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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am 19 years old, and I have never had a boyfriend. I read things online about people my age not having boyfriends, but then their guy always comes when 'they least expect it'. I guess my problem is, I've given up, and stopped looking for one, and he still hasn't appeared yet. I've been told I am a nice girl, caring, compassionate. I am also a member of 3 clubs on my college campus, I go to parties often. I'm friendly, I like to hang out, try new things. I care about volunteering and helping others as well. I don't really have any guy friends, but I do have a couple of good girl friends, who usually have no problem getting any guy they want (and often do). I can be a bit shy sometimes, but I do open up after awhile. I guess my question is, why haven't I found a guy yet? Is it my looks? Is it my personality? I don't really understand why guys aren't attracted to me. Is it the way I dress? Am I too pudgy? Or is it because other girls are more interesting and know how to have a better conversation? is it because they know how to dress better? [I have red hair, blue eyes, about 5'6, I like to work out, modest dresser]
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (5 December 2010):
 It could be a combination of your looks and your shyness. A lot of guys tend to be greatly intimidated by beautiful girls. That phenomenon combined with the fact that you are somewhat shy and hesitant to talk to guys could result in this dilemma you have found yourself in. You also do not have many guy friends and that too could intimidate people.
Do not question yourself. Just be patient and I am sure one day you will meet a man worth your time. You cannot rush these things and you should not force it. I suppose another option would be to drop a few hints to someone you fancy in particular. Just so he knows that you are interested, he might be encouraged to make a move.
Be confident in yourself. You sound like a beautiful and intelligent girl so you have no reason to doubt yourself. Confidence can be very, very attractive.
I hope that helps.
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