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writes:Guys... what do you think if you get with someone who's a virgin? Ive met this guy and things are going well but he keeps turning things sexual. And well I've never done anything and still a virgin. I'm afraid when I tell him. He will freak out? Just wondered what all you guys out there feel about this
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reader, Serpico  +, writes (3 January 2017):
A high value guy who is really interested in you will place a lot of value on your chastity.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (1 January 2017):
 He was a virgin too once so I wouldn't be worried about that. The question is do you want to loose your virginity to this guy? If things are going great and thats what you want to do then it needs to be said. Hopefully When the time comes you can feel a little more relaxed by their being no standard of experience to live up to. If he is a decent bloke, being a virgin is something of a privilege to be taking and should behave accordingly. If on the other hand he has an issue with it- clearly he is not someone worth it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2017): Who cares what HE thinks?Please do not think you NEED to have sex with this guy or ANY guy to KEEP HIM. Ok?Of course he is turning things sexual! He's a guy, isn't he? A guy I presume in your age bracket? So, a young guy with raging hormones!Be careful sweetie.He is out to have sex with you.Can you handle losing your virginity (which, by the way is something special and precious) to a guy who is pressuring you for sex? Seems to me that is exactly what he is doing.I suspect you haven't known him for long either. Am I right? Which make is even more obvious he is out for sex. So, what will happen? You give in and lose your virginity to him and then regret it? Because he will use you and then lose you? Can you handle being some guy's conquest? Is that the way you want to lose your virginity? I would rather lose it to a man who LOVES me and CARES about me. And cares more about me than my pussy.If he freaks out, it will show he is just another asshole boy looking to fuck a girl. And wouldn't like her lack of experience because it would detract from his OWN pleasure.BUT some assholes will not freak out if you tell them you are a virgin, because it makes their conquest all the sweeter. They de-flowered a virgin! Quite the ego boost for them!I suggest you get to know him for a long time. Make sure you are in an exclusive relationship with him BEFORE you give him something as precious as your virginity.If he fails to hang around after he keeps pressuring you for sex and you do not give in, give him his walking papers. He is going to move on to a girl who will give it to him. Because that is ALL he is after.Remember, sweetie, you are worthy all on your own. Never bow to a man and feel you need to give him sex to keep him or keep his interest. BE DIFFERENT from the rest. Have respect for yourself. You are better than that.
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (1 January 2017):
 Hey it's OK to be a virgin and even more important to stay safe via abstinence, protection and getting each other tested
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 January 2017):
 I don't think you should tell him unless you want to have sex with him. He's clearly only after that with you and I think it's best to tell him you don't want to talk about sex with him.
If you like him, ask him on a date, but he seems to only be interested in sexting and such.
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