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writes: Few years ago, I'd a crush on one of my colleagues in the same department. When I know her, she has already a steady boyfriend and are staying together. She did not know how I feel about her and our contact was purely about work then. Soon after, I was posted to a department. Though I had lesser chance of seeing her, occassionly, I would be able to see her during our company meetings.One day during the company meeting, I took the chance to ask her whether she was interested to join a group of colleagues for a drink. She agreed and since then, we would meet frequently within a group of friends. Through these years, both of us become so close that people thought we are a couple. Though till now I have not tell her how I feel, I suspected that she might be awared of my feelings. We care greatly and always be there for each other. Though she would mention her family to me, she seldom mention about her boyfriend. She, however does talk about her boyfriend to others. When we were alone, she would act like a little pampered girl, but in front of others, she would act as if she does not care about me. I do not understand why she is behaving in such a manner. To others, she is a happy straight girl with a stable relationship. To me, I suspect she has some feelings for me deep in her heart which she is afraid to reveal.There are a few times I wanted to confess my feelings to her, but I was afraid that it might jeopardise our current relationship. She has been occupying my mind and I could not concentrate on my work and other stuff. Can you advise me on what should I do next?
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reader, bell247 +, writes (3 July 2006):
think how much you value your friendship with this woman. Its got to swing one of two ways, never tell her how you feel, and you risk missing out on a good chance of a workable relationship with her.tell her how you feel and she might tell you shes in love with her boyfriend and would never leave him, or she could just surprise you, and tell you she has feelings for you.your'e still single, get out and have some fun in the meantime, u never know ,your workmate might even get jealous!
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