He cried more over his old dog dying than he did over us splitting up.
Q. Hi I’ve just ended a 6 year relationship he preferred being at work and spending time with his dog than with me and his twin daughters who are 3 years old the problem is he is still living with me until he finds somewhere we split up 6 weeks ago I ...
A. 28 January 2020: When you care for an animal, it becomes your companion and best friend. I feel for your ex. The loss of a family pet is just as bad as losing a family member. You shouldn't judge him on how he has reacted to this trauma. I also believe that he ... (read in full...)
Is there a cruel free way to break up?
Q. Hello agony aunts, I've been with my bf for 1 year now, it's been a year full of ups and downs. The first few months of the relationship were great, well he's my first boyfriend, and I felt on cloud 9 with all those emotions and the love I felt, but ...
A. 21 January 2020: Breaking up is never easy to do. We all wish there was a way to do it that both parties accepts the break up and move on without angry or desperation.
You don't have to be cruel to make the break up a success.
You tell him how you are feeling,... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I loaned my b/f money because I wanted to help him?
Q. Hello everyone. I need help figuring out something. My boyfriend and I both in early 40s. He has a full time job, teaches at a university but financially in trouble because of divorce and some business investments. He has a potential as he is an ...
A. 16 January 2020: First of all you say you want to give him £10k then you say it is a loan. I would strongly recommend that you clear that up with him immediately. If it's a loan, get the terms of repayment in writing as you never know what can happen down the line ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gives me the bare minimum of time.
Q. I'm struggling with knowing if I should stay in a relationship and be patient or if I need to end things. I am 28 years old who has been in 3 serious relationships over the last 10 years. I've dated several people in addition to this. The man I'...
A. 10 January 2020: Hope is what will lead you down the road of disappointment and wasted time. Why are women blind to the man they see in front of them but clearly see the man they hope he will become so clearly?
Wake up woman. He isn't going to change. You eith... (read in full...)
My husband acted like he didn't care, so I left him.
Q. I am hurting deeply. My husband of 6 years has a barber and beauty salon on the same compound of his mother's home. I work 12pm-9pm and my parents helps with our three children. My husband usually leaves his place of work at a reasonable time to go ...
A. 6 January 2020: You made the right choice. He doesn't want to be a husband or a father. He wants to stay a mummy's boy. Never chase a guy who doesn't want to be chased.
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I'd like to have some fun with my sibling's friend, but don't know how to ask him.
Q. Please no judging, my sibling has a friend who I fancy the only problem I have is the age difference I am 42 he is 25. He has admitted in the past he liked me and this has gone on for the last 8 years. A few year back he actually sat discussing with ...
A. 6 January 2020: You say that the mutual attraction has gone on for 8 years? From he was 17 and you were 34? That in it's self is worrying. You are 42 year old woman wanting to play with a young guy just for fun? It will not be just fun for you. Can you really ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship and managed to come out the other side with minimal external support
Q. Hi Aunts I just wondered if anybody had ever been in an emotionally abusive relationship and managed to come out the other side with minimal external support. After being in a relationship for many years and constantly going back and forth ...
A. 17 December 2019: Hi there. I came from an emotionally and mentally abusive relationship. Unfortunately, I wasn't the only victim. My daughter suffered the worst. The first 11 years were amazing then I moved in with him and everything changed. He gas lighted me so ... (read in full...)
Help with two friendship situations please
Q. Dear all, I have two recurring situations and I seek your advice on it. I’m very sensitive to who are around me as friends and acquaintances, people who I think have questionable behavior or ethics (mean, rude, dismissive, arrogant, poor m...
A. 16 December 2019: I feel in this case that being judgmental is justified. You need to understand that other people exist in the world that you just have to tolerate and not everything is about you.
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Help with two friendship situations please
Q. Dear all, I have two recurring situations and I seek your advice on it. I’m very sensitive to who are around me as friends and acquaintances, people who I think have questionable behavior or ethics (mean, rude, dismissive, arrogant, poor m...
A. 11 December 2019: You sound very difficult to be around in all honesty. You don't have to like everyone that you find yourself around. Be mature about it. Your friend is right. Why can't everyone just co-exist?
You also come across as judgmental. If someone ... (read in full...)
Please help me understand an abusive man's actions
Q. Would a man who has been abusive to a woman deny his abusive behaviour if the woman finally exposed him to other people and she told them what he has been doing to her and why she left him and then he make up other excuses as to why she left him? A...
A. 11 December 2019: Abusive men tend you give everyone the best of them. This is why when you expose them, it's hard to be believed because the image that they portray is wholesome. I left an abusive relationship and my ex's family couldn't believe I left someone who ... (read in full...)
I need help to get my girlfriend back.
Q. Hie I broke up with my ex girlfriend 7 months ago but I can get over her because I still love her but she moved on with another guy and when ever the guy see me either talking to my ex or standing with her he tell my friends that am a threat. I ...
A. 11 October 2019: You don't get her back. You chose to break up with her and now she has moved on to someone else. Even if you did manage to get her back, I doubt she'd trust you.
Leave her be to be happy with someone else and learn from this.
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