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30-35,
*lsie.
writes:I've never had a boyfriend and yet I have had sex; I feel horrible about myself. I've had plenty of chances to be in a relationship and I've always wanted to be in one but when it comes down to it, I get scared and I push them away. I become distant and I act like I never liked them. I was abused both sexually, mentally, and physically growing up (I'm now 17), and I'm am in therapy for that. I didn't really want to have sex but I did it anyway (it's only been two people), I have sworn of sex until I am married. But I am scared that I'll never have that chance to be married, if I keep pushing someone away. There's nothing good about me. I'm not attractive, extremely negative, and I'm never happy nor in a good mood. I'm so confused. What's wrong with me?
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reader, IHateWomanBeaters +, writes (24 June 2010):
 The question is, has your therapist helped at getting to the root cause of your problem and lack of self-esteem?If not, he/she is an idiot, and you need to get a new one.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Yes indeed.. your problems are many and very deep seated, all we can do is suggest you go talk things over with your therapist.
You will take time to understand and heal, their are no quick solutions. Continue to talk to your therapist, and keep a diary for when you have questions or worries you'd like to discuss.
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