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writes:Hi everyone, I wanted to know about love. Why does everyone say its my first love so I am very passionate about her(by the way her name is may). I love her very deeply from my heart and will do anything for her. I would give my life if I have to leave her. I met her on the net(i haven't still met her) because she is in another country. I'll get a chance to meet her maybe after an year. I've known her for about 10 months now and I talk to her everyday. I can't stay happy without talking to her. I didn't start loving her because of how beautiful she is, I started loving her because she is the type of person i adore and respect very much. We both want to marry when we finish our studies. I don't like people saying that it's my first or second love. She is my first and last love. She is everything for me, she has made me realize that life is important or else i would have been dead right now. We both cry for each other, we both love each other and make each other happy. There is no feeling greater than her love for me. Many times I get a hint from people that they haven't found anyone like I did that's why they're telling me my love will fade away. But the truth is times come when we miss each other very much and sometimes we don't want to talk because we want to do other things in free time. It doesn't matter because we both know we love each other. I'm not asking you whether my love is true or false, I just want to ask why people consider their first love to eventually end as if they were born to love more than one person in their lives? Because I know, no matter what I will always love her. My love for her keeps growing and doesn't fade like people say. I wish everyone would find their true love not based on physical attraction but by sharing feelings with each other. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): No matter how much we want that person in our life, in the end its time who decides it. No one can forget their first love even though if they move on they will still have special place for first love in their heart.
I can understand things you have gone through and about your mom. Don't be sad. I've been through it. My dad cheated on my mom. Life is never easy , we have to accept whatever comes. I lost my first love, we really loved each other but its time who decides. Sometimes circumstances happen in life that breaks our relation. I never thought I will lost my love but I lost him. Its never easy but life is all about to learn from experiences and to move on. I hope it works out for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): Thankyou everyone for your kind answers, well I guess only time will tell if I am destined to be with her. But still even the thought of leaving her scares me. I've not lived a normal life, I've been away from my family at the time when i needed them the most and I was beaten by the residents in whose home i used to live in. I've changed schools so frequently that i couldn't make friends, and i ended up homeschooling. My mom cheats my dad and he didn't know it for years because mom used to emotionally blackmail me not to tell him(I did tell him eventually a month ago). Because of such hiding and constricting my thoughts i've developed eating disorder(binge-eating) which didn't go away even after the actual reason was solved. May was there for me when i needed her and she still supports me all the time even when she is very busy. I'm quite weak by heart and I get sad quite easily although no one can make out I am sad. I know things never work out the way we plan it to be but my heart is just too weak to accept it :( It's my fault i'm so weak. I've cried for her so much(so has she), I want to hug her everyday and be in her arms so I can forget about everything else. I know she's not perfect and neither am I. But her imperfection is perfect for me, All I want is her.
Mridul(I had asked the question)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 March 2012):
 Don't worry what other think and say. Live and be happy.
Maybe it will last, maybe it won't - all you can do it give it your all and enjoy the ride.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (12 March 2012):
 The world isn't made of cotton candy my friend.
I hope it works out for ya though :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): "Why do people think my relationship will end? She is my first and last love!""I just want to ask why people consider their first love to eventually "Because I know, no matter what I will always love her. My love for her keeps growing and doesn't fade like people say."I wish everyone would find their true love not based on physical attraction but by sharing feelings with each other."ANSWER:Most adults know the reason their first love wasn't their last love is because they have since grown up and now live in the real world where you will be living much sooner than you want to contemplate.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): The chances of your love lasting with how young you are is very unlikely, it very rarely ever works out and that is why so many people are pessimistic about the subject.
You will always love her, she is your first love, but sometimes things (circumstances) happen in life that cause us to drift away from our first love, fall out of touch or something happens to where you break up and don't see each other.
I believe that the love you feel is very real and I hate it when people tell younger people that they don't know what love is, because they do. But to truly understand love comes with age and experience and perhaps you will be with this woman for the rest of your life, but the chances are very low.
GOod luck to you and i hope everything works out for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): It's lovely that you feel this way about May and I hope you end up meeting up with her, fall in love all over again, get married, have children and live happily ever after.
Life doesn't always work out the way we want it to. In fact, it rarely does. I fell in love at 24 with the most wonderful man who I loved because he accepted me the way I am and made me laugh. He was beautiful to me in every way. Fast forward 11 years and he is married to someome else and I am alone. He is my first love and always will be. I never thought I would ever love anyone again but I did. My first love will be special and I will always love him.
You are in love with a girl you have never met, never shared a kiss with, never touched yet you feel so strongly about her. Because of your age, people will say she is your first love but only time will tell whether you will last the distance.
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