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writes:My question is complex, but here goes, me and my girlfriend of 12 years always argue and break up, our relationship is not a happy one, she doesnt admit it but I know shes not happy. Why does she keep working her way back into my life even though we are both unhappy? She just wont let us move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): Even though some people love eachother, they can hate eachother at the same time. You need to ask yourself whether yo love her and want a future with her. If so then you should have a chat with her and tell her that all the aguing has to stop. If you don't agree with eachother, rather then argue you should just sit down and talk it through that way no harm is done. If you try this but you start continuelly arguing again then maybe you should just stop the relaionship. There has to become a point where you walk away and say no. Couples are supposed to live a happy life together but if all your oing is bringing misery to eachother then you should call it quits and move on. If she doesn't want that then you have to stay strong to your heart and say no. Don' let her weedle her way in. Cut her out your life,its for the best or you can just stay friends. Good luck. Remember, don't just follow your heart, follow your brain too.
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reader, citic101  +, writes (2 July 2009):
 perhaps the reason she "works her way back into your life " is beacuse You keep letting her do it . Perhaps she thinks no other guy wants her and you will always take her back.If she phones , dont answer If she emails , dont answer
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2009): I think shes maybe afraid to be a alone.if she is the same age as you (36-40) then i would understand it.i would talk to her that its not a happy relationship and you want to move on.this will shock her into leaving hopefully.if not then i think you need to be more forceful and either change your number or not speak to her for a a month or two.shell most likely get the message then that you want to go.if you arent dating just now then you wont be doing anything wrong and even if it sounds mean if this girl is really that strong then she`ll just keep on coming back into your life and annoying you which you obviously dont want.even link her to this question to show how you feel about this.
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