Older female falls for young men and gets hurt every time! Do I stop, or alter how I feel about the inevitable end?
Q. i know im in trouble. i even know how i got here. i just dont know how to stop. im a girl who is an artist and i enjoy the company of artistic feeling when it comes to love; sensuality, beauty, emotional feeling and connection, spunk and spirit...
A. 22 June 2012: A youthful spirit, boyish streak, and creative type does not necessarily equate to long-term love and committment. You know that by now. If you like that type, accept the guys for what they contribute to your life and know that at some point they ... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of how angry I got when I found duplicates of text messages to me sent to other women!
Q. Dear Cupid, I been seeing a man in USA and I am in Canada about 6 months. We were having everyother weekend together. I just spent 3 beautiful days with him. I thought we were falling inlove, While sleeping somehow he hit me with his...
A. 22 June 2012: Sometimes you discover people aren't who you thought they were. I know it sucks, but it is good you found out now and did not waste anymore of your time. He shouldn't be texting other women, and in any case, maybe those were women from his past, ... (read in full...)
Too old for playing these games....how do I correct this situation?
Q. I am getting too old for these games… About 3 months ago I noticed this good looking security guard where I worked. We barely exchanged words, just the odd nod and hi whenever we crossed paths. As we got familiar with each other, I noti...
A. 22 June 2012: If you are too old to play the game, then stop playing. You control what you do. If you're at work, I'd suggest you be completely professional to everyone at your job. If someone at your job gives you a hard time, ignore the person. It makes no ... (read in full...)
Is getting pregnant at 15 the right thing to do?
Q. Well, im 15... And me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months, now heres my issue, when we hit a year... My boyfriend wants a BABY..... Okay look, I absoulutly ADORE babies, I LOVE them. And I have no problem with pregnancy at this age.... ...
A. 22 June 2012: It is not a good idea. Here is the reason why. A 15 year-old cannot get a good enough job on which to support a child. My sister was 28 when she got pregnant. Her boyfriend left and has nothing to do with the baby. She is working a good job in ... (read in full...)
If I leave him alone for a couple of weeks, will he realise he loves me and come back? Or are his feelings truly gone?
Q. So, my boyfriend and I split just over 2 weeks ago after a 7 month relationship. We were very in love but it ended due to a very bad fight. After the split, he and I have had small contact every day leading to today except one. We had a conversation ...
A. 22 June 2012: Why would you want to continue with this if he has told you he doesn't love you anymore? Most people do not say such things unless they are true. Coming from someone who has been in a similar situation (except my ex didn't bother to tell me he ... (read in full...)
New boyfriend admitted he can't get an erection because of my weight and I'm devastated....Help!?
Q. I have an incredible new boyfriend I really like, but he has trouble getting and keeping an erection, and the reason is.....my weight. We are incredibly drawn to each other on so many levels- intellectually, emotionally, etc. He says he finds my ...
A. 21 June 2012: So how new is this boyfriend? What are his intentions with you? Is he in love with you? I am not sure how you can fall in love with someone you are not at least somewhat physically attracted to. I do not think it is your problem, I think it is ... (read in full...)
How do I play the game? And how do I make this online relationship work?
Q. Okay, well me and boyfriend have been online dating for almost six months now. I truly love him and he loves me, or so he says. We know each others faults- for example, my pessimism- and we look past that. We are good. But then some days he giv...
A. 21 June 2012: You need to look at this as on online friendship and nothing more. Online friendships and relationships can serve a purpose, but they are ONLINE. You have not met the person and even though you think you know all his faults, you have not observed ... (read in full...)
Sex for the first time, but worried what my boyfriend will think of me naked!
Q. Hi everyone :) Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex for the first time this weekend, and im completely ready in every way except that im really insecure about my body. Im a bit chubby and im worried he'll be totally repulsed my me and not want ...
A. 21 June 2012: I agree with both of the other posts. You need to be ready and feel comfortable in his presence. If you do not feel comfortable, you shouldn't have sex. People have sex because they desire their partner and want to, not because they make an ... (read in full...)
Is it really possible for him to change after everything he has done? How do I learn to trust him?
Q. Hey, I'd love some perspectives on whether people who betray the trust of others ever regret it or change? Basically, I've been with my bf nearly 2 years and we're looking for a place to move into together, as suggested by him. At 7 months, ...
A. 21 June 2012: Is this post for real? Not to be insulting, but if you believe all of these lies, you are very naive when it comes to men. You found him in bed with two girls and he claims nothing happened? Seriously? You caught him sexting and he says it meant ... (read in full...)
I escaped my Muslim Arabic country and found freedom, but now I have met a lovely Arabic guy his friends are telling him to stay away from me because I don't fit into normal Muslim beliefs! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an Arabic female who escaped from my Muslim Arabic country in the look for freedom, I escaped by my self and it was not easy (I got publishing companies asking me to write my story to be published) I escaped when I was 20 years o...
A. 21 June 2012: It is hard to be different. Even in our country, if you are different/have a different opinion/view you are sometimes bullied and harrassed. It just depends on who surrounds you. It is also sometimes lonely to be different, but if you believe in ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 21 June 2012: I just think you are in a situatino that a lot of people find themselves in. Why would you want to continue in a marriage that is filled with conflict. I know these situations very well because I've observed them. I believe your wife is biting ... (read in full...)
Do you think what he's doing is ok?
Q. My bf doesn't always tell me when he's been going out for drinks after work with co-workers or to the bar with his buddies. I thought he was open about everything (I've never given him trouble about going for drinks) but apparently there are some ...
A. 21 June 2012: I think if he is seriously interested in you, he should be seriously interested in you and not go to bars where women are hitting on him. In my mind, bars offer nothing good to men or women who are in relationships. Then again, I am someone who ... (read in full...)
In love with another exchange student!
Q. I have to ask an advice! I met this boy when i was in exchange. we were both exchange students and the first days of orientation we were very close and held hands and everything...but then it ended cause we were busy and lived far away from eac...
A. 21 June 2012: I don't want to sound insensitive, but you do realize you live in different countries, right? I think it is a good thing that you made a connection with another exchange student, but accept the situation for what it is. You may have a good friend ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't acknowledge when I say things
Q. I've been dating a wonderful man for 6 months. I've never had a relationship go this smoothly ever. There are only two issues: one huge and one small. The huge one is he can't sustain an erection enough for us to have sex. Although this is a huge ...
A. 21 June 2012: I was just thinking what ImmortalPrincess just said. He may be one of those men who listens but only responds when you ask a question. Or, when I would ask for help with something that he knew about, he would be thrilled to help and talk with me. ... (read in full...)
Am I over inflating a good day, or onto something?
Q. I've already got my mind going on what I'm going to do next, but I'm curious to see if anyone thinks I'm making a huge mistake here. So a little over a month ago, I went to a movie with this girl that I had realized after about a year in class th...
A. 21 June 2012: I would think after the nice day you had, she would know you liked her. I wouldn't necessarily blurt it out, but I would continue to pursue her. Ask her to do fun things and continue to get to know her. If she has someone else, she'll end up ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 21 June 2012: It doesn't sound like you are very happy in your marriage, and maybe your wife isn't fulfilling her marriage vows. If that is the case, I would seriously think about getting a separation/divorce. Some people don't think sex is a good enough reason ... (read in full...)
1st date and he forgot his wallet and now I'm turned off
Q. I'm in my late twenties. I m very much financially independent as I own my business and I do pretty well with it. Why I m telling this about myself before I start my story just to show that I'm not at all need any kind of financial support from any...
A. 20 June 2012: The most important thing on a first date is making a good first impression. He didn't. If you want someone to think well of you and you want a second chance with that person, you make sure you're prepared before you leave. I don't think this is ... (read in full...)
He is mormon, I'm not....but I really like him! Should I get involved? Is this a bad idea?
Q. To make a long story short, there is this guy that I met and I think I am starting to fall for him. I get a really emotional feeling every time we part ways after hanging out and I am starting to really care about him. The very very tricky part is ...
A. 20 June 2012: If you already know it won't work because of your differences, it will just cause you more heartache in the end to keep spending time with him, building the relationship, and getting more emotionally attached. I am not against you two having fun, ... (read in full...)
I escaped my Muslim Arabic country and found freedom, but now I have met a lovely Arabic guy his friends are telling him to stay away from me because I don't fit into normal Muslim beliefs! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an Arabic female who escaped from my Muslim Arabic country in the look for freedom, I escaped by my self and it was not easy (I got publishing companies asking me to write my story to be published) I escaped when I was 20 years o...
A. 20 June 2012: I congratulate you on getting your story published and finding freedom. It sounds like you are a very hard and conscientious worker and making a way for yourself in the world. It makes sense other would treat you like this as you are probably seen ... (read in full...)
I escaped my Muslim Arabic country and found freedom, but now I have met a lovely Arabic guy his friends are telling him to stay away from me because I don't fit into normal Muslim beliefs! What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am an Arabic female who escaped from my Muslim Arabic country in the look for freedom, I escaped by my self and it was not easy (I got publishing companies asking me to write my story to be published) I escaped when I was 20 years o...
A. 20 June 2012: I congratulate you on getting your story published and finding freedom. It sounds like you are a very hard and conscientious worker and making a way for yourself in the world. It makes sense other would treat you like this as you are probably seen ... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship.....how do we plan our future together?
Q. Hello! I'm in a long distance relationship and we're really in love with each other, however we never met but he's planning to come from Germany to my country when he graduates next october to meet for the first time... he says that he wants to ...
A. 20 June 2012: I agree with Tisha. I think it is very hard to know a person well if you have never met him, besides the fact that neither one of you are in good financial situations. How could you possibly plan any kind of future? I think online relationships ... (read in full...)
My wife's ex-sister in law is flirting with me, how do I find out if she wants to take this to the next level? Or should I remain faithful despite not getting any sex from my wife?
Q. Dear Cupid I only have been married for 5 years now (I got married when I was 50) I figured I only wanted to get married once in my life. I wanted to grow old with someone I loved. When I was younger I was wild child. I had a diffrent g...
A. 20 June 2012: I know some will disagree with this and I might even disagree with it myself in some situations, but I think a little bit of flirting is fine...as long as you don't act on it. Flirting makes us feel good, but actual cheating can lead to disaster. ... (read in full...)
Any of you ever had any success reforming a lifelong liar?
Q. My guy is a compulsive liar. Every time I catch him lying he promises he won't do it again but he's been doing it so long it's a way of life for him. I believe the phrase "three's the charm" because we all mess up and deserve a second chance but no ...
A. 20 June 2012: If he has a habit of lying, you are not going to have much luck changing him. People develop habits and if they've never been forced to change, they won't. I agree with CTR that trust is major and if you constantly have to worry about whether he ... (read in full...)
Do you wait to get over an ex completely before starting a new relationship?
Q. Is it normal to still have feelings for an ex while getting into the next relationship? And let the lingering feelings for the ex die completely as you get to know this new person? Does this happen a lot with people? Or is it better to comple...
A. 20 June 2012: This is a difficult question to answer because I think it depends on the individual. I think it is ideal to be over your ex first, but sometimes it takes a long time to do that. I agree with you that you might meet someone new first and that will ... (read in full...)
1st date and he forgot his wallet and now I'm turned off
Q. I'm in my late twenties. I m very much financially independent as I own my business and I do pretty well with it. Why I m telling this about myself before I start my story just to show that I'm not at all need any kind of financial support from any...
A. 20 June 2012: I would be turned off too. When I go on a date for the first time, I don't expect someone to pay for me. I always pay for myself unless the man insists. It honestly does not sound like he forgot his wallet. It sounds like he planned the whole ... (read in full...)
1st date and he forgot his wallet and now I'm turned off
Q. I'm in my late twenties. I m very much financially independent as I own my business and I do pretty well with it. Why I m telling this about myself before I start my story just to show that I'm not at all need any kind of financial support from any...
A. 20 June 2012: I would be turned off too. When I go on a date for the first time, I don't expect someone to pay for me. I always pay for myself unless the man insists. It honestly does not sound like he forgot his wallet. It sounds like he planned the whole ... (read in full...)
Does he actually want to see me again?
Q. Hi, im nearly 17 and single. The other night i went to a festival with my friend and we met her boyfriend there and one of his friends he had brought along. After about an hour of being with them, his friend told him that he liked me. Later on we ...
A. 20 June 2012: Sounds like a good possibility then that you can get to know him a little better. Hopefully it works out for you!... (read in full...)
Why would my ex care anything about what I think of her now?
Q. Me and my ex were together for 5 years. First 2 years were great, we talked about the future, made plans, saw each other as often as we could. Only one problem, none of her friends and family knew we where seeing each other because she didnt want to ...
A. 19 June 2012: Some people don't even know their own minds. It sounds like this is the case here. If she genuinely cared, she wouldn't have treated you like she did. If she didn't want to see you anymore, she should have been honest with you and just said "I ... (read in full...)
We want to get married, but I'm afraid the process wont be easy!
Q. Hiiiii dera cupid.....i m 18 yrs old indian muslim girl nd i m in love with a pakistani guy of age 21....we both r planning to get marry after 1 yr...we both met online..i dont know how i fallen in love with him i really dont know..he is a great ...
A. 19 June 2012: It is unwise to marry someone you have never met in person. Online relationships are a lot different than relationships in the real world. You need to see how he is in the real world, how he fuctions, and what he is really like. Sometimes online ... (read in full...)
He doesn't have much sex drive with me, but won't delete his porn?
Q. Would anyone else think this is strange, my boyfriend doesn't have that much of a sexual apetite for me but yet when I tried to get him to delete his porn he went mad. We did attempt to have sex and did sexual things everytime we met (me suggesting ...
A. 19 June 2012: I do not think it is strange because people can become addicted to porn and then they cannot function properly in real sexual relationships. So, on days he doesn't see you, he uses it and you are ok with that? Personally, I would want my boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Does he actually want to see me again?
Q. Hi, im nearly 17 and single. The other night i went to a festival with my friend and we met her boyfriend there and one of his friends he had brought along. After about an hour of being with them, his friend told him that he liked me. Later on we ...
A. 19 June 2012: He would like to be with you if you wanted in what way? I am not sure what the phrase "be with you" means in your culture when you have just met someone for the first time, but here it means "sleep with you" or "be with you" in an intimate sense. ... (read in full...)
Does he actually want to see me again?
Q. Hi, im nearly 17 and single. The other night i went to a festival with my friend and we met her boyfriend there and one of his friends he had brought along. After about an hour of being with them, his friend told him that he liked me. Later on we ...
A. 19 June 2012: Unfortunately, I agree SVC. I think he was out for a good time and didn't want much more. I like how some people will say you need to play it cool to get the guy, then guy's will come on here and say they are trying everything they can to get a ... (read in full...)
Should I just forget about this guy, and move on?
Q. I have been with this guy for 7 years, i bought a house for us to live in which went great for the first 3 years, then his parents bought him a house which he eventually moved into his kids never speak to me , he spends all holidays with his family ...
A. 19 June 2012: You have several good reasons why should make a clean break with him. If a man cares about you, he will want to spend as much time with you as possible. I am sorry to hear he is treating you that way. It seems to be an epidemic these days. Yes, ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on dating?
Q. I feel as though I'm burnt out and tired of dating. In the past year, I've met four guys, the first was an uncaring narcissist already involved with someone (he did not tell me about it for a long time, then I thought I could wait for him until he ...
A. 19 June 2012: Ugh, I know exactly what you mean. Maybe you should take a break from it. I think you sound very well-grounded and reasonable, but give yourself some time. You are young and have a long life ahead of you. I wouldn't worry about finding someone ... (read in full...)
How do I approach this guy to keep it strictly FWB?
Q. Ok so...I recently started a "friends with benefits" relationship with a suuuuuper sexy guy. Atleast I think we are friends with benefits. When we first met we both agreed that no one was interested in a relationship and we would just be friends. ...
A. 19 June 2012: I am not going to tell you that women can't do sex without intimacy, but you yourself said you spent the night. Why? If it's only about the sex, then I think you would have the sex and go home. After all, you don't like the guy for any other ... (read in full...)
I feel like he isn't in to me as much as he says he is, and only keeps me around for convenience. Should I leave him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has given his ex's flowers (even when they were broken up) and he took one of his ex's to a fancy fine dining restaurant, 2 hours away. In the over 2 years that we've been dating, he's never done anything like that for ...
A. 19 June 2012: If he shows you his affection in other ways then you need to accept that. The things he does have genuine thought behind them, whereas anyone could call up and order flowers. Perhaps he thinks you are special compared to the other women and that ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant my partner is going away on a trip and I don't like it!
Q. im engaged now and going to get married soon. I m dirvoced and have one little boy. My fiance divorced twice,,got two grown up boys and one little girl same age with my son. Im about 4 months pregnant now. I have to move to his country for him. ...
A. 19 June 2012: If the trip is for his job, then he needs to go. I do understand your feelings about it, but what would you have him do? Tell his boss "no" and perhaps risk his job? He has you and several children for which to provide. I would probably feel the ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: If she won't return your texts or phone calls, I would probably leave her alone. She may be hurting as much as you, but she may also be completely confused about her life. I am sure the bipolar disorder does not help. If you have someone else you ... (read in full...)
Does a cyber relationship has a possibility to become true in the real world?
Q. I am currently in an online relationship with a US Army in the middle east who is married. I don't really want to get myself into this kind of relationship that makes me the third party, and on the internet for that matter, but i just can't help ...
A. 19 June 2012: I do not want to sound cynical, but I am afraid I might come off that way. He sounds like a great guy and I don't see any reason why you shouldn't meet him and see how things go. But, he is also in an extreme situation. First, he is in the Middle ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: You have a great attitude despite being in a lot of pain from this. I do not know whether this is the right advice, but you could send her a "thinking of you" card just to say you are thinking of her and hoping she gets better. Nothing romantic as ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 19 June 2012: Oh, I see. I am sorry for the situation. I am not sure why, but some people seem to have an addiction to lying. Some people just do not know what they want in life and/or don't know what is the best for them. Have you tried asking her why she ... (read in full...)
I feel like she will always lie to me. Will I ever be able to trust her?
Q. I met a woman, fell in love with her and she became pregnant. in the very beggining i revealed to her that i had an active warrant out for my arrest and would eventually be doing some time...when she became pregnant i agreed once the baby was born i ...
A. 19 June 2012: With all due respect, why does any of this matter when you are in prison? You get busted, but you expect her to be a complete saint through all of this? Don't get busted and get put away and expect a woman to stick around. If she had written in ... (read in full...)
Is this her disorder or she wants out or she needs time to get well?
Q. hi my best frriend and i have known each other for eight months we are same sex females me black and her white we started a relationship and it has lasted for six weeks everything has been great no fusing no arguing we cuddle and enjoy each other w ...
A. 19 June 2012: I am sorry you are going through this as it must be very hard and confusing for you. It sounds like your friend is not only dealing with a mental disorder but is also struggling to come to terms with who she is and her religious affiliation. She ... (read in full...)
I feel like he isn't in to me as much as he says he is, and only keeps me around for convenience. Should I leave him?
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has given his ex's flowers (even when they were broken up) and he took one of his ex's to a fancy fine dining restaurant, 2 hours away. In the over 2 years that we've been dating, he's never done anything like that for ...
A. 18 June 2012: If he isn't treating you with kindness and consideration in any matter, then yes, I would leave him. If he is in a relationship with YOU, his exes should not be getting gifts from him. If he does nice things for you, but just doesn't get flowers, ... (read in full...)
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