Why does he keep hanging around?

A female age 51-59, anonymous writes:

My ex never told me it was over, he just distant himself.In the beginning it was good. He did things wrong just like I did. There was no cheating and I felt that the only way to get his attention was to lash out at him or leave him silly voice messages. I felt that he wasn't a man to just tell me that it was over. At first it was very painful for me, but now I've learned to deal with it. I asked him could we talk to make sure that we were on the same page to be friends. He kept on putting me off so I didn't ask anymore. I see him at bible study and he stares at me alot like he wants to say something, but he don't know what to say. He will strike up a conversation and talk about things I really don't want to hear. I told him that I had feelings for him still and he said he did to for me and misses me. He also told me that he have begun to smoke again after he quit for a year. He will make it his business to talk to me no matter which side of the room I'm on. Do men that break it off with a woman go on about their business because it's over? Why does he keep hanging around? Is that guilt because he felt like he made a mistake or does he still have feelings and his ego and pride is in the way? I didn't say or do no more than he did. I feel like real men will talk to you after a year of being in a relationship with you. Do he just want me to keep hanging on until he makes up in his mind what he wants. He calls me when he sees me at bible study. I didn't answer the first time. Should I answer when he calls?

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