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writes: So I have a fantasy that I've already told my BF about, but scared to act on it cause it may change our relationship. So my fantasy is to watch him have sex with another woman. I know this usually doesnt turn women on thinking of their men being with someone else, but to me it does (as long as I am there). I've mentioned this to him, which he wouldnt mind happening, but also told him I would never feel compfortable enough doing this unless we were married. We have been together 6 years and I know my BF loves me and would never do anything to hurt me, but would this be going to far to act on this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would like to thanks all for the response but wanted to make it clear that I'm not offering this because I want to be married. But I know how he feels about marriage and he only wants to get married once. Which is one of the reasons I want to wait until marriage. I am interested in having sex with another woman and let him watch. I do watch porn with and without him. So yeah, kind of a freak. As I said before, this wouldnt appeal to most women.
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reader, jc82  +, writes (27 March 2010):
 If you're brave enough, and you trust your boyfriend enough, then live out your fantasy. Just think deeply about the possible consequences to be as sure as you can be that you won't end up hurt.
But, I got an impression after reading your post, that may be totally false, so ignore it completely if it doesn't fit your situation, but you do you think maybe you want to be married so badly that you are trying to entice your boyfriend with this offer? Do you really want to be married, but he won't take the step? I might be way off, but if you think that is going on, I have to say I think its not worth it to do something like this in order to get married. And it likely won't work either.
Good luck to you, and I hope you get what you want, whatever that is!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): What you are saying is that you would only let him have sex with another woman if you were married, which means you are fearful that you would lose him if you carried out this fantasy.
I think it is very strange indeed that you want to watch him with another woman. Are you a porn watcher? Addicted to porn? Do you want to have sex with a woman while with your man?
Don't do it, it leads to jealousy and hurt feelings, if you really care about your relationship then do not bring anyone else into your bed, not even ghosts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2010): Sure does sound risky.
I am not sure why being married makes it different in your mind. Marriage is a piece of paper and I think if it would have bothered you w/o marriage then it might still bother you with it.
If you do act on it - get wise and don't do it with someone you know.
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