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Why is my wife so bitchy?

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Question - (18 December 2010) 7 Answers - (Newest, 4 December 2011)
A male United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Why has my wife turned so bitchy, and what can I do about it?

My wife has always had a strong temper and did not hold back if she was REALLY mad. However, she was easy going most of the time.

Now, in the last 6 months or so, she is mad all the time - and often at me. If things don't go exactly to plan of how she envisioned something g in her mind, she becomes a bitch on wheels. Anything from getting stuck at too many red lights in a row, to one of her shows accidentally getting erased from the VCR. And anything I do, she is extremely critical of. Just yesterday, after a 9 hour work day, I cam home and fixed a dripping faucet. It took me over an hour. She wen to the movies. When she came back, instead of saying thanks that's great, she asked whether I didn't fix the other leKy faucet at the same time. She just nit picks everything I do

I love my wife. We have been married a long time. But I can't live like this. I need some plans or tools to redirect or change her demeanor

Does anyone know why this happens to 40 something year old women? Is it because they have been controlling every aspect about their kids, that they get used to acting in a controlling way? I see husbands caving to this crap all over the place, but I am not one to abide by this. Any thoughts of why this happens, and constructive ways I can I prove the situation - other than throwing down my firetruck and leaving the sandbox?

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A female reader, gal karen United States +, writes (4 December 2011):

when you first met your wife you may have held her hand kissed every time you seen her looked at her like you wanted her and had sex whenever you could.. now she rarly gets a glimps of that man so she has a inner anger for you and it comes out for any little thing that is annoying to her., because she cant tell you the real reason is she is emotionally and sexually deprived from you..

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010):

Man, i feel your pain. Im 42 and my wife 41. Gwad shes a bitch. What i've found that works a bit for me, is i split out for the weekend every now and then. Me and my bud go fishin and get shit faced at the lake. No woman around to tell me when to eat, sleep, shit or otherwise. I made it a rule that she not call me while i am out doing my "man" things unless it's an emergency or i will turn the phone off. The other thing i learned that shuts a bitchy woman up is gettin down there and handling your "man biz" if you know what i mean. You gotta make sure shes getting hers on a regular basis. Try to remember when you guys first got together. How you used to nibble on her neck, kiss her with passion, look into her eyes. Take her to special places and "talk" yah.. i know... where pros at this right? LOL anyways... make a point of talking to her EVERYDAY as well... spend 15 minutes talking about the day before hittin sports channel. Also, while having conversations with her, when she gets critical, snappy, sarcastic... just go with it and 9 times out of 10 she'll just mellow.

But yah man, anyways... good luck with that shit....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2010):

I would not be willing to put up with constant bad moods...and there are only so many excuses one can make before it's time to ask yourself .....when she is in other people's company does she still speak unpleasant to them? does she speak to others in the same manner? Does old granny get it in the neck...or the local shopkeeper...i bet not! SO WHY SHOULD YOU?

I think excuses should not be made for bad attitude...i saw this in hospitals alot...A special license to have a sxxx attitude simply because one is poorly/ old/ etc...all excuses we have choice to be nice or not quite simple in my mind. Tell her to fix it herself and YOU go for a beer.

Spunky monkey

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2010):


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A female reader, Tbosse South Africa +, writes (19 December 2010):

Tbosse agony auntMenopause? Mid life-crisis? Take her out for a romantic dinner, ask her whats wrong.tell her you find her 'unsexy when shes bitchy', ofcourse in a jocking manner! Goodluck

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A female reader, OliviaAna United States +, writes (19 December 2010):

OliviaAna agony auntI like your last statement. Take her out to coffee and ask her what's wrong. She may have issues and thinks you don't care if you don't talk with her about it. Approach her in a calm sweet manner when it's just the two of you. You'll never know if you don't simply ask and you both will be miserable trying to figure each other out. Talk to her, Buddy. Also find a nice card that lets her know you care (she can read that over and over) Good luck and I hope it all works out lovely for you both. =)

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A female reader, branhquy United States +, writes (19 December 2010):

branhquy agony auntbecause of her period I guess

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