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Row with my mom caused to leave for the night. What if she doesn't return?

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Question - (16 May 2016) 8 Answers - (Newest, 19 May 2016)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *rincessparkles writes:

me and my mum had a big row today and im worried it has ruined the love i used to have with her.

i asked my mum for £50 to buy some shoes and she said yes then said as long as their sensible and i just murmerd yes mum.

then i went out and bought these sparkly blue high beels and they were very hig.i took off my other shoes and put them on then i walked home.but when i got in the door my mum saw me wearing themand threw a hissy fit.i argued back and it ended in me storming out the house and twisting my ankle.

when i got back i went strait to my room and when it was dinner mum just called me down and then said she was leaving for the night to stay in a hotel.and im worried she might not come back and if she does what will i do???

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2016):

First, return the shoes. Give your mom the money back. Oh, and apologize!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2016):

Don't worry I'm very sure she will be back when she has calmed down.

But next time just think to yourself that £50 is a lot of money for a pair of shoes and you lied to her. Try to exchange the shoes for something more suitable and then apologise to your mum.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (18 May 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntShe gave you that money on one condition, but you didn't care less as soon as she gave you the money you knew you would not do as she had asked. So that itself was disrespectful. When I was your age if I had asked my mum for that kind of money she would have told me to go and get a job to earn it and then I could get what I wanted. So to me asking your mum for such a great amount of money and then disobeying her comes across as being a spoilt brat at your age.

Twisting your ankle in these shoes show you how silly it was to spend that kind of money on something that are not comfortable. Yes you can wear what shoes you like when you have the income to buy them yourself. You should return the shoes and get the refund, buy a card for your mum to apologize and put the fifty pound in to the card. It is the very least you can do for the way you treated her.

You are old enough to be making your own dinner, yet your mum still went out off her way after you treating her like dirt and made you dinner, I am not sure you are even aware off how lucky you are.

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A female reader, Ivyblue Australia +, writes (17 May 2016):

Ivyblue agony auntWell if she doesn't return, you will very quickly realise that the shoes were not that important after all :0

She'll return when she's ready. In the mean time it would be a good idea to reflect of just how disrespectful you have been to mum. Behaving that way, when you agreed to a sensible purchase and your mum was trusting enough that you would be true to your word, is no way to say thank you. If you can, return them for a refund. If not I think it would be wise to ASK mum how it is that you can repay her. Be kind to your mum you only have one and that one is more than some.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2016):

You were an immature douche, except it and call your mum and appologise,grovel whatever to show you regret upsetting her . This is your mum, it is not worth falling out with her over some shoes.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2016):

Obviously you aren't much concerned about your mum if you're spending money on crap shoes

Obviously also you're not paying attention in school if that's your idea of spelling

What will you do? Take the shoes back and get the money back

Apologize to your mum

Work out why you'd put shoes ahead of your mum

Princess in this case sounds more like an accusation

Sparkles are for children

Grow up

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A female reader, celtic_tiger United Kingdom +, writes (17 May 2016):

celtic_tiger agony auntTo be perfectly frank OP, you sound like you have been a bit of a brat to your mother.

You have totally taken advantage of her, and certainly do not understand the value of money.

£50 is a lot of money - it might not seem like it to you, but if you have to EARN it, wasting it on a pair of sparkly blue high heels just because is a massive kick in the teeth.

How many hours work do you think £50 is?

At 16-17 you are not a little child any more, but nearly an adult. You need to take responsibility for yourself.

If you want sparkly blue £50 shoes - BUY THEM YOURSELF! Get a Saturday job and save up.

My guess is your Mum has just had enough of being used as a free cash machine for your spending sprees.

I notice you also said when it was "dinner" time - im guessing you don't offer to help cook the meals? Or ever cook for her? Do you ever do anything for her? Or just expect her to cook, clean, clear up after you and pay for all your desires?

You are the one having a hissy fit because your Mum called you out on a selfish and arrogant behaviour.

Perhaps she just wants a break from her spoilt, ungrateful child.

When she comes back, apologise. Then pay her back.

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A female reader, janniepeg Canada +, writes (17 May 2016):

janniepeg agony auntIt sounds like she's a single mom and you have no one else to confide in. If your parents are still married, then surely she would not just up and leave?

I don't think a mom daughter fight would cause her to leave. She probably had a night planned out. Now that you are old enough to be left alone, she may have a boyfriend that she wants to see at night. You still have a right to find out where she is. I know she has privacy to her dating life but she has to tell you her whereabouts, otherwise she is a negligent parent. Call her cell to make sure she is alright. She is an adult and she knows what she is doing. The only concern would be if she has substance abuse that would impair her judgment. Hotels are expensive, so she has to come back.

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