Wonders about husband cheating?
Q. I need someone to tell me if I did the right thing although I feel in my heart I did! I recently left my husband of 6 yrs and moved to another state, rented a house and got a job! He works construction so his work takes him everywhere and he loves...
A. 11 January 2011: If you were a quitter you would have given up on him years ago. You have done all you can to bring honesty and respect into the marriage, and he has done his best to ruin it.
Turning off the phone and clearing all text points to a person with som... (read in full...)
Not sure if I feel affronted or if I should hope he'll change his mind over his imposed 'conditions' on any relationship?
Q. i met a guy a few weeks ago, after 2 dates he told me that he really did like me but would not be able to marry me due to family reasons, but i could have him as a boyfriend and live with him as long as i wanted. he also added that he had an ex ...
A. 10 January 2011: Yup, I have some advise, dust your hands off and put it down to experience. So far I think you responded to this fool appropriately ... although I would LOVE to know what his family reasons were!
Notch him up as one of life's odd bods and move... (read in full...)
He left me and now his family tells me that he still loves me
Q. My ex left me 8 mths. ago after 7yrs together basically, for someone else. His reason although, vague was because he wasn't happy. We had our ups and downs like anyone else but, for the most part we got along well. I really had no clue this was ...
A. 9 January 2011: Families! People who think they are doing good when all they are doing is stirring the pot.
I can understand your being angry with your ex more than anything, and I also dont understand why his family have chosen now to tell you his feelings... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants two girls to give him a blow job!
Q. My boyfriend really wants to have 2 girls give him a blowjob. I'm not too keen on the idea of one of those girls being me. Should I let him do this with 2 other females so he can get over it and I won't be around to see it?...
A. 9 January 2011: Sure, if you are comfortable with your boyfriend having sexual relations with other girls tell him its fine, this time simply blow jobs, next time it might be full on sex with two girls, and the time after that, maybe a mixed gender foursome, who ... (read in full...)
My husband has lots of female friends and ex lovers whom he is in touch with...and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My husband is a very popular man and has lots of female friends and ex lovers. I knew all about these women before I married him but since then have begun to hate his contact with these people especially his ex flames. He says that I am insecure and ...
A. 9 January 2011: My original comments stand, if you had a problem or concern with him being friends with former lovers you should have discussed it before you married him.
Waiting until after you were married makes it look (and I am not saying this is how it is, j... (read in full...)
No reply to a love note?
Q. What do you do when you send someone a message saying you are inlove with them. And they don't even reply? And its not some random person. It's the father of your child?...
A. 8 January 2011: It would depend, are you and he still involved, or planning a home together, a wedding, do you and he profess your love for each other on a regular basis
or
are you no longer together, has he a new partner, have you argued recently, if you... (read in full...)
Should I tell my former teacher, who is married, how I feel?
Q. Hi there, I have a little bit of a problem. I'm 20 years old, been out of high school for almost three years now but I still have very strong, deep feelings for my high school teacher. I first had him as my teacher during my junior year, and sinc...
A. 8 January 2011: Is there a full moon where you are at the moment/
what a selfish question me me me "is it worth disturbing a seeming happy marriage for my closure"?
NO IT IS NOT! What do you think this is going to achieve? Oi, you might live in fairy land b... (read in full...)
Trying to work things out with my husband but his daughters think of me as a drill Sergent!!
Q. My Husband and I have been seperated for three months. We both have children, and unfortuately his kids have never really gotten along with me. the girls have always lived with their mom, who has always been very lient with them. They have been ...
A. 8 January 2011: have you considered some family counselling, maybe with a person who has no agenda leading some honest communications between you all, your husband, your children and his children, you may be able to find some common ground.
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He has been my boyfriend for two months, and is now trying to get me pregnant!
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 2 months now and he started talkinq bout having a baby with me. The thing is im 16 and he is 18. I told him i'm not ready to have a baby that's not in my life plan to be pregnant at 16. even ...
A. 8 January 2011: Your boyfriend sounds truly awful, he doesnt respect your wishes, he doesnt respect your body and doesnt respect your opinions.
He is a big fat gunna, hesa gunna do this and hesa gunna do that ... hesa gunna go to college and gunna buy a house.
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He wants to improve our relationship but spends no time with our daughter
Q. My daughter's father is working on improving our relationship, but he will not spend time with or keep our daughter while I'm at school or work. Help?...
A. 8 January 2011: Have you asked him why?
Why doesn't he want to be a parent to his child?
Once you know why you will be able to determine how best to let him know how important it is to your child, and to you, that he pull his weight, if you two cannot meet ... (read in full...)
He asked me to text him, not email him. Would his GF think it was cheating?
Q. in january 2010 i broke up with my ex and it ended on bad terms (he cheated on me with his ex). since then we have both seen other people and got on with our lives since then and have had no contact until recently. he randomly sent me an email to...
A. 8 January 2011: If you are going to continue being in contact with him I think you should listen to his request and text. Maybe getting you to text is his way of letting his current girlfriend know that there is nothing going on behind her back.
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I said the wrong thing now he's ignoring me!
Q. Said the wrong the thing and now he is ignoring me? I met this man 8 weeks ago. we were seeing one another 3 nights a week going good having fun enjoying one anothers company. Then suddenly I accused him of seeing someone and he assured me he wasn'...
A. 8 January 2011: You have only known him for 8 weeks, life is not Bold and Beautiful where people meet marry have children, have affairs with step children, die, come back from the dead and remarry each other in a 12 week period.
Its only 8 weeks, 8 short weeks, ... (read in full...)
My husband has lots of female friends and ex lovers whom he is in touch with...and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My husband is a very popular man and has lots of female friends and ex lovers. I knew all about these women before I married him but since then have begun to hate his contact with these people especially his ex flames. He says that I am insecure and ...
A. 7 January 2011: He married you, he didnt marry them.
You knew all about his female friends, and that some of them were ex lovers before you married him, THAT was when you should have expressed your concerns. That was also the time to discuss this, and how you ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my first love who dumped me for someone closer to her?
Q. My ex dumped me on the 29/12/10 at 10:00pm we was together for 385 days and 1200 seconds. We met over the internet on a chat site, we got to know each other over 7 months then I asked her out. Two months later I gave her a love letter, it was quite ...
A. 7 January 2011: Oh lordy, all that counting, by your keeping of such meticulous records she may have felt as if she was slowly being caged in, (I know I wouldnt like it), and fled.
I think you may be more in love with the idea of being in love than with the girl... (read in full...)
Shall we report her anonymously or hope she will stop being a bully?
Q. Morning all. Please advise on the following.... Our team leader at work has been promoted to assistant manager and the power has gone slightly to her head. She talks down to us and is quite rude with her comments. For example 1 girl on the ...
A. 7 January 2011: I never, ever send anonymous letters, or emails. Being anonymous means that people are not prepared to stand by their words, anonymous letters of complaint are more likely to be thrown in the bin as rubbish than acted upon.
Far more affectiv... (read in full...)
Is he cheating?
Q. Hi, I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a bit now, but i've found that our sex life has taken a downfall. we only have sex once every 2 to 3 weeks and his penis is always dirty. His excuse is that he masterbates in the shower and didn'...
A. 7 January 2011: I dont know if he is cheating on you, but it seems odd that masturbating in the shower leaves him dirtier than when he went in, but for me a dirty penis would be a deal breaker.
Yech!... (read in full...)
Should I write a testimonial for a former flame to help him find love on a dating site?
Q. Does it show some class to write a good testimonial (voucher) for someone you still have feelings for, on a dating site? We ended up being just friends (platonic) since the distance was to hard to maintain any type of intimate relationship. I...
A. 7 January 2011: I wouldnt do it, I wouldnt date a man who has a former girlfriend giving testimonials, I would find that kinda off putting.
I certainly wouldn't be doing it for somebody I still had feelings for, why not wear a hair shirt instead and be done wit... (read in full...)
How do I start my life again?
Q. how do i start my life again after the love of my life has left me and our baby son. my heart is broken, im confused about why he has done this. i need help to move on and stop feeling so devastated. please help me...
A. 7 January 2011: Just put one foot in front of the other and get things done. Just go through the steps to make sure you are covering what you need to do to live, if you need to sign up for a payment of some sort, do that at once. I don't know what the processes ... (read in full...)
After breaking up with me, he starts dating my friend
Q. I dated this guy for 3 years, he was my high school sweetheart.We grew together, did everything together and it seemed so perfect. Just 2 months ago, he broke up with me because he was done with our fighting, and fell out of love. I realized how ...
A. 6 January 2011: He ignores your texts etc because he is, as you say, done with your fighting. Now I dont know how cranky and edgy you have been, nor how long its been going on for, but it would seem you were too cranky and it went on too long for your ex.
Sure,... (read in full...)
Would it be stupid to leave one good man (who is my baby's daddy) for another man just because the romance was richer??
Q. I have been dating a man for about 8.5 years except for one break-up that lasted about 4-5 months at which time I met this other man and really liked him but when the first man wanted me back I went running, being still in love and all. Its been 5 ...
A. 6 January 2011: Mark has a girlfriend, he has been with her for three years, so what if she treats him horrible, he must like it to stay with her for so long ...
I dont understand why you would even consider breaking up your family, especially when you say your... (read in full...)
Help, do I just accept the psychopathic boyfriends' mother and her bad doings?
Q. My boyfriend and I get on fabulously, at least we did, until our argument just before Christmas 2010, which really has put permanent doubts about us in my mind. The thing is that his mum is a manipulative, controlling expert, whom I cannot win ...
A. 5 January 2011: I stopped reading when you explained how you ended up in hospital with suspected broken hip ... and that it was his fault.
I assume he pushed or hit you?
He seems to side with his mother against you all the time. He isnt going to change.
If... (read in full...)
I took a girl's lost blackberry and everyone has found out and started abusing me on facebook!
Q. A few days after christmas my cousin had a house party and at this party i found a phone on the floor. I put it in my pocket, planning to keep it but when the party finished the girl who had lost the phone was in tears. But i didnt give it back. ...
A. 3 January 2011: I should imagine you feel pretty horrid ... I am sure you realise now that by not advertising you had the blackberry when you picked it up, and by not returning it when the owner was in tears you realise you were actually STEALING it.
Now you have... (read in full...)
My bf gave me a black eye. My Dad wants to meet him
Q. ok so my boyfriend hit me and gave me a black eye and i dont know whether to leave him or not because i'm kind of scared of him. My dad keep asking me to tell him where he lives because he wants to go round there but i dont really want to tell him ...
A. 25 December 2010: Yes you should leave him. If you are scared of him you should tell your dad where he lives, and you should ask your father to go with you to the police station to report the assault.
If you are worried he will come around to your house all the time... (read in full...)
Please don't judge, need advice. I'm crazy for him. He has 5 kids by 3 women and his wife is pregnant. At wit's end
Q. I need help. I've been in a relationship with this man for over a year now. He's married. In the begnning I idnt know he was married. His family lied to me he lied to me. I got pregnant and we now have I child together. She is 5 months old. He and ...
A. 25 December 2010: I am not judging you, but I am judging him, very badly. Just for a moment pretend its twenty years in the future he is somebody your daughter is hooked up with and take a long honest look at him.
Look at his past record with women, how great is... (read in full...)
Was I raped by this guy years ago. How do I get over this?
Q. I had a really traumatic first time, experience years ago. I was making out with someone and I was happy just with that. Then he forced himself on me and had unprotective sex with me. It was very painful. I couldn't stop crying, but he kept going ...
A. 24 December 2010: It sounds like you need some help dealing with this, there are a number of telephone counselling services who may be able to help, and I would start there, each state's Health department will also have a counselling service, eg SARC in WA, but you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with her but she is taken by someone better
Q. Im in love with this girl ive known her for about a year she has had the same boy freind for almost 10 months and im afriad she might fall in love with him i have never heard her say that she loves we are not best freind because im to afraid i...
A. 24 December 2010: She has a boyfriend, she has been dating him for 10 months, thats two months less than she has known you ..
so you havent heard her say she loves him, have you considered they keep those declarations private?
You simply have to tell yourself the... (read in full...)
She wants me to ask out the guy I like...for her!
Q. i kinda like this boy, but i never told anyone he is about 1/2 years older he always smile at me on the bus and i laugh at him with my friends and stuff like that but then afterwards my friend liked him but i never told her i like him and she wants ...
A. 24 December 2010: I agree with Blod. If your friend wants to ask him out she can, its not your place to put yourself on the line like that.
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Are my feelings rational? And what should we do?
Q. Hello Before my girlfriend and I were together she had a small fling with a friend of mine. She has told me that she had no feelings for him and that the only reason she was with him was to help her get over her ex that she had recently broken u...
A. 23 December 2010: You need to decide what you want. A relationship where you allow something that happened BEFORE you and your girl got together chew you up, or a relationship where you acknowlege you are not the first boyfriend, that you girl has been with somebody ... (read in full...)
Was it right for me to worry about this 15 year old girl my ex is dating?
Q. ohhhhh kayyyyy. So my ex boyfriend said i cant talk to his ex girlfriend and all i told her was the truth. He cheated on me. We live in same town. This girlfriend hes now seeing again live in a different state and shes fifteen. Hes twenty. Was this ...
A. 22 December 2010: How do you know he is having sex with her?
From your question I gather your ex boyfriend has gone back to the girl he was cheating on with you.
Is that right?
And what are you worrying about, the fact he cheated or the fact he said you cou... (read in full...)
Return to wife or stay separated?
Q. Well, I'm still wondering what I should do now. I am in a long-term marriage of over 25 years but for many of those years felt very lonely. My wife and I had drifted very far apart and it seemed like we had very little in common any longer excep...
A. 19 December 2010: If you are going to stay married then for goodness sake work at it, if you honestly beleive there is nothing there for you then end it.
Surely you can see that there are two separate issues here. Your marriage and this other woman.
Your q... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I'm married and I can't let him go. I can't cope please help.
Q. I can't cope. I'm married and care a lot about my husband but I find myself having strong feelings of love for another guy. The guy doesn't know I'm married and has no idea how I love him. He's the kinda guy that I wish my husband was. I've been ...
A. 19 December 2010: I deleted my very long response, but please, whatever you do, do not end your marriage so that you can be with somebody else. Your children will resent you and your husband will see himself as supplanted, even if it means not seeing your new guy ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend needs a place to stay, I want my parents to take him in!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We are very happy together. The problem is he has a bad home life to the point that he had to leave and move in with a friend. Now that hes at his friends house new problems have arrived because ...
A. 16 December 2010: I had to read this twice. Your boyfriend's parents have said if he wants to live at their house, and be supported by them he needs to go to college.
Your boyfriend's friend, who he moved in with, has, all of a sudden, become jealous of him beca... (read in full...)
Is it appropriate for my boyfriend to buy his ex a mother's day gift?
Q. my boyfriend has a daughter and he and i have been together for 5 years. Do u think its appropriate for him to buy the kid's mom a mother's day gift? is it ok for me to feel a little jealous over that?...
A. 15 December 2010: I think it is very appropriate for him to buy his child's mother a mother's day gift.
And apart from that I would go along with what 'Youwish" has said.
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I want to watch my wife with a bigger guy
Q. I am married and have a great relationship. But I have this fantasy of watching my wife with a bigger guy. How do I talk her into it. We have stories we tell each other over the phone and they involve me watching or taping.she loves them but said ...
A. 15 December 2010: You wife has said she doesnt want to do it. If you try and talk you wife into doing something she doesnt want to do it shows a lack of respect.
Maybe your wife isnt interested in having sex elsewhere, maybe your wife believed the wedding promises... (read in full...)
He's telling him that if I don't give him a kid soon, he will leave!
Q. I don't have any children, but my boyfriend has a 5 year old daughter. He said he wants another kid soon. I'm 23, he's 24. I recently just graduated from college with a bachelor's degree and I'm currently looking for better employment (something to ...
A. 12 December 2010: He seems very immature, tell him if he wants to be a father he needs to build a relationship with the child he already has.
I wouldnt want to be having a baby with him, he doesnt sound like much of a catch when you describe him. I think you need... (read in full...)
Because of his parents, I am always on the outside looking in
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Its not been an easy relationship, his Mum can't stand me and as a result I've been banned from entering their family home for some time. There is no reason for her hate, she's just a possessive ...
A. 11 December 2010: It sounds like he wont be leaving the comfy nest his parents provide for him any time soon if he is unable to earn a living wage away from his parents business and likes the pampered lifestyle they provide.
It seems to me its down to you in this,... (read in full...)
Because of his parents, I am always on the outside looking in
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 3 years now. Its not been an easy relationship, his Mum can't stand me and as a result I've been banned from entering their family home for some time. There is no reason for her hate, she's just a possessive ...
A. 11 December 2010: Maybe its time he looked at taking his customer service skills and cooking abilities and found himself a job where YOU would be welcome. ... (read in full...)
Are they lesbians and am I cut out of this relationship?
Q. Three years ago my girlfriend and I decided to have a 3some with a girl that we had just recently started geting to know. So one night after the bar closed that my girlfriend worked at we all went back to our house and started playing around with ...
A. 11 December 2010: Do you contribute financially to the household, pay the rent, buy the food etc etc because from what you have said I cannot see why they bothered themselves enough to have you move in.
I dont understand what you thought would be in this move for... (read in full...)
He spends all of his free texting his co-worker!
Q. My fiance and I have been having problems. We have talked about going to see a couselor but everytime I go to make an appointment he says we are fine and dont need one. My real concern right now is, I found out today that he has been texting ...
A. 10 December 2010: The RED FLAG here is the fact he said no when you asked to meet her. If they are just friends, why is he saying now? He is emotionally withdrawn from you. You need to decide what you are prepared to accept from him in this relationship.
If it... (read in full...)
Mom said she would throw me out the house if I ever fell pregnant... and I just found out I AM!!!
Q. I am 15 and pregnant. My boyfriend and I had sex with him and the condom fell off. So I got scared and took a pregnancy test. I turned out to be pregnant. I have not told my mom yet because the last time we talked she told me if I get pregnant I ...
A. 10 December 2010: You have to talk to your mother. I am not going to say that all mothers will simply open their arms and all will be hunky dory ... BUT most mothers make threats, their young daughters falling pregnant is a nightmare many of us fear .... mothers know ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my sister's plan and get away from him?
Q. Hi. I hope there is some advice you guys can offer me. Ive been with my boyfriend now for nearly 2 years. We were kind of set up at a party and one thing lead to another. We really began to like each other. After 3 months of meeting. He asked me ...
A. 9 December 2010: KC has given you all the answer, and advice you need. Listen to her, and to your sister!
Good luck to you and your little one!... (read in full...)
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