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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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My buddy has not been a good boyfriend to the girl that I like
Q. So I have a recent dilemma with one of my good friends. She has been a friend of mine for about a year now and we have grown rather close within that time frame. I am a good friend of hers, and I am starting to develop feelings for her as time ...
A. 19 April 2011: Just be a good friend and respect their relationship. What she does with it is her's to deal with. She can either break up with him or go on with this unsure thing. But you need to be a friend and only a friend until she thinks otherwise.
If sh... (read in full...)
Would you date an escort?
Q. Would you date a girl who was or is an escort? but she is really loving, smart, honest and does everything for you. It's just her job and she's only doing it a few years to save up some money and invest in something good. (house, car etc) ...
A. 19 April 2011: It depends on how much said escort means to that certain someone. It isn't easy to look past it, for anyone. Issues will most certainly arise but they are not impossible to overcome.
A way to avoid all of it is to get an actual job and they may... (read in full...)
I asked him if he loves me, he said no
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 6 months. We've been having frequent fights lately and two nights ago we had a big fight. We then attempted to sort it out but because we were in a group, we sort of just brushed it off and went about as...
A. 17 April 2011: A break is a good idea. I think you should trust him when he says he just isn't quite in love with you yet. He teared up because he isn't in love with you but he loves you enough to feel the pain he must be causing you. Empathy. That is the glimmer ... (read in full...)
My neighbour is the perfect girl -- what do I do?
Q. Hey, so i just moved into a new place and right next door is a perfect woman for me. She's beautiful smart and can cook (what else does a man wants right?) She just got out of a relationship and I want to be the next and final guy she will be ...
A. 17 April 2011: Is there something real between you? Have you ever actually had a chance to get to know each other? Start there, just go for it and ask her out on a date, then, see if there is even a spark of potential to be found there.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I want my husband to leave!
Q. hi everyone, I need advice and words of encoragement i think. Its gunna be long please bear with me. My husband and I have been together about 7 years since i was 16 married for 3 years. We have lived together since 17 and had a baby at 19. He h...
A. 16 April 2011: Why don't you just leave him? Its an abusive relationship, it sounds as though you married a six-year old who pouts and rants and stomps when he does not get his way. He is trying t manipulate you, all of it is just deceit, trying to make it seem as ... (read in full...)
He is verbally abusive and very controlling, why??
Q. hi, im heather i jus turned 17 on monday. and ive been off and on with this guy who has jus turned 21 a few days before me since christmas. theres a few things that are really bothering me 7 i would jus likwe some insight on why hes treating me ...
A. 14 April 2011: You break up with him and you never look back. If you do, he will try to draw you in. Abusive people know how to manipulate and you have to escape it now while it is still relatively easier than it would be later on. Those painful words will one day ... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I just read your post and I only roughly sifted through the fountain of replies you have been getting.
Feminism is when you fight for equality, rising from oppression not bringing the other person down to what you consider to be lowly depths. ... (read in full...)
I love my partner, but I cheated on her with an 18 year old who is now pregnant
Q. I have Just made the biggest mistake of my life. After having my first un-planned child at 17 and then a planned one at 19, I have since seperated with my childrens mother as things were just not working. I'm doing my absolute best to do the writ...
A. 10 April 2011: You know there is a reason why a man can never ask a woman to get an abortion. It isn't just about killing, it isn't just about responsibility. There is a unique bond between a mother and her child that forms. Nobody says not to get an abortion just ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend threatens to kill herself
Q. I'm in highschool and just about to go to college and I have been with my girlfriend for about a year and I really love her. But over the year of us dating she began to get really clingy and pretty much abandoned all of her friends for me. Also at ...
A. 10 April 2011: You didn't screw up. You have done all the right things, you are trying to help her and you haven't failed. If she is going to a therapist, that is a huge leap forward. You cannot let her chain you to her through fear. When you go to college she ... (read in full...)
We never had a first date, so he's taking me to the fair...what do we talk about?
Q. Well, I've been dating this boy for 3 and a half monthsh, but we never had a proper first date so we decided to have a first date to the fair, but I already know lots about him. What could we talk about? I don't know what to talk about. Help! x...
A. 10 April 2011: Relax. You cannot possibly plan a conversation. When you are getting to know someone, there is so much more to it than simply asking and getting an answer. Just relax and enjoy your time there. People still date when they are married, they don't ... (read in full...)
Do relationships after high school ever work?
Q. So...I'm a senior in high school and a boyfriend was the last thing on my mind. When I first started dating my current boyfriend about three months ago I thought it was just a fling that would be over after graduation. The truth is our feelings for ...
A. 10 April 2011: It certainly isn't impossible. If you really love each other, I see no reason why it can't work out. Just be wary though, the reason why most relationships in high school end so quickly is because at your age you are still growing and changing, ... (read in full...)
Will my abusive ex start begging to be back with me again?
Q. I need to know where am standing ? will an abusive ex bf who is possessive and obsessed of being wid call after slapping me this time and spit on my face ? he violated a restrained order once and my dad trials to ask him stay away from failed ..ea...
A. 9 April 2011: He will do as all abusers do, try and try to win you back. It is a game and currently, though you have left, I think you are still a part of it. He will try to win you back so that he can destroy you again, pushing you to your limits. I suspect he ... (read in full...)
Is it always a bad idea to date your supervisor at work??
Q. Hello, I am in a weird situation here. I work as a nurse aide and my supervisor and I have been seeing each other for two weeks now. He is so sweet to me. He always tells me how pretty I am and brings me flowers. When we are at work we keep it ...
A. 9 April 2011: No one can really say whether or not it is a good or bad idea. You feel what you feel and it seems as though you feel a lot for this man if you are already referring to him as 'the greatest guy' you've ever had. You seem as though you are willing to ... (read in full...)
I'm having loads of trouble finding an attractive, intelligent girlfriend!
Q. I need some advice on how to find a decent girlfriend. I'm a really good looking, athletic guy. I'm a combat veteran, university graduate, and have a well paying corporate job for someone my age (23.) I will be a homeowner in less than 2 year...
A. 9 April 2011: Generally, you cannot help being attracted to someone, its why you think of them as attractive. Start by looking for someone you can connect with on an intellectual level, find someone who you like being around and leave looks out of it. The more ... (read in full...)
Many random hookups have spoiled my interest in sex and my faith in true love.
Q. I don't think i can ever love a guy. I have hooked up so many times that i dont even enjoy romance or a simple kiss. Kissing doesnt turn me on like it used to, b/c im not doing it with guys i even like....I feel lost, confused and impatient because ...
A. 9 April 2011: You start by saying no. No sex, no more false intimacy until you have found that one person who ignites that fire in you. Its not anything physical, a fire that burns because you deeply enjoy their presence, not their body.
When you realize ... (read in full...)
Will my abusive ex start begging to be back with me again?
Q. I need to know where am standing ? will an abusive ex bf who is possessive and obsessed of being wid call after slapping me this time and spit on my face ? he violated a restrained order once and my dad trials to ask him stay away from failed ..ea...
A. 9 April 2011: Enforce that restraining order. Call the police the next time he comes near you. Abusers go through a cycle, they unleash their rage upon you and then they try and get you back. Yes he will try again and again and again until he finds someone new. ... (read in full...)
Husband has anger issues. How do I deal with this?
Q. Should I give my husband a second chance? We have been together for almost 11 years. My daughter was 7 when we met. He was very affectionate, and was very good with my daughter. The only thing I found out about him is that he has problems with ...
A. 9 April 2011: He needs to start anger management immediately. If he refuses for some odd reason then you should leave him. Abuse, no matter what form, can and will damage lives, especially when it affects someone as young as 5 years old. As you said, it is only ... (read in full...)
Should I Tell Him That I'm Pregnant With His Baby?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm sorry to bother you all but I've got myself into a difficult situation. I'm 17 (18 in 2 months) and I just found out that I'm 29 weeks pregnant. I was really experiencing any symptoms which is why I never found out earlier. The ...
A. 8 April 2011: As selfless as you think you are being, it would be best if you told him so that he can make a choice. He is still the father after all and he may or may not be all too willing to get involved but at least you would have told him and at least you ... (read in full...)
A Greek mythological name for my daughter?
Q. I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl and im having a really hard time finding a name for her since i dont like traditional names much im looking for unique names does anyone have any suggestions. I love greek mythology and dark beautiful names ...
A. 8 April 2011: Eris since there is a direct connection to Nyx.
Megara or Medea.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
He turned down a handjob, does that mean I'm not good at it?
Q. The other night I was over at my boyfriend's place but since I was on my period we didn't have sex. We still had a good time, went out for coffee and watched a movie. Later in the night I offered to give him a handjob and he said no. His reason was ...
A. 8 April 2011: It doesn't mean you aren't any good at it, some men just don't particularly enjoy certain things, no matter how amazing you are at it. No need to take offense towards it.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I'm worried that later on in life my boyfriend could become abusive
Q. My boyfriend always treats me way good and does nice things for me but when he gets upset he kind of scares me. He has never hurt me or anything but he flips out and it gets crazy. I'm worried that when we are married he will get worse. Should I ...
A. 8 April 2011: Yes you should talk to him about it, I suggest he seek a different output for stress. Discuss it with him because it is quite an important topic.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
He's doesn't treat me or my son very well and I am stuck here. What can I do?
Q. My 9 year old son and I moved to another country to be with my partner and now I am stuck as I am waiting for my visa decision, not allowed to work, and can't afford to move. We don't want to leave the country because my son loves it here and is ...
A. 8 April 2011: Be patient and wait. In the meantime, perhaps you can lessen the suffering a little bit by spending more time out of the house, if your partner should ask any questions, you simply tell him you feel like you need to strengthen the bond between ... (read in full...)
I got physical with my girlfriend during an argument. She has forgiven me, but I cannot forgive myself! It is always on my mind. How can I move on?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year, and we get along great. I can honestly say that she is the only girl I ever want to be with again. BUT at the same time I am so confused and disappointed in myself. A month ago, we got into...
A. 7 April 2011: First of all, when anger is expressed through physical means, it is often found that the source is a multitude rather than just the immediate issue. That is to say, ensure you deal with all your stress and find a way to focus all of that energy into ... (read in full...)
I ended it with my husband because he was awful to my son. Now he wants to work on the problems. Should I give him a chance?
Q. Ok, I did it. I ended my relationship. My second husband’s relationship with my little boy was awful. My little boy is 9 years old and he needs anxiety counselling because of all the chaos in his life. I have to say, although I love my Husband, it ...
A. 7 April 2011: What he is asking is for you to deviate from your role as a mother. Is he really the right man for you? He cannot even be a step-dad and you have given him so many chances, so many opportunities for him to learn from his mistakes and yet, he has ... (read in full...)
What are the duties of a mistress?
Q. Hey there! So heres the thing, my boyfriend wants me to be mistress, I've never done that. We're both new to this idea but he is ready for anything. Please help me by suggesting what I should do as a mistress? I would appreciate it! Btw, he said he ...
A. 6 April 2011: I am going to assume by 'mistress', he wants you to be the dominatrix in the bedroom. He is just asking you to be rough with him.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I think my Dad is cheating
Q. This is a random question, I'm 26 and worried my dad is cheating on my mom? My dad travels away for business every week. I have been living away from home for 9 years. I just moved home and noticed a big distance between my parents. My dad ...
A. 6 April 2011: I think there is far too little evidence, so try to avoid jumping to conclusions though I think you should keep that for careful consideration. Hope that it is not the case.
Their problems are between them, if it does irritate you (like it would... (read in full...)
How do I just walk away from my wife?
Q. I'm separate from my wife sunday after 21 years she is 10 years youger than me and it happen when I lost my business and then the prob started we alwayys fighting over money and a monster and law I love her still and she is my whole world how do I ...
A. 6 April 2011: Write her a letter and ask that she read it, before you get divorced. Tell her that you still love her and tell her how you intend to fix things. Apologize to her, there is no doubt she has been hurt.
Conflict will always be born from money an... (read in full...)
Been cheating on wife with 3 girlfriends and 40 hookers
Q. Hi, I have been married 10 years to my wife who I love but she is very difficult to live with. I don't know if I am a nympho or what, but when she is not around I can masturbate up to 4 times a day. Also, when i have been away for work on many occ...
A. 6 April 2011: I am confused as to the type of answer you are expecting to get. To ask "no moralistic bull please." shows that you already know what most people would say. I wonder if you consider yourself an immoral person. To steal you wife's life away like this ... (read in full...)
Did my dad over-react? And should I go all the way with my boyfriend?
Q. me and my bf are both 15 and in love and about a month ago my parents left and he came over. we were making-out then i gave him a bj, (we still had our clothes on, his pants were unzipped). then my dad walked in grabbed him by his neck and started ...
A. 5 April 2011: No I don't think your father over-reacted. Perhaps he was a little too rough but then, imagine how upset you would be if your 15 year old daughter was presumably about to engage in sex. Far too young and far too inexperienced, oblivious almost to ... (read in full...)
Her excuse for sleeping with my brother is that she thought it was me! Should I believe her?
Q. A few days ago my twin brother and I had our birthday party at our apartment. Our girlfriends were at the party with a few friends. We had quite a bit of different kind of liquor. Then I guess I passed out. In the morning, my brother's girlfriend ...
A. 5 April 2011: Consider that she might actually be telling the truth. She was drunk and if she was drunk enough, small things like a slight difference in length of hair become somewhat unnoticeable to a drunken mind. She started to cry, I do not know your ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy want to hurt a girl who adores him?
Q. Why would a guy wanna hurt a girl who loves him and adores him? ? Every time a girl will meet a guy he's so sweet, you look past his flaw cos your a nice person. You love him and would do anything to make him smile, always there when he nee...
A. 5 April 2011: Don't think like that. Love does exist. Look hard enough and you will see that there are a lot of happy couples out there who still love each other even after so long and they would do anything to make each other happy. That is real love.
Happi... (read in full...)
I'm 14: Should I let this boy have sex with me?
Q. hi, i am asking for help. well i met this boy on facebook not too long ago, and im starting to like him. one day he said he wanted to meet me, and i asked what would he do. he said he would try to have sex with me in the family bathroom at the mall. ...
A. 5 April 2011: Most certainly not. The chance that you MIGHT feel good about it while it is happening is not worth the possible years of misery you might face because of regret. How are you so sure he seeks more than just your body? Do not let him touch you.
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I just want him to be happy. I don't know how!
Q. PLEASE PLEASE ANSWER...and im sorry if its lengthy. So ive been in a LDR for 2 and a half years now. Ive been to see him a couple of times usually for 2 sometimes 3 weeks in a row. He is the love of my life, I cant ever see myself without h...
A. 4 April 2011: He is facing depression and he has to face it and fight it by himself. He needs to think about getting professional help. What you need to do is be there for him, let him know that you will always be there for him, he needs support whether he knows ... (read in full...)
I feel like the third wheel, he spends all week only with his sisters as he doesn't really go out and the only chance he gets to spend with me, he seems more interested in them!!
Q. Hello,i am 21 years old and i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years now. We have a great relationship and are planning to get married soon but recently something has been really bugging me. My boyfriend is 23 years old and has ...
A. 4 April 2011: You think talking to him will damage your relationship? And what effect would not talking to him about it have? It is good that he spends time with his little sisters but surely he must consider that he also has another relationship to commit to, ... (read in full...)
My gf thinks I'm 22 but I'm really 16! Should I tell her??
Q. Im a 16 year old boy , but i've been living a life of a 22 year old. I smoke cigarettes and booze. And i dont look my age. I look like a guy in 20's. I got a girl's phone number from my friend and fell in love with her through the phone. After ...
A. 3 April 2011: You should not, nor can you, keep this a secret for six more years. One day she will find out, through someone or something. Then what? She will be devastated. Better that she find out from you now than in six years. Tell her the truth and accept ... (read in full...)
I've been with him for 4 years, but he doesn't want to move in together...Where is this relationship headed?
Q. Hey Guys Ok iv been with my boyfriend for four years and ready to take the next step ie move in together but he's not ready and it really hurts me.. He's a great boyfriend but im worried that if he doesnt want to move in together at four years w...
A. 3 April 2011: Do you really want to move in with him? You just stated that you feel you come second to everything. If this relationship is going to go anywhere, I would not worry about moving in together, I would worry about how he sees you. Are you a treasured ... (read in full...)
I love my partner, but I cheated on her with an 18 year old who is now pregnant
Q. I have Just made the biggest mistake of my life. After having my first un-planned child at 17 and then a planned one at 19, I have since seperated with my childrens mother as things were just not working. I'm doing my absolute best to do the writ...
A. 3 April 2011: First of all, stop pleading that she get an abortion. If you must talk to her about it, do so calmly and sensibly. Talk about possibilities, options. It is her decision as to whether or not she will get an abortion, not yours, so leave abortion out ... (read in full...)
I masturbate...is this a sin?
Q. i am a christian that does masturbation all the time because my husband is away is this a sin? am i cheating on him i feel guilty when i finish how can i stop i need help pls...
A. 3 April 2011: No one is being hurt nor is anyone here at risk of being hurt. It is actually healthy and though it may seem a sin because it is an urge based on lust, you are not doing anything wrong. Feeding lust with the touch of another person is a sin,... (read in full...)
Do women wish there was a world without men?
Q. Hello Fellow Peers Once Again. I Am Dimario. And... a complicated individual. i am easily hurt when it comes to relationship matters. well i was watching television and It was this feminist show and how she said how the world was bad because of men, ...
A. 2 April 2011: Feminism is about female equality or equality in general really. Whoever said the world would be better without men is a blind fool. That sounds more like supremacy than feminism and supremacists are blind. You can ask around and I assure you mor... (read in full...)
Separated from my wife in order to sort things out...what should I do now?
Q. OK ive submitted many questions and appreciate all the advice. Now i just want to tell the whole story from start to finish and see what you think i should do. i'll do my best to be unbiased and tell the whole story and not just my side. ok I ...
A. 1 April 2011: What you should do, you have already done. Separate. Some people just were not meant for each other. She made up her mind a long time ago and you are just going to have to move on. Sort out all the finances and find someone else because this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend who was arrested for domestic violence against me says he is changing. Can I believe him?
Q. I had my boyfriend arrested for domestic violence after he pushed me while he was drunk. We have a no contact order until his court date at the end of April. We also have a 2 year old son. Although he is not supposed to contact me or our son, he p...
A. 1 April 2011: An abusive person, especially one who is such under the influence of alcohol, can definitely change. But it requires intense dedication and commitment. He will fail before he succeeds. If he is truly a good man, he will regret it all deeply but that ... (read in full...)
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