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3 April 2009: i decided to write this article in view of the amount of people that I know/know of who are in unuqual relationships, that is in particular women who are in unequal relationships. Im not sating that it doesnt happen to men, of course, but often it ...
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Besides condoms are there any other precautions we can take to avoid pregnancy?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 months now and I would really like to take my relationship to the next level and have sex with him. I am not on any form of birth control, we have a condom. but is that enough? I'm scared something...
A. 10 July 2012: go get the pill or else some other hormonal contraception from the doctor... condoms are not great for pregnancy prevention to be honest... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting to get out of my relationship?
Q. Am I wrong for wanting to get out of my relationship? .... We were together 3 years. He abused me emotionally and physically. Everytime i tried to leave he'd manipulate me into giving him anther chance. This time I didn't let him though he tried ...
A. 10 July 2012: stay well away from him, bullies like him dont want you to move on or be happy. you DESERVE better. good luck and keep moving on x... (read in full...)
I can't accept his daughter!
Q. Dear Cupid I am 24 and my boyfriend is 36. We have been together for going on 3 years. We have a great realationship and I love him so much but there's one thing mentally and emotionally holds me back for him, he has a daughter. She is 14 years ...
A. 10 July 2012: what might be bothering you is that you two dont get to spend as much time as a couple alone together, as you could or should. you should discuss this with your boyfriend. a lot of people wouldnt be happy in your situation for a number of reasons, ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure who my baby's father is.
Q. I am 20 years old and just had my first child. She was born March 27 2012 . Problem is is I don't know who her father is. I had sex May 30 2011 with my ex boyfriend e and on June 29 2011 with my current boyfriend. I remember the doctors giving me an ...
A. 10 July 2012: current boyfriend has to be the dad. if you want peace of mind do a DNA... (read in full...)
I'm having little sister trouble, I need some advice!
Q. Hey! So, my little sister is 4. I'm 13. She is always messing with me and giving me dirty looks and hurting me (most common injuries, scratches, pinches, hard kicks, suffocation (she sits on my face.), hair pulling), she calls me stupid and lots of ...
A. 10 July 2012: try to explain this calmly to your parents and if it doesnt work then give her a slap on the arm. it doesnt sound nice but it will be the only way to stop her becoming a bully, as it could spread to her bullying other kids in school etc.... (read in full...)
How do we tell our parents about this unplanned pregnancy?
Q. So...going from my previous posts, we have established my girlfriend of 3 months is pregnant and is refusing to have a termination or place the child up for adoption. She is 19 and i am 24. Lou hasn't met my parents yet, i have met her family l...
A. 6 July 2012: she is going to be 12 weeks gone soon and you are 3 months together? hmmm make sure she has got her dates right.I would advise against bringing her dad to a bar, he might freak out after a drink at that news. best to tell them at home and if they ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, I never wanted kids but she wont have an abortion or give the child up for adoption. Where do I go from here?
Q. We got back from a holiday to Florida yesterday and the past few days she had been feeling sick - we put it down to something she ate or the heat but i got her a test to put my mind at rest. She did 2 in the airport in the morning and they came back ...
A. 5 July 2012: I have just read your question again and I want to say that I think its downright cruel that she didnt tell you she was pregnant when she found out, if it was me I would tell the boyfriend straight away, its only fair and its like its left you both ... (read in full...)
Is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else?
Q. Hi there. Okay, I've been texting this guy my friend is setting me up with, but the guy already has a girlfriend. I do really like him, and my question is is it ok to ask a guy out while he's still dating someone else. Their relationship is rocky ac...
A. 5 July 2012: am, no it is not ok. for all you know she could be happy with him and him saying to whoever about their relationship being rocky might be a lie. find someone single, why would you even consider this... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable after a month to ask him where I stand? Or is it too soon?
Q. Hello :) Ok, so I'm just looking for some general advice please. Iv had one serious relationship in the past, which was emotionally and physically abusive. After 3 years I got my self out and although I am not the person I was previously, I f...
A. 5 July 2012: hi, I have been through disastrous relationships and I know what it is to be wary and even dreading meeting new people. I would ask him. I have done it myself in the past and there is nothing wrong with being direct, in fact it is a good thing in a ... (read in full...)
She's 15 and pregnant!
Q. I found out something. I'm not supposed to know, or to tell anyone, so i need to vent somewhere. Theres this girl in my grade. She's 15, and has a reputation of sleeping with a lot of guys, smoking pot, drinking, and i think she's done some drugs. ...
A. 4 July 2012: I know you didnt ask for advice but all you can do is talk to her and try to point her in the direction of someone who can help. planned parenthood should be of help to her, also maybe there is a teacher or someone employed in the school who ... (read in full...)
How to get rid of my down there odour?
Q. Every boy I have slept with (2 boys, which were relationships) and after the relationships had finished they would say that I smelled down below (of fish) I was so humiliated, I'm a very clean person, and take pride in my hygiene and appearance. But ...
A. 3 July 2012: bubble bath and anything perfumed is very bad for down there. you can get special wash for down there but it is expensive. a cheaper alternative is Aqueous Cream, you buy it in chemists and Boots would have it also. it is about £3, and comes in a ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is pregnant, I never wanted kids but she wont have an abortion or give the child up for adoption. Where do I go from here?
Q. We got back from a holiday to Florida yesterday and the past few days she had been feeling sick - we put it down to something she ate or the heat but i got her a test to put my mind at rest. She did 2 in the airport in the morning and they came back ...
A. 3 July 2012: I feel for you, I really do.if I was a guy this would be one of my worst fears, girl I barely know had got knocked up and having no influence or say in what happens next. I would feel the exact same way as you, despairing, upset and really really ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is planning a vacation with his ex-wife, for their daughter's sake. Should I be upset?
Q. Recently, my boyfriend of about 9 months said that he and his ex-wife were planning to take their 5 year old daughter on vacation to Disneyworld. They've been divorced for a few years, and live about three hours apart, but share equal custody of the ...
A. 30 June 2012: yes you should be upset! wtf?? I would be asking myself if he is committed to your relationship as much as hes letting on... you need to ask him if he minds you vacationing with an ex... (read in full...)
Is it fair for my partner to blame me for looking at his emails when I found out he's cheating again?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for two and a half years. We have an 8 month old daughter together. We were starting new and moved recently to a new state because of a job opportunity for him. A few months ago I noticed him acting a ...
A. 30 June 2012: no of course its not fair for him to blame you, none of this is fair on you. you would be better off leaving him and dont even think of letting him have sex with you, hes disgusting for going back and forth between you and this woman. good luck you ... (read in full...)
How to get past an affair?
Q. If anyone has advice on how to get past an affair, please let me know. It has been 8 years since my wife cheated, and it still feels extremely painful. I can't seem to fully trust her no matter how hard I try....
A. 29 June 2012: I think marriage counselling is your best and only option at this stage, you can go alone or with your wife, they will do their best to help you overcome this. good luck.... (read in full...)
My separated husband is ill, do I still proceed with divorce proceedings?
Q. I've been physically separated from H for 8 months now,10 months in total including in-house separation. Been married for 14 years, I'm currently living with my 2 sons.The separation resulted from H's emotional infidelity, 4 emotional affairs I know ...
A. 28 June 2012: on reading the first 1 or 2 sentences I was ready to say ''you should discuss it with him'' however after reading all the details of the nasty ways he has behaved I would say full steam ahead. perhaps his last mistress can handle his crap now. ... (read in full...)
I am being horribly bullied by my ex housemates and I don't know what to do
Q. Hey guys, Just looking for a little support. My head is about to explode. Recently I lived with two people, a guy and a girl I would have considered friends. Some messy events lead to me them moving out and me loosing A LOT of money. Inclu...
A. 28 June 2012: hi, thanks for the update. 28 euros, whats that going to pay for (!) at least its something small, you probably can do with any money you get right now. yes keep proceeding with the case, you have every right and the online bullying just goes to ... (read in full...)
I feel really upset that he keeps demanding things from me that I cannot afford!
Q. Dear all, A few months ago I found out my boyfriend had been naked webcamming for hours with other girls and sending pictures of himself to them. There were also very explicit photos of naked girls on his computer from these conversations in a sec...
A. 28 June 2012: to hell with his stupid TV.... he is distracting from the real issues here like the fact that he is a cheat! dont even think of paying him back for it... (read in full...)
I am being horribly bullied by my ex housemates and I don't know what to do
Q. Hey guys, Just looking for a little support. My head is about to explode. Recently I lived with two people, a guy and a girl I would have considered friends. Some messy events lead to me them moving out and me loosing A LOT of money. Inclu...
A. 28 June 2012: yes please let us know how you get on, I hope it works out ok and it must be so stressful for you right now. do nothing about the gas bill, its the least she could pay for x... (read in full...)
He is a good man but his constant money issues have eroded our relationship!
Q. I was or am involved with a man with 2 children and we were very compatible and enjoyed our times together, but he has a lot of problems with his ex and demands for extra money (divorced 5 years, he pays his maintenance on time and always gives ...
A. 28 June 2012: So Very Confused has got it in one. but I am wondering why is he paying extra money every month on top of child support??? that doesnt sound logical, given his finacial situation. why would anyone do that? it doesnt make sense as it sounds like he ... (read in full...)
Is a guy always serious with a girl he calls his girlfriend?
Q. If a guy has a girlfriend, is it possible he could be with her casually and not seriously and maybe for sex and companionship but not true love? Is it possible she is NOT the one or that he will be with her long term? If he is so happy with her, ...
A. 26 June 2012: a guy SHOULD be serious with his girlfriend,if not hes not much good as romantic material to anyone else either... (read in full...)
Should I tell my current boyfriend about the trouble with my ex?
Q. Hi everyone :) Please give some advice from an outside perspective as I am stressing out! I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years (mainly emotional, some physical). It was like a cycle and everytime I tried to leave he'd cry, promise...
A. 26 June 2012: are you sure we werent going out with the same person?? he sounds just like a horrible ex I broke up with 4 years ago, who used to criticise me for walking a certain way and for my clothes too. I wouldnt say too much about your ex unless things get ... (read in full...)
Asian men and White women.......
Q. Well as an Asian i have got a very important question to all the white girls and I am pretty sure other Asian men need the answer.So here's my question do white women like Asian men? and if the answer is yes please let me know the things that mak...
A. 26 June 2012: I have never dated an Asian man but I reckon people tend to think that Asian men prefer dating women of their own race. this is because arranged marriages are common and also in a lot of Asian cultures the men do seek their parents approval when ... (read in full...)
I've been helping my pregnant sister and she treats me like this?
Q. My life is in such a whirlwind, but i think my biggest thing is my family. My younger sister is currently pregnant and her boyfriend is a complete swine, he didnt even want the baby and i was the one that took the support role for her. I have h...
A. 26 June 2012: I agree with the above answers except for where the previous person said dont confront her. shes pregnant, shes not ill and it wont harm anyone to tell her what you think. truth is she has not been grateful for what you have done, you have done ... (read in full...)
Could my partner be having an affair or even be gay????
Q. Hi, i'm 31 and my partner of 12 years is 30 and quite frankly we just dont have a normal sex life anymore. Currently we havent had sex in probably over 4 months (maybe longer!!) and i'm starting to think he maybe having an affair. His line of ...
A. 26 June 2012: I dont think hes gay but you need to find out if he is having an affair given his previous history. I hope for yours and your kids sake he is not. good luck x... (read in full...)
Why do girls brush off my compliments?
Q. This Question is for girls. So girls you say you love compliments, but why is it that evertime i compliment a girl either while talking or texting they seem to brush it of like they don't care. I mean it's like i say a compliment about there ho...
A. 24 June 2012: nobody has suggested you may be meeting the wrong girls. I dont think you should ''stop being so nice'', it is who you are and you shouldnt have to change you for anyone. try to listen to them a bit longer before you compliment them and see if that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend becomes a complete ass when he's drunk
Q. I don’t know what im doing or what to do….any comments welcome here I need it. Ive been going out with my boyfriend since December, and I moved in with him in march (yeah its quick but its just right) Anyways my problem is him drunk! When he...
A. 24 June 2012: Im sorry you have ended up with a complete scumbag. I think you are WAY too good for him, it doesnt matter if you are overweight or even why you are overweight but you are still a human being with feelings and dignity who deserves to be treated with ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant my partner is going away on a trip and I don't like it!
Q. im engaged now and going to get married soon. I m dirvoced and have one little boy. My fiance divorced twice,,got two grown up boys and one little girl same age with my son. Im about 4 months pregnant now. I have to move to his country for him. ...
A. 23 June 2012: you need to talk to your husband about all the issues you mentioned here, otherwise your marriage is in trouble. I am presuming you are from Thailand or a country near there, it must be very hard to settle in a new country with a different culture ... (read in full...)
I am being horribly bullied by my ex housemates and I don't know what to do
Q. Hey guys, Just looking for a little support. My head is about to explode. Recently I lived with two people, a guy and a girl I would have considered friends. Some messy events lead to me them moving out and me loosing A LOT of money. Inclu...
A. 23 June 2012: I hope you sort it out... also would it help to have a word with the landlord/housing authority? block them online so that they have no choice but to communicate to you face to face like normal adults, should they actually have something to say. it ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I used to work as an escourt? How do I get over my intimacy issues?
Q. Background: I am 22 years old and am just graduating with a university degree and am going on to get my masters. When I was 18 and in my first year of university I was having some financial problems because I found out that I did not qualify for ...
A. 23 June 2012: I would not tell him as its in your past and its nobodys business except yours. you are not doing it now and you will never go back to it, it was something you did when you felt you had no choice. some people especially guys can be really ... (read in full...)
Is getting pregnant at 15 the right thing to do?
Q. Well, im 15... And me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, now heres my issue, when we hit a year... My boyfriend wants a BABY..... Okay look, I absoulutly ADORE babies, I LOVE them. And I have no problem with pregnancy at this age.... ...
A. 23 June 2012: seriously Im 23 and the thoughts of ending up pregnant terrify me. are you for real? this isnt a doll you are talking about, its a human life. you need to babysit for people and ear some money while you get an idea of what having a baby 24/7 would ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I MIGHT be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now. We get along very well and things are great up until now. The problem is that my period is late and I think I might be pregnant. I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure but Im worried. ...
A. 14 June 2012: Im after reading your update and glad to hear you are A ok ('',) good luck for the future x... (read in full...)
How to deal with boyfriend getting another woman pregnant
Q. I have a boyfriend, we have been dating off an on about 5 years.Serious about an year and a half. I just found out a few months ago the he got some other woman pregnant.He didnt know she was prgnant till after the baby was 9 months old.So now she is ...
A. 14 June 2012: you asked for advice, just because it is not the answers you wanted its not fair to write it off as not helping, people here have taken the time to read your problem and answer, be grateful for that. I would simply dump him, there is no hope for ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, pregnant, my B/f has left me, my parents are druggies and I live in a foster home. What do I do now?
Q. Hi I'm fourteen. Me and my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant for a while now! i finally got pregnant. But now my boyfriend (hes 16)left me. I really don't know what to do now. we were going to move in together and start a life. How should i ...
A. 14 June 2012: what were you thinking?? what makes you think you and your boyfriend were going to be able to look after a baby at your age?? you need to talk to someone professional about what to do with this, but first you need to tell your foster parents. this ... (read in full...)
I don't want a FWB relationship with the father of my 2 children. How do I make him understand?
Q. Is it worth trying again. I split up with the father of my 2 children several months ago. He left as I asked him to. There were commitment issues. He didn't.want to be tied down by us. Our relationship had become.stale and we were rarely intimate. ...
A. 10 June 2012: if he doesnt understand now he never will... unless you simply stop giving him sex and ignore him completely every time he treats you less than respectfully, YOU have to change this ... (read in full...)
Can I get a STD infection from having sex with 3 clean guys?
Q. I had sex with three guys unprotected the past 3 days drunk. I know they're all clean since I know all of them. My question is even though they're clean, can I contract a std from bodily fluid with 3 different guys in a short period of time. or some ...
A. 10 June 2012: how do you know they are disease free? just because their appearance might be good doesnt mean they cant have something, also people with a STI dont come with a sign on their head informing you of this.... (read in full...)
Is there anything wrong in cuddling with your cousin?
Q. i am single and dont want to be in a relationship ever again, but recently i have been staying with my cousin's cousin. We cuddle through out the night .is there anything wrong with just cuddling with a male 3rd cousin?...
A. 10 June 2012: no there is not... hes not your first cousin (aunt/uncles child) so you are not closely related... (read in full...)
Should I tell my father that I lost my virginity?
Q. im 16 and i recently lost my v card to my bf (17) of 3 months. the thing is that i live with my dad and step mom and me and my dad have always been so close n i tell him everything! i feel so guilty for not telln him! and i know its stupid its just ...
A. 10 June 2012: not unless you are pregnant...... (read in full...)
I want to escape my abusive, drug addicted brother
Q. I can't take it anymore, I hate coming home.. My brother is a drug attict, thief and a liar. All he ever does is hurt me. He steals my money, takes my things, does drug deals infront of me. Im only 16, i shouldnt have seen any of this. i see his ...
A. 8 June 2012: I agree with the last poster, report him anonymously if possible, to the police. living with a drug addict is dangerous, dangerous to your parents lives and to yours. you never know what they will do next, they dont even know themselves! good luck... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said all his exs were better looking than me +im not beauty queen
Q. Me and my bf have been together for 7years and when we first started dating he made me feel so sexy and desired I knew that his past gfs had been skinny and stuff and everyone said I wasn't his type he likes barbies but we ended up together and he ...
A. 8 June 2012: you deserve WAY better!!! it doesnt matter what size you are you are still a human being who should be treated with respect and dignity. you would be better off alone, at least if you are lonely nobody is messing with your head or telling you crap ... (read in full...)
I finally managed to get out of an unhappy relationship, so why am I missing him so much? Should I call him?
Q. Yesterday, I broke up with my boyfriend. After 2.5 years I just had enough. He never kissed, hugged me, asked about my day. He never made an effort to talk to me. I had fallen out of love. I admit for the first 2 years I did everything he asked ...
A. 8 June 2012: you are better off without this loser, you will see in time... (read in full...)
How to deal with boyfriend getting another woman pregnant
Q. I have a boyfriend, we have been dating off an on about 5 years.Serious about an year and a half. I just found out a few months ago the he got some other woman pregnant.He didnt know she was prgnant till after the baby was 9 months old.So now she is ...
A. 2 June 2012: anyone who you are on off with for more than a few months is a waste of your time, believe me. you deserve far better. he has 2 kids, one while he was with you and the other one before that which he didnt tell you about. seriously he sounds like a ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my boyfriend I MIGHT be pregnant?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now. We get along very well and things are great up until now. The problem is that my period is late and I think I might be pregnant. I know I shouldnt freak out until I know for sure but Im worried. ...
A. 25 May 2012: the last 2 answers are very good. you know what you want to do with this so dont let people blackmail and guilt trip you into making ''THEIR'' decision, it is your decision to make and you are doing it for the right reasons.definitely do a test ... (read in full...)
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