokes all the time and lies..and sometimes I find ...
A. 29 May 2009: You can come up with all kinds of psychology trying to explain why your friend lies all the time; some people do it because they simply get a kick out of it. To them it's funny. I knew someone who used to tell the most absurd stories in the pub. ... (read in full...)
How can I help my sister?
Q. I have a quick question. My sister ask me some advice but I have no idea what to say to her b'cus I have never been in that position. She's having an affair with a married man and he says he wants to leave his wife. Aparently he told his wife he...
A. 28 May 2009: Tell her don't get involved. People who have affairs lie through their teeth to everyone: his wife, his children, the divorce laeyer; so why not your sister.... (read in full...)
We're having problems right now, how can we make things better?
Q. Me and my girlfriend were perfect together but now because of things i said over a year ago she says she feels different about me. she said she's sure she still loves me and doesnt want to break up but we dont know what to do. we decided not to talk ...
A. 28 May 2009: I think she using something from a year ago as an excuse because she is having doubts and is not sure what to tell you. Tell her you need to know how she feels by sitting down and talking. It's the only way you can move on together or apart instead ... (read in full...)
I love her, she says she loves me. Is it true?
Q. i got this girl, we tried it once but din't really work cuz long distance. back in 8th grade i was a player wont lie. but she say's she has done alot with other peopl in her past. I told her i've changed. she said she has to. i belived her an she ...
A. 21 May 2009: Trust is earned by the actions of others and not just by what they say. Only she can tell you whats going on in her mind; but the way she is with you can reveal a lot. At the end of the day she might be wondering the same about you as you both have ... (read in full...)
Is masturbating harmful to my marriage?
Q. I am 25 yrs old, I masturbate 2 to 3 times in day from last 10 yrs. It is harmfull or bad for my marriage life and I thing, may be due to this I am thin also and I ever don't have nightfail, it is normal? pls give me ans.......
A. 21 May 2009: The only time masterbating can be harmful to your marriage is when you prefer it to sex with your wife. I once read that excessive masterbating could be a sign of anxiety too. Or it could be that you simply horny all the time and fantasize a lot.... (read in full...)
Single and ageing
Q. is being female of 30 years old + bad thing and being single because i dont i'll ever get a boyfriend i live in a rural town where is absoulty nothing going on but the weather.i feel past sell by date.i feel there is no body there for me.i find when ...
A. 21 May 2009: It could be that there is a low population were you live and not many single people around as there is in big towns or cities. 30+ isn't old. It nothing to do with your age. There is genrally a few years difference with couples, men being older. ... (read in full...)
People stop to watch us because I am a black female with a white male!
Q. Black Female with a White Male. Everywhere we go people stop to watch us, like they have never seen this before. I notice when its a Black Male and White Female no one talks. What is the problem here? Don't White men: date and marry Black women?...
A. 21 May 2009: I used to go out with a black girl of jamaican heritage. I never realised how much racism there was in my part of the country. She did warn me when we first started dating.
There was the odd sneered comment here and there. Somtimes old peop... (read in full...)
My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me
Q. My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...
A. 19 May 2009: After a night with your girlfriend and her fetish stay off the vindaloo. It's a little more than role reversal. It's practically an evolution thing going on here.... (read in full...)
How do we find other swingers?
Q. My wife and I are becoming more and more open sexually and we have both decided that we would like to start swinging. I am really turned on by the thought of watching her have sex with another man while I watch. My question is, how do we go about ...
A. 18 May 2009: Try the zoo, there are monkeys there that swing all day.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
He proposed to me in the shower and then did doggy style!
Q. Like many couples, after sex, my boyfriend and I shower together. This usually leads to more erotic play; oftentimes it is the highlight of sex for me, especially since I find the water incredibly stimulating. My boyfriend is aware of this and ...
A. 18 May 2009: You wern't pressured into it you were pleasured into the proposal. There is a difference. What better way could there be? As for your friend she sounds a bit jealous, but maybe she doesn't want you rushing into things. It's not how he proposed thats ... (read in full...)
Why did my wife ask my opinion and then do the exact opposite?
Q. A few weeks ago, I got an email from my wife asking if it was all right with me to have my 18 year old stepdaughter's 20-year-old boy friend move in with us -- because he was kicked out of his house (his parents are going through a divorce). I ...
A. 18 May 2009: She apparently had already made up her mind before asking you. She was only asking on the hope that you would give her the answer she wanted and make things easier. She seems to be putting what her daughter wants before what you want even if it is ... (read in full...)
Having sexual dreams..does this mean he does too?
Q. i keep having repetitive intimate sexual dreams about one of the guys i went to school with, he stays just up the road from me and i cant seem to stop dreaming constantly about him, i think he likes me in a certain way, but we hardly ever talk, as i ...
A. 18 May 2009: You should read a book called The Interpretation Of Dreams by Sigmund Fraud. You will find that dreams are not to be taken at face value. They generally mean something totally different to what you are dreaming. Dreams can get really crazy. But ... (read in full...)
How long do I wait for her?
Q. Ok, so ive known this girl for 3 years, and ive really been into her the whole time. However after I had known her for a couple months she moved to California, and came back this year. We began talking alot, and i asked her to Prom. We went to ...
A. 18 May 2009: If I was you I wouldn't wait. Because you might be dissapointed in the end when she hooks up with someone else. Life is too short to hang around on the hope she might change her mind. You dont know what the outcome will be in the end. Just go on ... (read in full...)
What porn do women like to watch?
Q. My wife and I love watching porn together, but I admit porn is geared more toward men. What kind of porn is fun for women to watch?...
A. 18 May 2009: It doesn't go off gender, it is down to the individual. Your wife might like black men with white girls or threesomes, or she might like something different. The next time your having sex and she's at her peak ask her what her fantasy is, and there ... (read in full...)
I would love to carry out this fantasy for my wife!
Q. My wife fantasizes about watching me sleep with another man and I am bi curious, so I'm willing to do it for her. I'm just wondering how I would go about finding a man without "outing" myself, because I'm not actually gay... just curious....
A. 18 May 2009: You might be curious mate but once you do it with a fella you are gay. You can wrap it up in all the rhetoric you like it will still remain the fact. And think, if your wife fantasizes about it, how will she feel after you do it. It might put her ... (read in full...)
Am I cursed? Everything bad happens!
Q. Can i be cursed? My bad luck never stops. Now I don't even want to try new things, because what ever I try turns out to be a disaster. One bad thing after an other. Even people around me sort of falling away from me, because they can't help me, or e...
A. 18 May 2009: PS. get some viagra for your husband - it works.... (read in full...)
Am I cursed? Everything bad happens!
Q. Can i be cursed? My bad luck never stops. Now I don't even want to try new things, because what ever I try turns out to be a disaster. One bad thing after an other. Even people around me sort of falling away from me, because they can't help me, or e...
A. 18 May 2009: What's happening in your life is not so much to do with luck but circumstances; one of your children is on drugs, this is a problem in society that affects thousands. Nothing to do with luck more to do with choices people make. Violont attack are ... (read in full...)
Best friend's girlfriend is evil
Q. Im very confused over my best friend. This boy, I'll call him Allyn, and I have been very close friends for 6 years. We had a serious relationship that lasted for about a year and a half. We broke up about 10 months ago. He's been dating this girl ...
A. 18 May 2009: Sounds like she is a control freak and very jealous. It probably boils down to insecurities, it usually does. He seems scared of being on his own without a girlfriend so can't say no to her. He probably still carries a flame for you and shows it. ... (read in full...)
Why did she contact me all of a sudden?
Q. My girlfriend who last month turned 25 broke up with me over 4 months ago. It was not a bad break up, she felt as if she wasent putting the effort i was in the relationship. I was sad , heartbroken but went on. We dated for 1 year, well I kept busy ...
A. 18 May 2009: Try asking her what she wants. She might simply be missing you and wants to rekindle what you both had; or she might feel unsure about how she feels about you and needs to talk.If you find you both want the same thing then talk; if not, just stay ... (read in full...)
Was he trying to brush me off?
Q. Always good answers on this site. I broke up with my partner of 12 years three years ago and a year ago he starting calling me. I flew to where he had relocated to test the waters only to discover that there was someone else he had been seeing. I ...
A. 18 May 2009: I would have thought after twelve years you would have moved on yourself. He is obviously having problems in his relationship and wants to fall back on you when it suits him.
Tell him what to do. Move on and dont be running to him every time he c... (read in full...)
My girl wants to use a strap-on, on me
Q. My girl friend asked me if i would let her use a strap-on on me.i told her i would have to think about it and i just dont know what to tell her now.i dont know if that would make me gay...
A. 13 May 2009: Get plenty of lubricant ready. It might not make you gay but at least you will know what those poor suckers go through in the pain department. Maybe your girlfriend is a sadist.... (read in full...)
How can I make my boyfriend stop talking to other women?
Q. Hi I have been with my boyfriend for the past almost 7 months. He has proposed to me twice already and I have told him that I think its too soon. I met him through my ex as they both played hockey together. After my ex dumped me I became even clo...
A. 12 May 2009: I take it you are both in your teens. It's easy for people to say dont worry; your young and you got your whole life ahead of you. But it dont work like that. We all feel strongly about our partners whatever age we are. But if you feel he is ... (read in full...)
Frightened of my boyfriend and possibly pregnant
Q. Hi I am 16years old and my boyfriend is 19. We have been going out for a little over a year a recently he has been getting angry towards me such as when i have been text ed by a friend he will ask me who it is and if i do not say then he will squ...
A. 12 May 2009: If your boyfriend is showing violont tendencies towards you, It will only get worse. I know because I used to be just like him. I changed over years, so am speaking from experience - ditch him now.
Talk to your parents and doctor if (I know... (read in full...)
Why do I enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man ?
Q. Why do I want to watch my wife have sex with a man, our sex life is very good, but when a man came on to her I encouraged her and it led to full sex with me watching and I got so turned on and would loved to see her take a lover. I don't understa...
A. 9 May 2009: If you are like me you only get turned on if your wife gets turned on by it; if she gets turned off, Do you get turned off? If so, it is probably watching your wife reaching a climax with another man and enjoying it that turns you on so much. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Why do I enjoy watching my wife have sex with another man ?
Q. Why do I want to watch my wife have sex with a man, our sex life is very good, but when a man came on to her I encouraged her and it led to full sex with me watching and I got so turned on and would loved to see her take a lover. I don't understa...
A. 9 May 2009: In the seventies hippies shared thier women with each other and called it freedom of love. They may have a point. When you read the papers these days about men coming home drunk and killing thier devoted wives in fits of rage through paranoia and ... (read in full...)
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