I'm writing her one last letter, closing off the whole relationship and saying goodbye. What should I write?
Q. I broke up with my ex fiance about a year ago to date and have cut communication for about 5 months now, but i recently found out she was asking about me. She was asking if i was dating and talked to my sister about how much she missed me, and ...
A. 7 July 2011: To be honest I would not be writing the letter. Your ex may have simply have responded to your sister to either be polite or non committal, in much the same way we sometimes tell people "we must catch up" knowing that we probably wont.
Just ... (read in full...)
This guy just wont leave me alone!!
Q. Hey so I was at a festival and some guy asked me for my number. Being stupid... I gave it to him. At first it was cute but now he will not stop texting me and calling! I told my parents because hes freaking me out so I told him that i was getting my ...
A. 6 July 2011: Next time he texts, get one of your parents to phone him back and advise him his contacting you in any way, shape of form is not welcome. That should stop him.
Either way, its a problem you are not handling, so give it to your parents to fix. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 6 July 2011: I sure hope that 'phase' that began when you started living together is finished before the baby is born, otherwise that 'phase' is going to ensure the baby grows up in a nasty violent vicious household, the baby will be stuffed before it is born, ... (read in full...)
Now he tells me he is 'too old' to have another child. It made me wonder whether I am okay with this
Q. Hi all I have a serious question and could do with some really good advice. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is quite a bit older at 45. We love each other very much, have a great friendship aswell as relationship. I know this man is the one I want to spend...
A. 5 July 2011: My third child was born when her brothers were 13 and 9, the age gap for the kids was not a problem.
However, I can understand your boyfriends reluctance to have another child, he will be ready to retire before the child is in highschool. ... (read in full...)
He told me that sometimes he hates that I wasn't a virgin!
Q. I have a problem, i had lost my virginity a few years ago which was the biggest mistake of my life well i hadnt let my self date since then nine months ago i met my current bf i had told him everything that i had been through since he was still a ...
A. 5 July 2011: Tell him you hate it that he hates you were not a virgin. Tell him you hate it that he appears to be unable to forgive you for your mistake, tell him you hate it that he sometimes thinks you are a ho.
Have you told him that part of you wants to... (read in full...)
Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change
Q. me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together...
A. 2 July 2011: You cannot help somebody who doesnt see the need to change. Despite the way he has treated you, with violence and threats and even trying to get you to strip for his friends, which I see as an enormous lack of respect, despite all this you love ... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex? She left me for her ex, but he beat her up so she wants to come back to me again!
Q. So my ex gf, who dumped me to get back with her ex boyfriend who hits her, wants to get back together. Im the complete opposite of her ex, hes a badboy kind of guy who doesnt do shit with his life, while i on the other hand, work two dead end jobs ...
A. 28 June 2011: I agree with Chi Girl, she needs to proactively deal with the abuser before she can consider a relationship with anybody else.
Reporting him to the police is a good start, but she must carry it through, and not drop charges.
I agree she nees tim... (read in full...)
What could this girl be implying when she called me a deuce?
Q. The girl i am seeing has a friend and her friend posted on her wall saying she was sorry it didnt work out and that i am such a deuce. What does deuce mean?...
A. 28 June 2011: Check urban dictionary http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=deuce
or maybe she can't spell and meant to call you a douche!
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Should I give my friend another chance or call it a day?
Q. Like to know what you'd do in these circumstances, Aunts and Uncles. I have a friend of about 4 years. We both act and met when we did a show together and we hit it off well (she's female). We met up for lunch occasionally and when she and her...
A. 27 June 2011: Just let it fade out, if she contacts you be friendly etc, if she wants to catch up with you, tell her you'll pencil her in, let her know if you dont hear from her a few times before the meet up date confirming, you will assume she cannot make it.
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Why is she not giving us a chance to at least talk?
Q. Been a year since my ex fiance broke it off. We been together 14 years and we also have 4 year old son. I don't know anymore. She just don't talk to me or anything. Like she done forgot about me. She say she on. Why she not giving us a chance to at ...
A. 27 June 2011: You got together when you were kids, if you were together for 14 years and you are now between 26 and 29. Maybe she grew up and discovered she wanted a different life than the one she was having with you in it.
I agree with Red Athena, she does... (read in full...)
Is this enough of an apology or should I do more to show him I was just really stressed and upset last week?
Q. I've been in cross-cultural, cross-religious, cross-everything relationship for the past 2 years! I'm 27, my boyfriend is 33. We live 80 miles apart and have been seeing each other about every 2 weeks lately. Our relationship has been tough with ...
A. 27 June 2011: I agree with those who ask if he tried to understand your feelings when you gave him the silent treatment or if he simply let you know how it affected him?
And yes, what is going to change over the next twelve months to bring his mother around? ... (read in full...)
Scared by my ex!
Q. i broke up with an ex-boyfriend like 6 months ago. we were one of those on again off again couples, so it wasnt our first break up. I ended the relationship around january due to some of his behaviour that i really really didn't like. But we chose ...
A. 26 June 2011: You friends are right, you need to let your family know, and you need to go to the police. Take your phone with you, they may be able to retrieve the text and images.
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How did I get myself into this? My dream girl on one side and my GF and kids on the other side!1
Q. I'm currently in a 7 year long relationship w/ kids but here goes I met this girl on fb started to chat, she didnt look too good but was funny and was making lots of sexual innuendo and she caught my eye at some point. I invited her to the beach an...
A. 25 June 2011: She is playing you like a fish. You are dangling on the end of her fishing line. You are going to toss over your partner and mother of your children for a fleeting moment of passion. So it goes, I just hope your current girlfriend says NO w... (read in full...)
What can I do about this unbearable pain in my vagina during sex?
Q. Whenever my fiance and I are having sex I have unbearable pain inside my vagina. It's feels like cuts inside and also hot. What can I do to stop this pain because it's really interfering wit my sex life. Please help. ...
A. 25 June 2011: Go and see a doctor or medical professional, the sooner you get proper advise the sooner the problem can be fixed. ... (read in full...)
How do I address his unjust accusation that I was cheating. I was not.
Q. hi everybody. my problem is i met a man in march he lives 2 mins away from me he asked me out i said yes he came round mine after a couple of weeks we had sex we carried on like this for 7 weeks i went out for a night out with my friends first time ...
A. 25 June 2011: He is the one that accused you of cheating after only 7 weeks and you are worried he might think you are being too serious too quick?
He has said he only wants you for sex, I think this man is very clever at manipulating you, step back and take... (read in full...)
I just found out the guy my wife lost her viginity to had a bigger penis
Q. hi just found out the guy my wife lost her virginty to was my 2nd cousin after 22 years of married life when she blurted out his name by mistake i asked her his name and found out he had a bigger penis and said she was sorry had i known this i would ...
A. 24 June 2011: I find it really, really odd, that after 22 years your wife just up, out of the blue and for no reason at all blurted out
"the person I lost my virginity was John Smith and he had a bigger penis than you!
So, whats the real problem here, th... (read in full...)
Somebody is 'planting' panties
Q. My wife recently discovered a pair of panties which were obviously planted by (we suspect) during a recent visit by an envious/jealous guests (younger adult neice). Luckily, my wife knows I had nothing to do with the matter. Any suggestions on how ...
A. 24 June 2011: Put them in a celophane bag, incude a note "Are these yours?" and post them to her from a post office far far away from where you live.
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Since we've been back in contact I feel I love him more than when we were together, but at the same time can't deal with his cheating and friendship with another girl!
Q. Hey, I'm so confused. Me and my boyfriend split about a month ago due to him cheating, I cut all contact with him and didn't hear or see him for this month. Although I did still always think about, I kept telling myself he cheated I deserve better. ...
A. 17 June 2011: Just because you are back in contact with each other doesnt mean he has to be exclusive. He has a girlfriend, he spends time at her house, he prefers to be with her over you.
Are you asking him if he misses you and loves you or is he saying it u... (read in full...)
Why didn't he want to have sex with me?
Q. I met this guy earlier tonight, and we were having a nice time watching TV and we held hands, not sure if we were attracted to each other and then we moved to the bedroom and started foreplay which was okay, and then he stopped and said "sorry, ...
A. 13 June 2011: Maybe he is in a relationship and his conscience kicked in, maybe he has had performace problems in the past. Maybe he has a personal rule about no sex within 24 hours of meeting somebody.
If you have his contact details you can give him a call t... (read in full...)
Need advice, with this boring, wants sex all the time guy??
Q. So my boyfriend and i have been together 8 months we are having a baby next month. he has wonted us to live together and be a family but im not ready for us to live together. he has also talked about getting married, he has told me before that he i...
A. 8 June 2011: Sex is not what makes a relationship, sure, it plays a big part but if that is all you have its going to get boring pretty darn quick!
Laughter, joking, being together, talking, sitting quietly,spending time with friends, spending time with exte... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to get a mistress to do the sexual things that I can't do!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to squirt or give him a golden shower, but despite my best efforts I can't do either. He now wants to get a 'mistress' that can do these things. I know what ur all thinking 'get rid of him and find someone that loves me etc' ...
A. 8 June 2011: Is he really the one for you? A man who makes sexual demands that you cannot fulfill. A man who doesn't find you, as you are, enough, or satisfying. A man who is quite happy to tell you that you are not good enough for him? Is that really the ... (read in full...)
How do I get my man to be more romantic without outright telling him?
Q. Is it bad to have a list of things in your head that you wish your man did?? Like i wish he gave me foot massages and brought me flowers out the blue and things like that, but my thing is i don't want to have to mention to him and then he does it ...
A. 4 June 2011: Some men need to be whapped around the head with a bouquet of roses to get the message.
Your guy is not going to get the message unless you send it, how you do this is up to you, but you could try leaving him a note, or bringing HIM a bunch of... (read in full...)
My friend and my fwb were flirting and I am jealous and angry. What should I do about it?
Q. I had a fwb/bc. Its just something we have between us, no one knows. In the eyes of some of our friends, we just met. The day we "met" we played it off fine. We were drinking with our friends. He drank a lot. There was a point when I asked him if ...
A. 4 June 2011: The problem with being somebody's FWB is that all you are is a handy receptacle when he feels like some sex.
Thats all it is, you have no rights in this relationship, if you meant anything to this guy you would be his girlfriend not his handy bit ... (read in full...)
Tremendous sexual tension with this guy at work, we got together against all odds, and now his dominating ex (who he broke up with, for me) claims she's pregnant. He's back with her, says I was just a shoulder to cry on!
Q. Hi, all and any advice will be greatly appreciated as I've gotten myself into a bit of a emotional pickle. In May last year I started a new job. In September a flirtation began between a colleague and I, one who unfortunately was in a 3 year rela...
A. 4 June 2011: Leave him alone and go find yourself a man that isnt already attached.
It seems to me you knew what you were doing, you slept with him despite your gut feelings, you contributed to this situation, now that a child is involved you need to ackno... (read in full...)
Boyfriend help please...my boyfriend has a lot of girlfriends. What should I do?
Q. Boyfriend help! My boyfriend doesn't get along with men/guys well. So he has alot of "girlfriends." I usually, am a jealous girlfriend, not overly jealous, but average jealous for a girlfriend. However, recently, one of his "girlfriends", h...
A. 4 June 2011: The problem with forcing issues where a person has to chose one person over the other is that we are not always happy with the choice once made.
You ask what you should do, here is my answer:
leave him to his female friends and find a boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Should I pay my boyfriend or should he work for free?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year and six months. He has a handyman business. I need electrical and plumbing work done should i pay him to do the work?...
A. 4 June 2011: As a minimum you should pay for all materials, his labour should be negotiated, reduced rates would be reasonable.
Keep business businesslike, get the quotes and have a genuine invoice to pay against. This will ensure if something goes wrong you ... (read in full...)
I feel so guilty for not loving my mother
Q. I've single mother, she is always out if not she is divided from me towards my siblings and my stepdad. For decades now it's just me and her. I feel so guilty that I cannot find any comfort from her, and often I feel so ungrateful because she's th...
A. 3 June 2011: Are you just entering your teen years as you say in your last sentence or coming out of them as your stated age would indicate?
Your age would impact how I would answer your question.
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We're supposed to go on a two month trip together but now she's got feelings for another guy!
Q. I started dating this 27 year old mother of two girls, 9 and 10, back in November. We were in Spanish class together at the local community college and spent a lot of time talking about travel. A month later we booked a trip to south america for ...
A. 15 May 2011: Dont let it get to you, I doubt there is a relationship here for you, but dont cancel the trip if it is something you have wanted to do for a long time.
If you have booked separate rooms GREAT! If not, see if you can change the booking to a room... (read in full...)
Is she more than FRIENDS to my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend has a female friend of 8 yrs whom hes very close to. This send off red flags because he seems to like her more than friends.. although she is dating too but he's just always happy to see her everytime.. like tonight, he told me that she ...
A. 5 May 2011: You knew your boyfriend was having a visitor, who he wanted to talk to, and he told you what time she would be there, and that he would call you when he was done talking to her.
You ignored the fact he was going to call you and called him first, k... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but he seems to be using me as a business arrangement
Q. It's been hard for me. I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years with a man who's much older than me and never married. I was so attached to him and loved him. He cared a lot about me too. He's been good to me when we are together. We talk,...
A. 5 May 2011: What a horrible man!
He is also a dishonourable man.
Cerebus is correct, he can get around China, I have been there and it was relatively easy without knowing the language, he is just using that as a trap to get you into his bed.
You need ... (read in full...)
Should accept the fears and limitations of my parents or move on with my life as the adult I am?
Q. i'm a 20 year old woman who still lives with her parents. i have a 25 year old boyfriend who lives in another state. i've been planning a trip to see my boyfriend and go with him to a convention since december of last year. i spent around 200 ...
A. 5 May 2011: I can see both sides here, you do need another job, can you job seek online or will you be looking for work in an area that will require face to face applications? Can you split the difference time wise, if you want to be away for a month, a... (read in full...)
We had our first big fight...over his friendship with another girl
Q. Hey everyone. My boyfriend and I have been going out for 5 months now and had our first big fight the other night. We've been having a few communication problems in the past few weeks and we both knew that the argument was coming. It was about t...
A. 25 April 2011: Why on earth does he think she needs to know what is happening in your relationship with him?
Would he be able to answer that question if you put it to him? If you asked him why she told him about her mother's cancer but not her best friend, ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to ask a married man out for coffee?
Q. Hi everybody. First time here. Could use your advice. I am friendly with a married man. Our sons go to karate together. We talk a lot when we see each other twice a week. He always finds me to talk and seems to enjoy my company. I enjoy his compan...
A. 25 April 2011: Hows about you ask him and HIS wife out for coffee
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Can I win him back? Or should I not try? My ex flirts more with me than his Gf
Q. My best friend is also my ex boyfriend and we are still in love with each other. He has a girlfriend, but he sees, talks, and flirts with me more than her. As a matter of fact, they NEVER see each other... well, today I told her that I think I ...
A. 25 April 2011: oh for heaven's sake, what did you expect her to say when you told her you MAY want him back?
That's nasty, you are nasty to be encouraging him behind her back, crying in his arms. You are one nasty girl, my advise to you is to straight... (read in full...)
LDR b/f cannot let go that I slept with someone before I even met him!
Q. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!I need some help :( My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. We met while we were both travelling, thinking at first that it was only going to be a holiday fling. Well, 6 months d...
A. 24 April 2011: EllaBee, the financial strain you feel you should have mentioned he is under would not have altered my answer one jot, but if you had mentioned you have been helping out with money my answer would have been a little more emphatic.
This is a toxic ... (read in full...)
Has this all started at the wrong way?
Q. I've know this guy for 2.5 years by now, but nothing had happened between us until 1 week ago. he is married with a 1 year old daughter, and according to him, their marriage life is no longer what it used to be and they have separated bedrooms. He ...
A. 23 April 2011: You answer NO
He has been honest, he only wants sex, he is married, he has a child, he likes your sister, who I assume is not the girl he is married to
Why tie yourself up with a person like that, why bring more heartache down upon yourself, st... (read in full...)
Should I take him back
Q. i found out my husband was having an affair when he left his telephone out for me to check and saw texts from other woman. i was shocked and he packed his stuff and left that night to stay in her spare room as a lodger. Two days later he regretted ...
A. 23 April 2011: if he was having sex with her before you found out there is no way he is now just sleeping in her spare room.
Dont fall for his lies and his bullshit. Sorry to be so blunt.
If he wants to get back with you he needs to undergo a complete attit... (read in full...)
LDR b/f cannot let go that I slept with someone before I even met him!
Q. I'm so confused, I don't know what to do!I need some help :( My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. We met while we were both travelling, thinking at first that it was only going to be a holiday fling. Well, 6 months d...
A. 23 April 2011: He says he doesnt love you anymore but you are still planning to meet him in the next few months? Why?
You say He never calls, never texts, is cold and distant and argues with me about every little thing I say, and yet you are still planning... (read in full...)
She's sure I cheated when I didn't
Q. my gf have been together for 1 year and 9 months now and she truly believes i cheated on her when i know i didn't but i can't back up my story and its ruining our relationship. i love her and would never hurt her but i have no idea what to do. ...
A. 22 April 2011: Get her to define cheating, as has already mentioned for some girls dancing with another girl is cheating. Once you are both clear on what she means by cheating, then you can decide if you cheated or not. If you are still adament that you did not... (read in full...)
Will this poem help me get my wife back ?
Q. I wrote a poem for my wife ... is it too much? Will this poem help me get my wife back? She said she does not want space but to talk My Love, My Heart The woman who defines me The person who most inspires me The lady who completed me I did you ...
A. 21 April 2011: David, if you wife has left and you want her back, a few words is not going to get her for you. Your poem repeat that you did her wrong, maybe your marriage just got to the point where she needed to remove herself from it, and your wrong doings.
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What is the mind of a woman like?
Q. if a woman suggests sexual activity to most any man, he's willing, probably eager, and more than likely thrilled. If most any man suggests the same to a woman, she'll say no, probably be offended, and very likely will decide that he's a shallow ...
A. 21 April 2011: nope @ penis question.
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