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Why does he like to have his hands around my neck?

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Question - (26 September 2010) 4 Answers - (Newest, 27 September 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *ngel0788 writes:

Why does my boyfriend like to have his hands around my neck during sex?? no tight enough to choke me.. But still :/

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A reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

you see i like this, and didnt realise till my man did this on me, like you said not choking you, more like a gentle hold turns me on big time, he has big manly hands too so there is space between my neck and his hand, just a gentle touch sends me wild, he often finds sensitve parts on my body i didnt even know of that just sends me crazy he nibbles on my ears and blows into my ears too and i have gone all shivery thinking about it LOL, thats another sensitve part i did not know of hes his very intuned with my body he knows it better than me but hey if you DON'T like your man doing this then tell him if he loves you he will stop, but i personal do its not a weird thing or a domerneering thing its just a gentle touch and i like it. good luck....

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010):

That's a very good question. Have you asked him that question? If you haven't you may want to consider asking.

My husband on occasion will do the same thing and has stated that for him it is a control/power high.

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A male reader, fordyboy United Kingdom +, writes (27 September 2010):

fordyboy agony auntSeems a little odd if you don't mind me saying as personally i can think of much better and more important things to do with my hands during love making. one word of advice here, CAUTION!!

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A female reader, RennieGeek United States +, writes (27 September 2010):

I am not sure why, but I know I have experienced this with two other guys. One I was with for five years and I used to just kind of nudge his hands away, it was usually just one hand near my neck but it did make me feel threatened.

The other guy I was only with once and it did seem a bit too close for comfort, however he was a take charge kind of man, and I'm wondering if this is a dominance thing?

The only other guy I've been with never put his hands anywhere near my neck, but he also liked to be spooned instead of being the spooner.

If this is something that makes you feel uncomfortable, I would be honest and upfront with him at a time that's not a sexual experience. If he realizes it makes you uncomfortable, he will stop doing it.

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