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writes: HI, my girlfriend broke up with me, we were going out for 3 months and i bought her a ring whilst we were going out.. she didn't wear it very much, but now because we broke up shes wearing it most of the time... how does this work?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2006): I still wear the ring my ex gave me. We split up 2 years ago after a 4 year relationship. I loved him but his extreme - and very unjustified - jealousy made my life hell. I love him still and the ring reminds me of this.
Perhaps she's trying to let you know that there were plenty of good things about you she liked, but for some reason left you. Is that reason something to do with you - chewing gum when kissing? jealousy? forgot to bring her flowers? whistling on a Tuesday? Only you can know and change it if you think it needs to be changed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2006): I'm wondering why she did 'not'give you the ring back? She broke it off with you, did she not? No decent girl would dream of keeping a ring after a relationship has ended especially if she is the one who ended it. And why are you giving girls you date, rings so early in a relationship, anyways? In answer to your question-she accepted the ring initially from you, simply because she didn't know how to say no or didn't want to say no. Sadly, the ring likely represented much more to you than it did to her. To you, this ring, showed your intent to stay true to her and this ring symbolized your committment. If she didn't bother wearing it during your relationship, that was her way of likely saying to you, the relationship didn't hold much value to her. You should've seen it coming, dear. Now she wears it, because it's just another chunk of jewellry that matches her wardrobe. I honestly think people who break up with someone but keep the very thing that symbolized their togetherness and committment are very thoughtless and materialistic. There is nothing you can do about this-learn from this experience, ignore her and make it a good habit NOT to give girls you date for 3 months, rings and other gifts.
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reader, uonlyliveonce  +, writes (5 July 2006):
 i stil wear a ring an ex gave me it doesnt really mean anything to me at all to be honest i dont know why i wear it. maybe she misses you maybe its just something to wear unless you ask her you'l never know
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2006): Probably she misses you, but that doesn't necessarily mean she wants a relationship with you again. she's wearing it as a trophy maybe, people will ask where did she get it from? and she will reply so and so gave it to me.
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