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writes:Just a random question I often wonder about, not a plea for help...I hear a lot from different people, when it comes to bisexuality, that if you haven't 'slept' with or 'been' with a person of the same sex, you are only bi-curious because you haven't tried it. How on earth can people come to this conclusion? If this is considered true, then the same rule applys to hetrosexuality. When you're a virgin do you consider yourself hetro-curious? No, before you have even entered your first relationship the majority of people are confident about what sexuality they are, which is generally straight.I've known from a young age that I am bisexual. From early teenage years I've liked both men and women. Now as a woman of 21, I can still say strongly that I am bisexual and it wasn't a phase. Although I have never been in a relationship with a woman, it's just because a man has came along first. I've been in love with two women, one of them was taken, and one of them was straight. It frustrates me greatly when people like to tell me I am not a proper bisexual and I find it so insulting.Does anyone else feel this way? Just curious for some opinions on this one please as it bugs me quite a lot! Thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 October 2010): I would maybe consider a person bisexual if they engaged in fairly regular sex with a member of the same sex, and bi-curious if they tried it very seldomly or escalated it each time they tried it till they actually became bisexual. I mean, if you have tried it all, what's left to be curious about? Hell, if we applied the same logic, I'd still be hetero-curious because I'm curious about a FFM threesome, which I've never really tried. I'm also curious about doing it weightless in the space shuttle...guess I'm forever heterocurious :)
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (14 October 2010):
I agree with dirtball, lots of girls don't mind making out with each other, but wouldn't take it further than that. And the bicurious title works for me, since I know I'm attracted to girls, but for me, sex is not as satisfying with women and I know I wouldn't want to date a woman. So it's more of a fantasy/curiosity. But you should be able to say your sexuality is what it is. Nobody would know it better than you.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (14 October 2010):
 You know, I've never thought about it. You make a very good point. I think the whole "bi-curious" thing popped up around the same time that it became trendy to be a lesbian, or at least for girls to make out. You see it all the time. I doubt any of those girls are actually bisexual, but they are showing off because they know that's what drunk boys like.
Please don't take these statements as a slight on anyone who is gay. I strongly believe that sexuality is not a choice and that it is nobody's right to tell someone else what sex is appropriate for them to be with. It's your life, live it how you see fit!
Back on topic, I also think the bi-curious label is a way for people to write off homosexual experiences they may regret. It's like saying, "I was confused, but now I know where I really stand." It devalues the experience so they can be comfortable with their sexuality.
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