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writes:okay so i still think about the guy i had been talking to for awhile every day and every night. i can't get him out of my head. he knows i'm head over heels for him and i'm pretty sure he uses it against me. so here's the thing, how do i act like i don't care at all. i want him to think i'm over him, like he meant nothing to me and i've moved on. of course i still miss him and want him but i can't let him see that. it's just so hard. but i'm afraid if i act like i don't care, then he in return won't care and completely forget about me. i don't know if this makes any sense but i tried to explain. i'm just so lost. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2010): Do you want to be in a relationship with him either now or in the future? From what you provided it just seems to me as if you want to string him along until you feel like you're ready. In that case, don't ignore him. Talk to him once in a while. If you're bugging him a lot and he still responds to you then he is somewhat interested in your or at least in the conversations between the two of you. Just continue and see what happens. If you sense that he is attracted to you and has feelings for you then be straightforward with him. If you sense that he doesn't and can't ever then ignore him. A lot of people here give the "move on with your life and forget about her/him" advice. I think this is detrimental in the long run. I've been in your position and I'll tell you that you don't want to agonize over what could have been. Talk to him and find out and know for sure if he wants to be with you. If he doesn't, THEN it's time to move on. It is better to regret something you've done than to regret something you haven't done.
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 In my teens (many years back) I went through the same thing (it was a reverse in my case as I was a guy).
You can ignore this guy by occupying yourself with other thing you like, like, volunteer at local library/clinic/childcare or learn something new which can help you earn better in life. You will meet new people, and this guy won't be in your mind anymore. You need to be with new and better people.
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