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writes:I don't want to tell the entire story, but for about four years, I've been in love with the girl "that got away" and it's really been hurting me...and what's even worse is that she probably has the best boyfriend in the world! He's better than me in almost every way and I feel like I'm not good enough. It's been on my heart for a long time and I wish I could just have her. It feels like I'm the main character in a movie that just doesn't get the girl in the end, but I know life isn't like a movie. It seems as if I refer to her as just a mormal girl but in reality...she's the most perfect person that I would want to spend the rest of my life with, and I'm forced to be alone and watch her fall in love with someone else. I've tried to let go more than a few times and I have reoccuring dreams about holding her and telling her how much I love her, and it just starts a huge cycle with me asking myself if she secretly loves me or not. I've kept my mouth shut to her about it and I haven't done anything dangerous, she probably doesn't even know I have these feelings, but I miss her and I just want answers. Will she end up loving me, am I going to find someone else?....my biggest fear is ending up alone. Someone please, Help me..... Reply to this Question
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reader, Neanthia +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Dude, first on a side note before I answer your question: There ARE more girls in this world than there are guys. Odds are you will not end up alone you're 16-17 I know it seems like everybody is rushing to hook up but you really have a lot more time than you think.
Ok down to business, this girl, it sounds like you've really got it bad for her. You said you didn't want to tell the whole story and I don't think you have to, maybe just try thinking about what she likes in guys, and out of those qualities what do you have? Ask yourself this what do you have that her boyfriend doesn't? You say she has the best boyfriend in the world, dude there is no perfect person male or female, what makes you great is when you love someone despite those flaws. Is she happy with her boyfriend? Does she love him? If there was a rift between them you would have a pretty good chance but if that rift is you that could be a really good and a really bad thing. She could hate you or love you, it all depends on her. If they are happy together are you willing to drag them apart?
There is no easy answer to this question, I'm trying my best but you really have yourself in a pickle. Knowing how she acts around you might help and watching for signals. Don't be too pushy at this point, she is in a relationship, maybe subtle things to suggest you have feelings for her, but take it easy ok hun?
Let me know how it goes. :)
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