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*hippy2
writes:Oh Please Help Me! How do you get over a bf of three years? You all told me before to get rid of him - I did then went back and now we are not talking - I found out he was on those sex sites telling women where to meet him when he is out of town - Made me sick - I asked him if he had been or intended to actually be with any of them and he kicked me out of his house! We do not live together. The next day his 11yr old daughter called and left me a message that daddy is moving on and he met someone and I am not to call unless it is an emeergency or I am dying! WTF?So he and I finally talked after 3 wks and he said he knew nothing about the daughter calling me and that he was not dating anyone just doing his own thing - I told him did he not think of me once in that time and what I was thinking? He said he doesnt want to be dating. Ok I get that but does that mean just me I wonder? We talked for 40 minutes and I have no clue what the conversation was about except for telling him it was cruel not to tell me that is what he was wanting to do after we have been together 3 yrs.All his friends have said he talks about me all the time happily and seem baffled. I think maybe he thought I was pushing for more of a commitment - but I just wanted him to be dating only me like he had been not screwing around with internet babes.Now I know I want it to be over but am very sad at the way he used me and now wont give me my things that are at his home - He said Thursday that he would give them to me Friday - the things I needed to do work around my house - well he never called and I was patient and waited till late afternoon and called and he never called back and It is now Sunday night! Do you think he thinks I will be back again after he figures things out if he keeps my stuff? Or do you think he is doing it for control? We had such a fun time together untill all this internet shit came into play. Some tell me to be patient - but we were together constantly and now nothing? I am so confused - Others say to move on but I cant without getting my stuff and I have his keys - Why is he being so mean? He has a new cell and hasnt offered the number to me yet - I am not the kind to call and harass someone - I just want to know were we stand - and how to resolve it so I can get moving on.HelpThanks Sorry so longAlso I think he is going thru some mid-life crisis or taking some drug or something - he is not the same somehow...is it because he is guilty?
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reader, Sprout +, writes (15 July 2008):
You asked him if he'd met or intended to meet any of those girls, and he kicked you out of his house? Well, I'd say he absolutely feels guilty... nobody should be talking to anyone behind their significant other's back! Uggh, people make me sick. It's a good thing you found out before your relationship grew any further! He's being mean 'cuz he's an ass, and moving on sucks and is never easy, but it sure as hell beats spending your life with a person who's not being honest or faithful to you. Good luck.
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reader, accused +, writes (14 July 2008):
 I am just going to be as honest with you as I can.. You should leave him alone! I know this is easier said than done, but if you continue on like this, in the end you will always end up feeling like you do right now! I know that we sometimes like to think the people we love, will love us back. Just not the case all the time. Taking from what you wrote in your question; he does not respect you! Did he ever once say that he asked his daughter about calling you? and since he didn't know anything about it, did he displine her for it? She is only 11yrs old, right? Well then she needs to stay in the 11yr olds place! I don't think that he feels guilty, I think that maybe he's found this whole new "internet babes" thing and he's running with it... Maybe he see's it as no strings... As far as, your things he has that could just be the fact that he doesn't care to give them back, or maybe he's using them! (winking). Either way try to get your things back and move on! Life is so short.... If you can't get your stuff back then chalk that up too.... Please keep me posted, and best of luck
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