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Why doesn't he say the three magic words I want to hear?

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Question - (18 April 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months. We are so loving towards each other......looking into each others eyes......kissing my eye lids........etc......

But, he hasn't said the 3 words.....I love you. I keep wanting to say it so bad, but I am scared. I am scared to get the "i like you a lot" or "thank you" reaction.

This is really eating me alive. I am scared if he doesn't love me now, then he never will. Others have told me that he is probably just as scared as I am to say it. What do I do? Please help. I love him.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (19 April 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntSome guys just cannot utter those three little words.

You can help him by telling him, "I love you!" and he could respond back in kind.

Or you can ask him the question. "Do you love me?"

He has to reply in the affirmative.

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A female reader, awesome United States +, writes (18 April 2008):

awesome agony auntI think you should tell him how you feel. Its true, probably he does feel a little afraid. If he does say thank you or something other than I love you too, then ofcourse you are gunna feel alittle disappointed but if your relationship is strong you will just move on. And then wait for him to say it. Its gunna be easier for him because he'll know you love him already. Say it to him when you guys are being romantic with each other, e.i. Kissing, hugging.. And say it natraully, don't sound fake or like it was planned. Anyways good luck. And hope all goes well in this big step.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008):

He is just scared to say it. Don't feel bad, I am married with 2 kids, and my husband has NEVER said those 3 words. Not once. I know if you tell him you love him he will be happy and he will say it back.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008):

First of all why rush the love thing. You may find something out and decide its not love after all. If you try to rush him to say those words then he may not be sincere. Just wait if it's been 6 months a little while longer won't hurt.

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A female reader, kizzy United States +, writes (18 April 2008):

kizzy agony auntjust wait till he feels he needs to tell you "i love you", but in the mean time just tell him how you feel and get everything off your chest and go with the flow. tell him how you really feel one night and say i never felt like this towards anyone before then everything should work out smoothly.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2008):

Love takes time to grow and six months isn't really all that long. Someone has to go first and they could be right that he is as scared as you to say it. Maybe you could fish a bit and see whether he's looking for a long-term commitment. He may fear that those three little words move things on faster than he is ready for.

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A female reader, starfairy United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2008):

starfairy agony auntGo about it in a roundabout way. Tell him how into him you are, tell him you have never felt this way about anyone before. Test the water on his reactions, that should give you a big indication of his feelings towards you.

If you don't feel you can come right out with "I love you", tell him you are falling in love with him.

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A female reader, peaches83 United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2008):

peaches83 agony auntSimple tell him you love him, your friends are probably right he may be as scared as you. If you say it then you will know your answer by the responce he gives

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